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pmptrading · May 8th, 2008, 08:10 PM

Hello All,
Talking to a friend last night and she revealed that when her DH argues with her .... and it gets nasty.... he asks for the ering back.....

I sort of thought this was very strange.....

Any similar tales here?

galligator · May 8th, 2008, 08:24 PM

In 19 years, never. Don't think it would occur to him to try to take back the most visible talisman of his love & commitment. Symbols can be powerful things & messing with this one is not a good sign IMO.

Swanky Mama Of Three · May 8th, 2008, 08:30 PM

OMG!! NO, absolutely not.

What a child

queenvictoria2 · May 8th, 2008, 08:36 PM

Wow. No not ever!

Plain&Simple · May 8th, 2008, 08:47 PM

thats horrible! such a symbol of love and affection...its like hes taking the relationship away, if that makes sense

Junkenpo · May 8th, 2008, 08:55 PM

hmm... i don't think he can ask for it back, legally... isn't an e-ring a gift? If they didn't get married, i think the man can get the e-ring back...but if she went and actually married him, doesn't that fulfill the promise?

Anyway... he sounds like an immature dumba**. She should leave him, hock the ring & buy something else with the $$.

twigski · May 8th, 2008, 09:34 PM

No. If he did, I'd be like here it is + goodbye.

Plain&Simple · May 8th, 2008, 09:41 PM

^ lol agreed

Sina · May 8th, 2008, 09:48 PM

That's low and immature.

shallow-ish · May 8th, 2008, 10:11 PM

What? Surely it can't be returned once you're married? I think if you break off the engagement the mature thing to do is to return it, but after the wedding, all bets are off.

eckertle · May 8th, 2008, 10:31 PM

I don't even know what I would do if my fiance ever asked for the ring back. He very well might get it back if those words ever came out of his mouth!

LV Rawks · May 9th, 2008, 12:03 AM

Not even once in the 13 years that I have been wearing it.

HauteMama · May 9th, 2008, 12:12 AM

Absolutely NOT.

I've heard of spouses threatening divorce during arguments, too, which I find unspeakably horrifying. Divorce is deadly serious - the shattering of a family - not a threat to be tossed around. The word should never be spoken unless it is a reality.

Either one of those things happening would be a dealbreaker for me. Anyone who would do either would clearly NOT be the right person for me.

burberryprncess · May 9th, 2008, 12:37 AM

Yeah, once you're married, the ring belongs to the wife.

yellowtulip · May 9th, 2008, 03:20 AM

asking for it back is low. that's not the thing you even joke around about. even threatening divorce no matter how heated an argument gets is something that reflects really poorly on his character.

May 8th, 2008, 08:10 PM	#1
pmptrading OP Sofa King Banned Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 44	In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? Hello All, Talking to a friend last night and she revealed that when her DH argues with her .... and it gets nasty.... he asks for the ering back..... I sort of thought this was very strange..... Any similar tales here?

May 8th, 2008, 08:24 PM	#2
galligator Mostly Harmless Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,375	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? In 19 years, never. Don't think it would occur to him to try to take back the most visible talisman of his love & commitment. Symbols can be powerful things & messing with this one is not a good sign IMO.
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May 8th, 2008, 08:30 PM	#3
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May 8th, 2008, 08:36 PM	#4
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May 8th, 2008, 08:47 PM	#5
Plain&Simple JR Dressage Queen Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,529	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? thats horrible! such a symbol of love and affection...its like hes taking the relationship away, if that makes sense
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May 8th, 2008, 08:55 PM	#6
Junkenpo LVoebird! Joined: Jan 2007 Location: 2500 miles from any continental landmass Posts: 3,062	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? hmm... i don't think he can ask for it back, legally... isn't an e-ring a gift? If they didn't get married, i think the man can get the e-ring back...but if she went and actually married him, doesn't that fulfill the promise? Anyway... he sounds like an immature dumba**. She should leave him, hock the ring & buy something else with the $$.
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May 8th, 2008, 09:34 PM	#7
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May 8th, 2008, 09:41 PM	#8
Plain&Simple JR Dressage Queen Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,529	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? ^ lol agreed
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May 8th, 2008, 09:48 PM	#9
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May 8th, 2008, 10:11 PM	#10
shallow-ish Member Joined: Apr 2008 Location: Sunny SoCal Posts: 485	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? What? Surely it can't be returned once you're married? I think if you break off the engagement the mature thing to do is to return it, but after the wedding, all bets are off.

May 8th, 2008, 10:31 PM	#11
eckertle tPF addict Joined: Jun 2007 Location: the South Posts: 1,349	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? I don't even know what I would do if my fiance ever asked for the ring back. He very well might get it back if those words ever came out of his mouth!

May 9th, 2008, 12:03 AM	#12
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May 9th, 2008, 12:12 AM	#13
HauteMama Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,839	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? Absolutely NOT. I've heard of spouses threatening divorce during arguments, too, which I find unspeakably horrifying. Divorce is deadly serious - the shattering of a family - not a threat to be tossed around. The word should never be spoken unless it is a reality. Either one of those things happening would be a dealbreaker for me. Anyone who would do either would clearly NOT be the right person for me.
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May 9th, 2008, 12:37 AM	#14
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May 9th, 2008, 03:20 AM	#15
yellowtulip Member Joined: Apr 2008 Posts: 602	Re: In anger... does your DH ask for the ering back? asking for it back is low. that's not the thing you even joke around about. even threatening divorce no matter how heated an argument gets is something that reflects really poorly on his character.
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