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queennadine · Aug 14th, 2009, 03:31 PM

DH and I looked at rings while we were still dating and he knew the general style I liked: no solitairs or 3 stone rings, white gold or platinum, etc.

He ended up having a setting custom made which consisted of a center stone and 2 smaller stones on each side. And I absolutely loved it!

Then I got bitten by the "upgrade bug" and initially just wanted to change the setting but keep the original solitaire. DH didn't want me messing with his "creation", so to speak, so he told me to just get a whole new ring! Which I did!

But I think it's extremely important for the guy to be in tune with what his future fiance/wife wants. If I were to do it all over again, I would pick out my own ring.

dell · Aug 14th, 2009, 03:42 PM

I actually picked my first ring, and he has been a part of all of the upgrades!

gabz · Aug 14th, 2009, 07:46 PM

We looked at a lot of styles then dh had his best friends dad make my ring I absolutely love it I wasn't surprised but it was still romantic when he proposed after getting the ring plus this way he knew I would really like it

TylerDurden · Aug 16th, 2009, 12:30 AM

I think it should be a surprise as well, personally when I propose I think I'll do it without a ring and then pick one out together after the fact.

bagladyseattle · Aug 16th, 2009, 10:45 PM

I am little bit old fashion regarding this. I think the guys should pick out the ring for the proposal. The minimium that the guys should know is the cut, clarity, color, and size that his GF like. The ring should be a surprise and romantic. The guys can just for the simple setting.... later they can pick the setting together.

vuittonamour · Aug 16th, 2009, 10:58 PM

my bf just wants to make sure i am happy with this ring i will be wearing for a very long time. maybe sometime in the very distant future i will end up with a new setting, but as far as the diamond is concerned i will keep it and perhaps re-set it in a necklace or a right hand ring and upgrade my diamond. my SO is adorable and i know he tries hard (it took him a couple hours just to decide what necklace to buy me for christmas last year) but style wise with jewelry, i am not sure he really knows mine. some men just don't pay attention to that stuff. he will get better as time goes on, but we don't get to go into jewelry stores together very often because money's been tight (so no reason for us to walk into somewhere looking at things we can't afford). i'd like for him to pick it out on his own and be surprised when he gives it to me, but at the same time i want to make sure i love it, as does he. so we'll pick it out together, put it on layaway, so i will know it's there. but i won't know when it's done being paid for, and when it will end up on my finger. so in a way, yes, it will still be a surprise.

missD · Aug 17th, 2009, 12:02 AM

The couple should go shopping together, browse all the styles, girl picks one and then boy goes out and secretly buys it when the time is right.

Stella Fleuret · Aug 17th, 2009, 05:03 PM

Originally Posted by ducky112

I've let my boyfriend know what sorta styles I like so he should know what to pick out

I would do the same if I had a BF! We would probably research it and then talk about what designs/styles, etc. I like. And then I would send him off on his own to look at it IRL. Then hopefully surprise me. I'm waiting anxiously for that day to happen. XD

alatrop · Aug 18th, 2009, 09:53 AM

Originally Posted by missD

The couple should go shopping together, browse all the styles, girl picks one and then boy goes out and secretly buys it when the time is right.

This is exactly what my boyfriend and I are doing. I have one picked out...I think he might have bought it recently

ChiChi143 · Aug 18th, 2009, 11:13 AM

My boyfriend and I looked at a bunch of different styles and I narrowed it down to a few that I loved. I told him to take it from there and pick one out of the ones I narrowed it down to.

caxe · Aug 19th, 2009, 08:37 PM

I didn't pick out my engagement ring because I didn't know that my husband wanted to get married. It was a surprise, but when he gave it to me he told me that, if I didn't like it, I could exchange it. I was like, No way! My ring is very modest, but it's the thought that counts! My husband doesn't know a lot about jewelry, so if I'd been involved in the process I MIGHT have gotten something different, but...I like my ring and never even plan to upgrade. We did pick out bands together, though.

