I get the compliments then excuses alot from other people. I don't think I am very dressy alot of the times but my friends and aquaintances around me think I do. They'll always say they don't have time to go shop like me or they don't have the extra money because they have bills to pay...etc., etc. I always have to reply saying I also have bills to pay it's just I spend and save my money wisely, therefore I have extras here and there to buy nice things for myself and others.

i don't dress nice daily... usually boring clothes and what's funny is , i don't have time to look for what to wear and its usually what's newly washed and hanging there that i grab most of the time...
for work, most of the time its a top/ skirt or top/ pants ... boring...
on the weekend though, that's when i have fun and forget about my boring work clothes!!!

but i haven't had anybody comment on how they look though.. maybe because its a small office / city and nobody cares really....
ive had this comments when i visit bigger cities like Los angeles, chicago where people are more conscious!!!

I wish I was one of those women that always looked put together and chic and elegant...but I'm just not. I compliment other women all of the time, but I don't make excuses for how I look. It just is what it is, lol.

Originally Posted by Twinny

Hmmm..... maybe I should try that to gain self confidence .

It really does change my whole outlook on the day, maybe im just a little weird but when I feel like "hey i look pretty good today (even if i feel self conscious about like my baby belly or how i hate being short which is a daily ugh) it gives me the confidence and boost even if Im just around the house

I've definitely experienced this.

My life really doesn't call for "getting dressed up" on a daily basis, but I do try and look pulled together- it makes me feel like I'm ready to start the day confidently. Even on days when I'm feeling lazy, I know I have things in my closet that are easy and not sloppy. Sweat pants outside the house/gym aren't allowed for me. Obviously you wear what you buy, and I choose to buy things that I feel fantastic in.

It does quite bother me when people comment on it, because I know they're looking for me to either talk myself down, or feel bad for them; neither of which I want to do. I get especially uncomfortable when I'm out with my boyfriend's friend's girlfriends- they all wear pajamas and/or sweats and talk about how "loaded" I am because I'm wearing skinnies, boots, and a cute top. I'm definitely not loaded- just know how to shop at Targét and find a good deal at Nordstrom Rack :P

Just because I take the extra five seconds to button up a shirt or put on flats instead of ratty, old, fuzzy slippers shouldn't make me a target!

Originally Posted by chicjean

... I get especially uncomfortable when I'm out with my boyfriend's friend's girlfriends- they all wear pajamas and/or sweats and talk about how "loaded" I am because I'm wearing skinnies, boots, and a cute top. I'm definitely not loaded- just know how to shop at Targét and find a good deal at Nordstrom Rack :P...

Are they serious? I can't believe they would say that!

Totally agree with many of you! My "casual" uniform is tailored denim (whether skinny or trouser-like), a blouse (not a tee shirt), great shoes, and a coordinating handbag, and almost always throw on a cute little jacket. Most often in a dress or skirt. I get asked what I'm dressed up for all of the time! What? I DO feel like I need to defend my "vanity"-it's so silly! First of all, I'm chronically ill, I don't feel well enough to do my makeup and hair, and I have back and leg pain but it's not worsened by hot shoes or lessened by "sensible" shoes. But looking good makes you feel good-period. It just does. It makes sense. And investing the time to understand what makes clothing well made, where you can find the best price, how to put together an outfit, etc etc. It's not a scam to pay attention to the fashion industry, rather, it's an investment in yourself!

Lexy

I have a colleague who, EVERYTIME she sees me, tells me how sleepy/tired/exhausted she is, after admiring something I am wearing. She's single and lives with her cat, and I have three young children! I take it as an excuse for her sloppy dressing.

Originally Posted by Caribeandiva

Are they serious? I can't believe they would say that!

Unfortunately, yes. It's super awkward. You'd think after hanging out with them for over two years, they'd be over it!

Originally Posted by pro_princess

But looking good makes you feel good-period. It just does. It makes sense. And investing the time to understand what makes clothing well made, where you can find the best price, how to put together an outfit, etc etc. It's not a scam to pay attention to the fashion industry, rather, it's an investment in yourself!

Couldn't agree more with this!! I don't think you need to spend a lot of money to look good and feel good about yourself! Obviously, sometimes it's fun to splurge... like on gorgeous designer bags...

I honestly don't care what they say.... or how they dress....

but usually I'm not that snappy lol, I just think like that, so I'll make up some random excuse for complimenting them to make them feel good.

People say these things with much of the time wanting others to praise them

I experience this too. I love fashion and styling so I do make an extra effort even in casual situations, and I feel good about that. To each their own and I don't care how others dress, but please don't give me the stink eye for looking pulled together.

I dress up for work (Mon-Wed) and for church but I dress more casually during the other days of the week. I usually go makeup free on my off days too. When the school year started, I attended a meeting at my kids' school on a day I wasn't working. I complimented another mom - who always dresses up, wears a full face of makeup, and has her hair/nails done - on her outfit and said, "You always look so stylish!" She replied, "Thank you! And you always look so... natural!"

^^LOL

Originally Posted by HermesNewbie

I dress up for work (Mon-Wed) and for church but I dress more casually during the other days of the week. I usually go makeup free on my off days too. When the school year started, I attended a meeting at my kids' school on a day I wasn't working. I complimented another mom - who always dresses up, wears a full face of makeup, and has her hair/nails done - on her outfit and said, "You always look so stylish!" She replied, "Thank you! And you always look so... natural!"

I hear that at work often. Partly because the bosses make an effort to praise my appearance. When they hired me they said they wanted me to dress the way I did at my interview (just a Lane Bryant suit and low heels, but hey) to "encourage" the rest of the staff to pick up their game. I said, "I pretty much always dress like this. I think looking sloppy encourages you to act sloppy!"
I know the dress code for the counselors and all is pretty casual, but I think lots of people could make a bit of effort.
Whatever, it's actually part of my job, so ... I AM the first one everyone sees. Clients, Board Members, City, State and County officials. Just as I strive to sound uber-professional on the phone and in correspondence, I try to present myself that way, too.
If you choose not to do so, well.... that's your problem, isn't it?