Your SO and Strippers.

illinirdhd · Jun 27th, 2008, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Zophie

Men are men. They like sex and naked women. I think women just often don't want to believe it. A guy can be a great boyfriend or husband and still find other women attractive.

I totally agree with you. We were just having a conversation last night with a couple. The woman says that she and her husband can be across the room from each other at a party and if she says "boobs" her husband will look up and all over to see them.

But you know what? As dedicated as I am to my husband, I still look at and appreciate attractive men. And women too, for that matter!

guccimamma · Jun 27th, 2008, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by illinirdhd

I totally agree with you. We were just having a conversation last night with a couple. The woman says that she and her husband can be across the room from each other at a party and if she says "boobs" her husband will look up and all over to see them.

i am going to have to try that. "boobs honey!"

pattylauren · Jun 27th, 2008, 05:57 PM

No, never, no way... That'd be the end of it for me. He's not that kind of person anyway, but still... It's ridiculous!

Schmodi · Jun 27th, 2008, 06:01 PM

I've heard about strippers doing unthinkable things with lollipops at these private house parties. I don't care at all if my SO wanted to go to a strip club because there are rules, etc but I've heard many stories of men sleeping with the strippers. Luckily I trust my SO, but still wonder being guys if they would all still encourage each other.

guccimamma · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

I've heard about strippers doing unthinkable things with lollipops at these private house parties. I don't care at all if my SO wanted to go to a strip club because there are rules, etc but I've heard many stories of men sleeping with the strippers. Luckily I trust my SO, but still wonder being guys if they would all still encourage each other.

do they eat the lollipops when they are done?

ChristyR143 · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by guccimamma

do they eat the lollipops when they are done?

dusty paws · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by mellecyn

If for a bachelor party the guys go to strip clubs...no problem at all.
If it becomes an habit to hire a stripper for any boys night/parties.....BIG problems.

Agreed.

Heck, I offer to go to the strip clubs with him.

Charlie · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:44 PM

I also dont mind them. I know my husband. Last year his best friend got married and they host a bachelor party for him, they hired a stripper obvioulsy. I even gave my hubby 20 dlls on singles for the party

but he only spent 1/4 of it. I saw the pictures.

Now if they were doing this just for fun not for an especial ocasion, well maybe I'd be not ok with it.

Charlie · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

I've heard about strippers doing unthinkable things with lollipops at these private house parties. I don't care at all if my SO wanted to go to a strip club because there are rules, etc but I've heard many stories of men sleeping with the strippers. Luckily I trust my SO, but still wonder being guys if they would all still encourage each other.

He told me about all the things she did at his friend bachelors party, it was almost incredible. How do they come up with these ideas?

. Anyway, she wasnt supposed to be naked because they didnt think it was worth paying a strange to be naked, she has a little bikini on the whole time untill grandpa (not my actual grandpa) got all kinky and paid her to take it off and drink tequila shots of her a**

Schmodi · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by guccimamma

do they eat the lollipops when they are done?

No, it's when the females inset the sticks of the lollipops inside them and the men get to pull them out by biting down on the candy part. I've heard about this a few times now...

Maja80 · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:42 PM

This is a very sore subject for me and the DF. I do not want him to be involved in any kind of stripper activity and he gets really angry when I get upset about it. It's not that I don't trust him, because I do, I think it's because i'm so insecure with myself and just think that if he sees this attractive woman in front of him, he will realize that i'm not really that great after all! We're getting married soon and I am having a really hard time with the reality that there will be strippers at his bachelor party. After hearing all about the last bachelor party he was at, i'm pretty much disgusted by the things that were done (one part included a hand held mixer

) and now have to worry because the groom of that wedding is my DF's best man and says it will be the same strippers coming to his. The only good thing I can say about it is that my bachelorette party will be the same night so I won't be thinking about him! I'm trying to get over it but it's going to take some time.

digby723 · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:55 AM

I have no problems with strippers and strip clubs, and have actually asked my b/f if he wants to go. (I used to go with friends before we got together). I find them entertaining and sometiems funny even. And I don't mind a stripper being present at a bachelor party either. I do however, have a problem with my b/f calling a stripper just for himself. If he were to do that, we'd have an issue, b/c then it would be his way of telling me that he feels deprived LOL. But, I trust him 100% and have never been jealous towards him.

