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SuLi · Jun 1st, 2007, 08:40 AM

I've been engaged for a month and a half now. I have this weird thing - I still can't bring myself to wash my hands with my ring on! I always take my ring off when I wash my hands and wait until my lotion dries before I place the ring back on. And, because I am a camel (I drink at least 3 liters of water a day), I have to use the ladies room often. I feel like I should say that about two weeks after I got my ring, there was a little problem with it (I've detailed it in another thread on the forum, but basically, my ring is platinum and these yellow spots appeared in the metal setting), which has now been fixed. Since then, I've been even more cautious.

Am I being crazy or overly cautious (or both, really)? Has anyone else babied their ring in the beginning? I know my ring should be really durable as it is platinum, but I can't seem to wrap my mind around washing my hands with the ring on.

Crystalina · Jun 1st, 2007, 08:44 AM

Hi, Suli!

I have seen pics of your ring and it is GORGEOUS! However, I strongly urge you to NOT take it off when washing your hands. A friend of mine was doing the same thing a couple years back (she had a $13,000 ring) because she didn't want any soap building up a film on it. Long story short, she once forgot to put her ring back on in a mall bathroom. When she went back to look for it, it was GONE!
I know you are probably thinking "I'm so cautious, that won't ever happen to me." It might not, but it MIGHT! Not to mention, you could acciendentally drop it, heaven forbid, and it ends up down a drain.
Keep it on all the time unless you are at home.
Also, do what I do. I only put lotion on at night when I am not wearing my ring so I dont have to deal with lotion building up on the gold or the stone.

Sina · Jun 1st, 2007, 09:30 AM

^ I get really scared of forgetting my ring or of having it drop in the drain! =(

littlelysser · Jun 1st, 2007, 09:32 AM

I totally understand how you are feeling...but I agree with the others...

First off - you have to figure that a nice warm, soapy bath is going to make your diamond sparklie and happy.

Second - you could drop it down the drain, forget it, have it stolen...Ugh! Just not worth it. Some soap and water definitely will NOT hurt your baby!

Hey - what was the cause of the problems with the platinum? I remember reading about it, but had no idea what could cause it. Just wondering.

SuLi · Jun 1st, 2007, 09:53 AM

Originally Posted by littlelysser

I totally understand how you are feeling...but I agree with the others...

First off - you have to figure that a nice warm, soapy bath is going to make your diamond sparklie and happy.

Second - you could drop it down the drain, forget it, have it stolen...Ugh! Just not worth it. Some soap and water definitely will NOT hurt your baby!

Hey - what was the cause of the problems with the platinum? I remember reading about it, but had no idea what could cause it. Just wondering.

Thanks for saying that I'm not outright "crazy" everyone.

My FI and I met with the jeweler who made my ring a few weeks ago. Since she was pregnant at the time she made my ring, she outsourced the setting of the stones (normally, she would take care of it). While she has separate tools for different metals that she uses, she believes that he may have used a tool that had remanants of yellow gold - and that's how those yellow spots got embedded in the metal. I'm not sure what she did, but she got it all off. We figure that if it happens again, we would definitely insist on the ring being remade since it seems like the platinum was contaminated. For now, everything is fine.

Couturegrl · Jun 1st, 2007, 11:00 AM

LOL Suli You are not being crazy :)

However, I would be nervous taking my ring off every time I washed my hands b/c (as someone posted earlier) it could go down the drain! OMG I would FREAK out!!

bgcutiepie00 · Jun 1st, 2007, 12:19 PM

SuLi I did the same thing when we were first engaged by taking my ring off every time I washed my hands. I was told repeatedly to stop doing it so I wouldn't lose it. I thought yeah, I wouldn't forget....well it did happen I left it in the bathroom at the doctors office and remembered right after the next person went in there, thankfully it was still there after she came out though.

Then my hubby (about 3 weeks after we were married) took his ring off to wash his hands in a very nice resturant in our town and forgot it. Unfortunately, it was gone by the time he remembered it.

I think its totally normal to baby your enagement ring though, but I almost always leave my rings on now when washing my hands..just took me a while to feel that it was ok though!

lv-lover · Jun 1st, 2007, 12:43 PM

Originally Posted by Sina

^ I get really scared of forgetting my ring or of having it drop in the drain! =(

Augh, what horror! Now I'm afraid also, but I'm not even engaged!

