No. You're not overreacting. It is just normal. First, calling you a HONEY is inappropriate because you're not a young girl already! It's ok if you're a young girl at around 5 or 6 years old! Next thing is, not telling you what is happening or what they are going to do with your teeth is not the right thing to do. Everytime I go to my dentist, they tell me everytime what they are doing such as, "we need to put some medicine inside your tooth so that you won't feel the aching anymore for the meantime." etc. etc. etc. So you have the right to know what are they doing with your teeth. But the pain of the anesthetia (did I spell it correctly?!) I think it's ok.. I got 3 or 4 shots the last time I went to the doctor since my tooth is aching badly.. And it really hurts.. But it's worth it.. And not to mention my gums are swelling for 1 day straight!
Am I overreacting? sorry, long post.
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That sounds awful, when I got my wisdom teeth out, I had general anesthesia, I can't imagine getting them out with just local anesthesia.
I would have left as well.
I would have left as well.
Well... I think you acted in a very appropriate manner. It's apparent he didn't have his crap together. I've never personally had a problem with any dental procedure because my dentist has been a family friend for over 20 years (lucky me). One important thing to remember (the reason why I say this is because my father has a huge, huge problem doing this) is ask a lot of questions, even when you think any "professional" knows what is going on, just be sure to double check with them so you're both on the same page and then you can avoid the unfortunate situations. But hey, definite kudos for standing up and walking out on that idiot.
Your opinions and advice have really made me feel a lot better. It means a lot to know I'm not crazy and just being a drama queen. To be honest, I really don't like the spotlight on me. And walking out of that office turned a lot of heads, and I'm sure I was talked about after I left. I just hope the manager does something about this. I hope to not see that man ever again. And about the "HONEY" part, what bothered me is the way he called me that name. He could see that I'm not a little girl, he asked me my age 3 times, I could understand that he asked the first time. But asking me two more times while looking at my chart was pretty strange. Just the way he looked at me, in my eyes, and called me "Honey" felt very uncomfortable.
My mother in-law is a very religious woman. And I found my faith through her. She taught me a lot about people and what I could see just by looking at their faces, or even in their eyes. And that doctor...was a demon. He seemed like a pervert. I know what his intentions were when he asked me my age the third time, especially when he called me honey. I didn't like it, I didn't like the situation. I knew inside that I had to leave. And I'm glad you all comply with my reaction. I hope nothing like this happens to anyone. In a way it's almost on the verge of feeling violated. Especially when he wouldn't let me leave, insisting that I should stay because I was already numb. He thought he had control over the situation because I'm young. Not that young, but young. I guess he figured out I'm not as naive as I look. Thank you all for your comments. I hope to find another doctor soon, a professional, well mannered doctor who knows what he's doing and will explain the whole procedure to me before even looking into my mouth.
My mother in-law is a very religious woman. And I found my faith through her. She taught me a lot about people and what I could see just by looking at their faces, or even in their eyes. And that doctor...was a demon. He seemed like a pervert. I know what his intentions were when he asked me my age the third time, especially when he called me honey. I didn't like it, I didn't like the situation. I knew inside that I had to leave. And I'm glad you all comply with my reaction. I hope nothing like this happens to anyone. In a way it's almost on the verge of feeling violated. Especially when he wouldn't let me leave, insisting that I should stay because I was already numb. He thought he had control over the situation because I'm young. Not that young, but young. I guess he figured out I'm not as naive as I look. Thank you all for your comments. I hope to find another doctor soon, a professional, well mannered doctor who knows what he's doing and will explain the whole procedure to me before even looking into my mouth.
I hope to find another doctor soon, a professional, well mannered doctor who knows what he's doing and will explain the whole procedure to me before even looking into my mouth.
I'm sure you will! But be aware next time and know what the doctor will do before you open your mouth!
I would have left too.
It seems like perhaps the doctor was looking at the wrong chart?
You said he asked you your age several times and seemed to think he was taking out your wisdom teeth and not the two he was supposed to take out? Sounds like he had the wrong chart... and that he was fully prepared to act on what he had in front of him!
Calling you honey, no matter what age you are or what age he thinks you are, is entirely innappropriate!
File a complaint with the licensing board in the state where you live. I would.
It seems like perhaps the doctor was looking at the wrong chart?
You said he asked you your age several times and seemed to think he was taking out your wisdom teeth and not the two he was supposed to take out? Sounds like he had the wrong chart... and that he was fully prepared to act on what he had in front of him!
