So the situation is I've had a phone call to let me know my Nan probably won't last the day. She had a massive stroke two weeks ago. My dilema is do I let my ex know - either now or when she does pass. My Nan was never told what he did to me (by this time she was a bit frail and started to get a bit confused) and I know he thought my Nan was smashing - typical Northern Irish Mammy. Kept us all in line with her straight talking. what would you do - Do I have some sort of moral obligation to let him know or is it a case of he isn't part of my family anymore therefore would he even be interested in knowing. Do I even owe him that phone call? A bit of a damned if I do and damned if I don't situation!