I think the urge to baby your ring will dissipate as time progresses.

oo_let_me_see · Jun 1st, 2007, 12:47 PM

I don't take my ring off either. Way too afraid of leaving it behind. =O

bagshopr · Jun 1st, 2007, 01:24 PM

Don't take it off unless you are going swimming in a chlorinated pool or are going to be doing heavy cleaning with chemicals. Soap and water will not hurt your ring.
I never take mine off, and now I don't even know I have it on. You will get used to it, I promise.
I have been married for 22 years!

kristie · Jun 1st, 2007, 03:01 PM

Please please please leave your ring on when you wash your hands. One of my friends, who is super responsible always took her ring off to wash her hands and she came to my house once and left it on the sink! I found it hours after she had left and she was frantic with worry! Can you imagine if it had been left at a restaurant bathroom or something???? Soap and water will not hurt your ring at all.

MassLaw15 · Jun 1st, 2007, 10:00 PM

For safety, KEEP IT ON! You can always clean (or have it cleaned) the soap residue!

Imagine the horror if you lost it?

My ring is from 1780, yes 1780 & I wash it all the time.

log47 · Jun 1st, 2007, 11:23 PM

you're definitely not psycho for wanting to take it off every time you wash your hands/use lotion, etc. however, a friend of mine did this, and just a couple weeks ago LOST IT

and she'd only had it for 3 months...to make matters worse, her future MIL had seen her take it off the day before and told her not to do it or "she may lose it" eek! thankfully, it was fully insured and now she's waiting on the replacement. someone in a pa wal-mart parking lot hit the jackpot.

socalgem · Jun 2nd, 2007, 12:24 AM

Try baby steps at home. Like having your ring on and letting water run on it and then go from there.

I don't take my ring off. It cost too much money and is one of a kind..I would be very sad if I forgot it.

JoeyJo21 · Jun 2nd, 2007, 10:19 AM

I know how you feel, I'm the same with mine! With mine being an older ring (and recently with a loose diamond) I'm scared the washing it under the water will cause a stone to drop out down the drain. At home I take the ring off when I wash my hands, but when I'm out and about I keep it on for fear of loosing it (I've done that before too, but luckily got it back before it was taken).

Jun 1st, 2007, 08:40 AM	#1
SuLi OP Member Joined: Nov 2005 Location: Washington DC Metro area Posts: 7,315	Am I being overly cautious? I've been engaged for a month and a half now. I have this weird thing - I still can't bring myself to wash my hands with my ring on! I always take my ring off when I wash my hands and wait until my lotion dries before I place the ring back on. And, because I am a camel (I drink at least 3 liters of water a day), I have to use the ladies room often. I feel like I should say that about two weeks after I got my ring, there was a little problem with it (I've detailed it in another thread on the forum, but basically, my ring is platinum and these yellow spots appeared in the metal setting), which has now been fixed. Since then, I've been even more cautious. Am I being crazy or overly cautious (or both, really)? Has anyone else babied their ring in the beginning? I know my ring should be really durable as it is platinum, but I can't seem to wrap my mind around washing my hands with the ring on.
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Jun 1st, 2007, 08:44 AM	#2
Crystalina Member Joined: Mar 2007 Location: West Coast Posts: 712	Re: Am I being overly cautious? Hi, Suli! I have seen pics of your ring and it is GORGEOUS! However, I strongly urge you to NOT take it off when washing your hands. A friend of mine was doing the same thing a couple years back (she had a $13,000 ring) because she didn't want any soap building up a film on it. Long story short, she once forgot to put her ring back on in a mall bathroom. When she went back to look for it, it was GONE! I know you are probably thinking "I'm so cautious, that won't ever happen to me." It might not, but it MIGHT! Not to mention, you could acciendentally drop it, heaven forbid, and it ends up down a drain. Keep it on all the time unless you are at home. Also, do what I do. I only put lotion on at night when I am not wearing my ring so I dont have to deal with lotion building up on the gold or the stone.

