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meechelley · Feb 15th, 2009, 03:24 AM

So I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now and we both know we want to get married. I found him looking at engagement rings lately and hes been asking me about things related to rings =P. I'm not a jewelry person and the only thing I wear everyday is the necklace he gave me our first valentines together. I was wondering if it would be wrong or inappropriate to have a non diamond engagement ring. Although they are pretty, I'm not sure how much I would like a big stone extruding from my finger. I have fallen in love with the Chanel camelia ring with the diamond leaf and I was wondering if its too weird to have that as an engagement ring.

Any advice would be much appreciated! TIA

mjlover1977 · Feb 15th, 2009, 04:28 AM

its not to weird at all ... you just have to think ... is that the ring that will last you for the rest of your life? Diamonds are hard and wear well ... You could choose an alternative like a coloured stone?? Or just a band with some little pave diamonds all over it?

Congrats too - its the best feeling in the world when you get engaged!

Jenna51580 · Feb 15th, 2009, 05:18 AM

I think for you engagement ring you should have whatever you want. While a diamond is the most common it is not for everyone.

Sass · Feb 15th, 2009, 06:35 AM

Have a look at pricescope, there is a ton of girls who have non dimond engagment rings and they are beautiful. Actually i have learnt through them that sometimes these stones can be more expensive due to how rare they are!

http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/forum.asp?forumID=11

lvuittonaddict · Feb 15th, 2009, 10:13 AM

i was actually looking at engagement rings with my friend the other day. and i asked if alot of people were opting non diamonds, or colored stones. and the SA said that they are becoming increasingly more popular. but i agree that it should be whatever you like, as you will be wearing it everyday....wouldnt make sense to have one you didnt care for, right?

Swanky Mama Of Three · Feb 15th, 2009, 12:05 PM

I don't think it's weird per se. . . but I do encourage you to think way ahead. Is it possible at all you'll wish you had a slightly more traditional ring?
Even just a pretty band or a smaller very low profile stone - diamond or not?

meechelley · Feb 16th, 2009, 05:39 PM

Thank you for all the advice! I'll definitely think about having a diamond ring a little more since it is known for being a heavy duty stone. I hadn't thought of it that way ^__^!

ChineseGoddess · Feb 16th, 2009, 05:45 PM

If you are especially hard on your jewelry, consider getting the diamond bezel mounted. That way, it will sit lower on your finger and not have such a high profile.

solange · Feb 16th, 2009, 05:48 PM

I didn't want a diamond in my engagement ring, and the ring my husband proposed with was not at all typical in design. It's very different, but it's very me. While nothing is harder than a diamond, there are many durable gemstones. If it feels right, go for it!

You're the one who has to wear it. So don't worry if it's weird; make sure you love it.

to_the_nines · Feb 16th, 2009, 10:53 PM

Get whatever you want! As long as you love it, who cares what others think. While diamonds are the hardest, there are plenty of other durable stones out there. . . Congrats on the pending engagement!

heat97 · Feb 18th, 2009, 06:32 AM

^^^^ i completely agree!!

jan228 · Feb 18th, 2009, 08:51 AM

You don't have to get a diamond, that's just the norm for most people.

I have some friends who recently got engaged. They looked at all types of engagement rings, diamonds and all. In the end, she said that diamonds just weren't her thing, and they ended up getting a very inexpensive silver band with some kind of green inlay. She's very Bohemian, and it just fit her style better.

lilach · Feb 18th, 2009, 02:37 PM

wear what ypu love albeit i personally would find the chanel camelia to much like a cocktail/fun ring .
it is very personal though but for an enagement ring one has to conisder if the design works with a wedding band and if you would love it in the years to come and also want to wear it daily (almost daily)

KittyBag · Feb 18th, 2009, 02:52 PM

I said the same thing.. no diamonds for me. BF got me a magnificant blue sapphire set in the middle of two lovely tear drop shaped diamonds. And it's still my favorite piece of jewelry and I still wear it every day.

I agree with the other advice -- get what you love! AND... thats not to say that your engagement ring will be the last ring you ever get.