Aug 14th, 2009, 03:31 PM	#46
queennadine Life♥Love♥LV Joined: Dec 2008 Location: FL but my ♥ is in Germany Posts: 1,823	DH and I looked at rings while we were still dating and he knew the general style I liked: no solitairs or 3 stone rings, white gold or platinum, etc. He ended up having a setting custom made which consisted of a center stone and 2 smaller stones on each side. And I absolutely loved it! Then I got bitten by the "upgrade bug" and initially just wanted to change the setting but keep the original solitaire. DH didn't want me messing with his "creation", so to speak, so he told me to just get a whole new ring! Which I did! But I think it's extremely important for the guy to be in tune with what his future fiance/wife wants. If I were to do it all over again, I would pick out my own ring.
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Aug 14th, 2009, 03:42 PM	#47
dell Lovin My Little Girl Joined: May 2007 Location: Colorado Posts: 6,192	I actually picked my first ring, and he has been a part of all of the upgrades!
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Aug 14th, 2009, 07:46 PM	#48
gabz Returning to Tiffany Joined: Jun 2007 Location: Canada Eh! Posts: 2,516	We looked at a lot of styles then dh had his best friends dad make my ring I absolutely love it I wasn't surprised but it was still romantic when he proposed after getting the ring plus this way he knew I would really like it
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Aug 16th, 2009, 10:45 PM	#50
bagladyseattle Member Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 882	I am little bit old fashion regarding this. I think the guys should pick out the ring for the proposal. The minimium that the guys should know is the cut, clarity, color, and size that his GF like. The ring should be a surprise and romantic. The guys can just for the simple setting.... later they can pick the setting together.
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Aug 16th, 2009, 10:58 PM	#51
vuittonamour ooh let me see! Joined: Dec 2006 Location: new jersey Posts: 5,228	my bf just wants to make sure i am happy with this ring i will be wearing for a very long time. maybe sometime in the very distant future i will end up with a new setting, but as far as the diamond is concerned i will keep it and perhaps re-set it in a necklace or a right hand ring and upgrade my diamond. my SO is adorable and i know he tries hard (it took him a couple hours just to decide what necklace to buy me for christmas last year) but style wise with jewelry, i am not sure he really knows mine. some men just don't pay attention to that stuff. he will get better as time goes on, but we don't get to go into jewelry stores together very often because money's been tight (so no reason for us to walk into somewhere looking at things we can't afford). i'd like for him to pick it out on his own and be surprised when he gives it to me, but at the same time i want to make sure i love it, as does he. so we'll pick it out together, put it on layaway, so i will know it's there. but i won't know when it's done being paid for, and when it will end up on my finger. so in a way, yes, it will still be a surprise.
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Aug 16th, 2009, 12:30 AM	#49
TylerDurden Member Joined: Sep 2008 Location: Hawaii Posts: 675	I think it should be a surprise as well, personally when I propose I think I'll do it without a ring and then pick one out together after the fact.

Aug 17th, 2009, 12:02 AM	#52
missD Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 810	The couple should go shopping together, browse all the styles, girl picks one and then boy goes out and secretly buys it when the time is right.
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Aug 18th, 2009, 11:13 AM	#55
ChiChi143 ♥ Soon to be Mrs. ♥ Joined: Jun 2007 Location: New York Posts: 9,287	My boyfriend and I looked at a bunch of different styles and I narrowed it down to a few that I loved. I told him to take it from there and pick one out of the ones I narrowed it down to.
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Aug 19th, 2009, 08:37 PM	#56
caxe Established 1976 Joined: Mar 2007 Location: The Southeast, US Posts: 4,983	I didn't pick out my engagement ring because I didn't know that my husband wanted to get married. It was a surprise, but when he gave it to me he told me that, if I didn't like it, I could exchange it. I was like, No way! My ring is very modest, but it's the thought that counts! My husband doesn't know a lot about jewelry, so if I'd been involved in the process I MIGHT have gotten something different, but...I like my ring and never even plan to upgrade. We did pick out bands together, though.
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