Calling you honey, no matter what age you are or what age he thinks you are, is entirely innappropriate!
File a complaint with the licensing board in the state where you live. I would.
I feel you made the right choice in leaving the dentists chair however the injections do hurt every bit as much as you describe so I am not shocked to read this.
I dont think the dentist calling you hunni was out of line, some people are just like this and although as a health worker myself my training dictates I dont call people hunni, sweetheart etc I cant help it, its my caring nature thats all and I certainly dont mean to offend and think this chap is the same.
He clearly was on edge, not knowing what he was supposed to be doing etc and this to me is the real concern.
Personally I never have a new person do any thing to me. I see the same doctor, dentist etc every time this way your trust is there.
Good luck finding one you feel confident with.
I dont think the dentist calling you hunni was out of line, some people are just like this and although as a health worker myself my training dictates I dont call people hunni, sweetheart etc I cant help it, its my caring nature thats all and I certainly dont mean to offend and think this chap is the same.
He clearly was on edge, not knowing what he was supposed to be doing etc and this to me is the real concern.
Personally I never have a new person do any thing to me. I see the same doctor, dentist etc every time this way your trust is there.
Good luck finding one you feel confident with.
I would have done the same thing if I were you
I don't think you over-reacted at all. I would have the injection sites looked at by somebody, the whole thing sounds very odd to me, and I have extensive experience as a dental patient.
Talk to friends, family, and get some recommendations for a different dentist, and before you even make an appointment, talk to them, tell them about your previous experience, let them know that you are very wary.
If the dentist cannot be bothered to talk to you, choose a different one from your list of recommendations, and make the appointment with one you feel good about, who is sympathetic to what you have gone through.
I would also inquire about the average waiting time, obviously barring some unforseen emergency, and when that happens, usually waiting patients are informed about it, and that the schedule is running a bit behind as a result.
Too many dentists and doctors today practice airline-style "overbooking," some to a greater extent than others, I once went to a specialist who had 20 people in the waiting room, all with 9 AM appointments.
I politely explained that their policy in that regard was not a good mesh with my own schedule, and chose a different doctor!
Talk to friends, family, and get some recommendations for a different dentist, and before you even make an appointment, talk to them, tell them about your previous experience, let them know that you are very wary.
If the dentist cannot be bothered to talk to you, choose a different one from your list of recommendations, and make the appointment with one you feel good about, who is sympathetic to what you have gone through.
I would also inquire about the average waiting time, obviously barring some unforseen emergency, and when that happens, usually waiting patients are informed about it, and that the schedule is running a bit behind as a result.
Too many dentists and doctors today practice airline-style "overbooking," some to a greater extent than others, I once went to a specialist who had 20 people in the waiting room, all with 9 AM appointments.
I politely explained that their policy in that regard was not a good mesh with my own schedule, and chose a different doctor!
Your reaction was totally understandable and if your gut tells you to leave then you follow your gut that's what you do. Honey is inappropriate I think in such a professional setting. But some people use it to refer to everyone, everyone is different.
I had my wisdom teeth extracted when I was 22. It was local anesthesia and gas. I was awake the whole time and the shots hurt like hell. The whole procedure felt like ten to 15 mintues but it really was more like 50-55 mins. Those were some good drugs!!!
I had my wisdom teeth extracted when I was 22. It was local anesthesia and gas. I was awake the whole time and the shots hurt like hell. The whole procedure felt like ten to 15 mintues but it really was more like 50-55 mins. Those were some good drugs!!!
When I spoke to the manager of the dental office she told me that that same doctor would go around and flirt with all the other young employees(yes he calls them "honey). He'd make inappropriate remarks about the way they're dressed and so on. So yea, I think calling him a PEVERT and a DEMON was on point.
It's been four days since the incident and my jaw is still very sore and all he did was inject novacane in my mouth. I have trouble chewing sometimes because of the pain. I'm going to have to schedule an appt with my regular physician to see what's up.
I'll definitely be looking for a new dentist first thing next week. I should have been calling around this week but too much to deal with with the kids' appts.
It's been four days since the incident and my jaw is still very sore and all he did was inject novacane in my mouth. I have trouble chewing sometimes because of the pain. I'm going to have to schedule an appt with my regular physician to see what's up.
I'll definitely be looking for a new dentist first thing next week. I should have been calling around this week but too much to deal with with the kids' appts.