Feb 15th, 2009, 03:24 AM	#1
meechelley OP Member Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 264	Question about engagement rings So I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years now and we both know we want to get married. I found him looking at engagement rings lately and hes been asking me about things related to rings =P. I'm not a jewelry person and the only thing I wear everyday is the necklace he gave me our first valentines together. I was wondering if it would be wrong or inappropriate to have a non diamond engagement ring. Although they are pretty, I'm not sure how much I would like a big stone extruding from my finger. I have fallen in love with the Chanel camelia ring with the diamond leaf and I was wondering if its too weird to have that as an engagement ring. Any advice would be much appreciated! TIA
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Feb 15th, 2009, 04:28 AM	#2
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Feb 15th, 2009, 05:18 AM	#3
Jenna51580 Member Joined: May 2007 Location: Athens, Greece and Long Island, New York Posts: 1,461	I think for you engagement ring you should have whatever you want. While a diamond is the most common it is not for everyone.
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Feb 15th, 2009, 06:35 AM	#4
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Feb 15th, 2009, 10:13 AM	#5
lvuittonaddict Avada Kadavra Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Bethesda, MD Posts: 3,643	i was actually looking at engagement rings with my friend the other day. and i asked if alot of people were opting non diamonds, or colored stones. and the SA said that they are becoming increasingly more popular. but i agree that it should be whatever you like, as you will be wearing it everyday....wouldnt make sense to have one you didnt care for, right?
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Feb 15th, 2009, 12:05 PM	#6
Swanky Mama Of Three Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Dallas Area Posts: 42,700	I don't think it's weird per se. . . but I do encourage you to think way ahead. Is it possible at all you'll wish you had a slightly more traditional ring? Even just a pretty band or a smaller very low profile stone - diamond or not?
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Feb 16th, 2009, 05:39 PM	#7
meechelley OP Member Joined: Sep 2008 Posts: 264	Thank you for all the advice! I'll definitely think about having a diamond ring a little more since it is known for being a heavy duty stone. I hadn't thought of it that way ^__^!
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Feb 16th, 2009, 05:45 PM	#8
ChineseGoddess Keepin' it real. ;) Joined: Feb 2009 Location: New Orleans Posts: 163	If you are especially hard on your jewelry, consider getting the diamond bezel mounted. That way, it will sit lower on your finger and not have such a high profile.

Feb 16th, 2009, 05:48 PM	#9
solange Member Joined: Sep 2007 Posts: 65	I didn't want a diamond in my engagement ring, and the ring my husband proposed with was not at all typical in design. It's very different, but it's very me. While nothing is harder than a diamond, there are many durable gemstones. If it feels right, go for it! You're the one who has to wear it. So don't worry if it's weird; make sure you love it.
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Feb 16th, 2009, 10:53 PM	#10
to_the_nines Member Joined: May 2007 Location: Somewhere in the desert Posts: 699	Get whatever you want! As long as you love it, who cares what others think. While diamonds are the hardest, there are plenty of other durable stones out there. . . Congrats on the pending engagement!

Feb 18th, 2009, 06:32 AM	#11
heat97 Member Joined: Nov 2006 Location: NYC Posts: 1,880	^^^^ i completely agree!!
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Feb 18th, 2009, 08:51 AM	#12
jan228 Sofa King Banned Joined: May 2008 Posts: 1,650	You don't have to get a diamond, that's just the norm for most people. I have some friends who recently got engaged. They looked at all types of engagement rings, diamonds and all. In the end, she said that diamonds just weren't her thing, and they ended up getting a very inexpensive silver band with some kind of green inlay. She's very Bohemian, and it just fit her style better.
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Feb 18th, 2009, 02:37 PM	#13
lilach diva on duty Joined: May 2006 Location: Kingdom Far Far Away Posts: 4,538	wear what ypu love albeit i personally would find the chanel camelia to much like a cocktail/fun ring . it is very personal though but for an enagement ring one has to conisder if the design works with a wedding band and if you would love it in the years to come and also want to wear it daily (almost daily)
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Feb 18th, 2009, 02:52 PM	#14
KittyBag Settling in... Joined: Mar 2006 Location: Smaller Apple (north of NYC) Posts: 3,604	I said the same thing.. no diamonds for me. BF got me a magnificant blue sapphire set in the middle of two lovely tear drop shaped diamonds. And it's still my favorite piece of jewelry and I still wear it every day. I agree with the other advice -- get what you love! AND... thats not to say that your engagement ring will be the last ring you ever get.
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