A very personal question, recieved via PM

  1. I received this question via PM.

    I have never been able to get pleasure from self-stimulation. I have normal, healthy sexual relationships and I enjoy sex. Yet, I cannot pleasure myself. It just tickles. When I talk to my friends about it, they seem incredulous, as if it's impossible for someone not to enjoy such a thing. Is the cause of me not enjoying myself physical or mental?
  2. I don't think it is a problem. I think to be able to enjoy sex with a man is more important than masterbation.
    Lots of self-stimulation is actually not good for your health.
  3. :confused1:
  4. Try Porno and toys. Seriously.

    "I'm gonna die" "I'm gonna die"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  6. PLEASE don't listen to her. :tdown:

    In fact, one of the best ways to learn about what pleases you is to masturbate. As another poster said, toys and videos are a great way to start, and there are books that can even teach you how to achieve what you want in that area.

    I'd do a google search on the topic, too- there are lots of informative websites. There is nothing wrong with doing it!! It is entirely your choice!

  7. aside from getting carpel tunnel sydrome (:roflmfao:), I think it is just fine for my health. ;)
  8. I would say it's mental. My advice would be to try it while alone and RELAX RELAX RELAX. I agree with the toys. I suggest The Pocket Rocket. Trust me on this.:shame:

    And if it was bad for your health, I'd be a goner by now :graucho:
  9. OMFG..I just saw this thread.....
    Im with Selena.....get some toys...LOL....
  10. LMAO!!!

    Ok, so the HMW in my screen name is actually pretty funny:


    Get one. Seriously. :graucho:

    (when I got divorced the guy I was dating long distance bought me one. since then he recently bought me a Tiffany diamond ring. . . man knows his toys :tup:)

    It's good for backs too :yes:
  11. LOLOL. My bf bought me a "toy" and it went dead after 3 minutes, but it is pretty to look at all pink and glittery. WE use it as art.
  12. LOL, just LOL. I'm not going to say anything else beyond this, otherwise I'm going to be banned.
  13. :roflmfao::roflmfao: awesome!!!
  14. :huh:


  15. I don't know why it wouldn't be good for your health. I consider it a normal healthy thing to do. And it's usually better than a man to me, at least on a purely sexual level not including the intimacy part.

    Do you have orgasms when you have sex with your boyfriend or do you just like the way it feels to be with him?