Jun 1st, 2007, 09:30 AM	#3
Sina Member Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 3,817	Re: Am I being overly cautious? ^ I get really scared of forgetting my ring or of having it drop in the drain! =(
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Jun 1st, 2007, 09:32 AM	#4
littlelysser Member Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 77	Re: Am I being overly cautious? I totally understand how you are feeling...but I agree with the others... First off - you have to figure that a nice warm, soapy bath is going to make your diamond sparklie and happy. Second - you could drop it down the drain, forget it, have it stolen...Ugh! Just not worth it. Some soap and water definitely will NOT hurt your baby! Hey - what was the cause of the problems with the platinum? I remember reading about it, but had no idea what could cause it. Just wondering.
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Jun 1st, 2007, 11:00 AM	#6
Couturegrl Addicted to Tiffany's Joined: Apr 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 8,183	Re: Am I being overly cautious? LOL Suli You are not being crazy :) However, I would be nervous taking my ring off every time I washed my hands b/c (as someone posted earlier) it could go down the drain! OMG I would FREAK out!!
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Jun 1st, 2007, 12:19 PM	#7
bgcutiepie00 Steph Joined: Aug 2006 Location: USA Posts: 5,596	Re: Am I being overly cautious? SuLi I did the same thing when we were first engaged by taking my ring off every time I washed my hands. I was told repeatedly to stop doing it so I wouldn't lose it. I thought yeah, I wouldn't forget....well it did happen I left it in the bathroom at the doctors office and remembered right after the next person went in there, thankfully it was still there after she came out though. Then my hubby (about 3 weeks after we were married) took his ring off to wash his hands in a very nice resturant in our town and forgot it. Unfortunately, it was gone by the time he remembered it. I think its totally normal to baby your enagement ring though, but I almost always leave my rings on now when washing my hands..just took me a while to feel that it was ok though!
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Jun 1st, 2007, 12:47 PM	#9
oo_let_me_see 100% Puerto Greekan Joined: Dec 2006 Location: lou lou land Posts: 6,722	Re: Am I being overly cautious? I don't take my ring off either. Way too afraid of leaving it behind. =O

Jun 1st, 2007, 01:24 PM	#10
bagshopr Member Joined: Apr 2007 Location: U.S.A. Posts: 988	Re: Am I being overly cautious? Don't take it off unless you are going swimming in a chlorinated pool or are going to be doing heavy cleaning with chemicals. Soap and water will not hurt your ring. I never take mine off, and now I don't even know I have it on. You will get used to it, I promise. I have been married for 22 years!

Jun 1st, 2007, 03:01 PM	#11
kristie "H" is for horses? Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,701	Re: Am I being overly cautious? Please please please leave your ring on when you wash your hands. One of my friends, who is super responsible always took her ring off to wash her hands and she came to my house once and left it on the sink! I found it hours after she had left and she was frantic with worry! Can you imagine if it had been left at a restaurant bathroom or something???? Soap and water will not hurt your ring at all.
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Jun 1st, 2007, 10:00 PM	#12
MassLaw15 Pit Bulls are Love! Joined: Mar 2007 Location: New England Posts: 1,784	Re: Am I being overly cautious? For safety, KEEP IT ON! You can always clean (or have it cleaned) the soap residue! Imagine the horror if you lost it? My ring is from 1780, yes 1780 & I wash it all the time.
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Jun 1st, 2007, 11:23 PM	#13
log47 Member Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 158	Re: Am I being overly cautious? you're definitely not psycho for wanting to take it off every time you wash your hands/use lotion, etc. however, a friend of mine did this, and just a couple weeks ago LOST IT and she'd only had it for 3 months...to make matters worse, her future MIL had seen her take it off the day before and told her not to do it or "she may lose it" eek! thankfully, it was fully insured and now she's waiting on the replacement. someone in a pa wal-mart parking lot hit the jackpot.
log47 Member Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 158

Jun 2nd, 2007, 12:24 AM	#14
socalgem Fabulous Joined: Apr 2007 Location: California Posts: 4,679	Re: Am I being overly cautious? Try baby steps at home. Like having your ring on and letting water run on it and then go from there. I don't take my ring off. It cost too much money and is one of a kind..I would be very sad if I forgot it.
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Jun 2nd, 2007, 10:19 AM	#15
JoeyJo21 Member Joined: Jan 2006 Location: UK Posts: 2,071	Re: Am I being overly cautious? I know how you feel, I'm the same with mine! With mine being an older ring (and recently with a loose diamond) I'm scared the washing it under the water will cause a stone to drop out down the drain. At home I take the ring off when I wash my hands, but when I'm out and about I keep it on for fear of loosing it (I've done that before too, but luckily got it back before it was taken).

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