Zophie · Jun 28th, 2008, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

I've heard about strippers doing unthinkable things with lollipops at these private house parties. I don't care at all if my SO wanted to go to a strip club because there are rules, etc but I've heard many stories of men sleeping with the strippers. Luckily I trust my SO, but still wonder being guys if they would all still encourage each other.

I've actually heard scarier stories from a gay friend about all the married guys who hook up in bathrooms and cruisy areas. It all boils down to your guy and trust.

Bitten · Jun 28th, 2008, 06:23 AM

Strip shows. Unless they're really imaginative, it's about the 'car-crash' factor. You know, you feel like you should look away, in fact, you want to look away, but you can't?

I spoke to my brother after he was at a bucks night for a mutual friend - he said it was excruciating watching a woman, who honestly just looked bored, writhing around on a beer bottle in the lap of the groom, who looked absolutely terrified.

I know girls get knee-jerk reactions to their men seeing a stripper at a bucks night, but in actual fact it's extremely unlikely that anything will happen. Strippers are pros and they're there to make money. They're not really about to accept any passes from the clients. Certainly men like looking at beautiful women, but they do that anytime and anywhere. The beautiful woman doesn't have to be taking her clothes off - she can just be walking down the street, on the arm of a totally gorgeous man, and other men will still look. And really, where is the harm in that? So they look at beautiful women? If it's your SO looking, well you know he appreciates a beautiful woman. And following that thought a little further, doesn't that tell you that YOU are beautiful, because of all the women he's looked at, he chose YOU??

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 28th, 2008, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Zophie

I've actually heard scarier stories from a gay friend about all the married guys who hook up in bathrooms and cruisy areas. It all boils down to your guy and trust.

So true! I wonder what the statistics are?

I bet more guys are on the DL than guys who have hooked up with a stripper!

Jun 27th, 2008, 05:57 PM	#78
pattylauren fierce Location: The beautiful south	No, never, no way... That'd be the end of it for me. He's not that kind of person anyway, but still... It's ridiculous! __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 06:01 PM	#79
Schmodi Member	I've heard about strippers doing unthinkable things with lollipops at these private house parties. I don't care at all if my SO wanted to go to a strip club because there are rules, etc but I've heard many stories of men sleeping with the strippers. Luckily I trust my SO, but still wonder being guys if they would all still encourage each other. __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 11:42 PM	#86
Maja80 trying to be good :) Location: Illinois	This is a very sore subject for me and the DF. I do not want him to be involved in any kind of stripper activity and he gets really angry when I get upset about it. It's not that I don't trust him, because I do, I think it's because i'm so insecure with myself and just think that if he sees this attractive woman in front of him, he will realize that i'm not really that great after all! We're getting married soon and I am having a really hard time with the reality that there will be strippers at his bachelor party. After hearing all about the last bachelor party he was at, i'm pretty much disgusted by the things that were done (one part included a hand held mixer ) and now have to worry because the groom of that wedding is my DF's best man and says it will be the same strippers coming to his. The only good thing I can say about it is that my bachelorette party will be the same night so I won't be thinking about him! I'm trying to get over it but it's going to take some time. __________________ ... banned until we buy a house next summer ...

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:55 AM	#87
digby723 Member Location: Northern Virginia	I have no problems with strippers and strip clubs, and have actually asked my b/f if he wants to go. (I used to go with friends before we got together). I find them entertaining and sometiems funny even. And I don't mind a stripper being present at a bachelor party either. I do however, have a problem with my b/f calling a stripper just for himself. If he were to do that, we'd have an issue, b/c then it would be his way of telling me that he feels deprived LOL. But, I trust him 100% and have never been jealous towards him. __________________

Jun 28th, 2008, 06:23 AM	#89
Bitten Chic, not cheap. Location: On campus.	Strip shows. Unless they're really imaginative, it's about the 'car-crash' factor. You know, you feel like you should look away, in fact, you want to look away, but you can't? I spoke to my brother after he was at a bucks night for a mutual friend - he said it was excruciating watching a woman, who honestly just looked bored, writhing around on a beer bottle in the lap of the groom, who looked absolutely terrified. I know girls get knee-jerk reactions to their men seeing a stripper at a bucks night, but in actual fact it's extremely unlikely that anything will happen. Strippers are pros and they're there to make money. They're not really about to accept any passes from the clients. Certainly men like looking at beautiful women, but they do that anytime and anywhere. The beautiful woman doesn't have to be taking her clothes off - she can just be walking down the street, on the arm of a totally gorgeous man, and other men will still look. And really, where is the harm in that? So they look at beautiful women? If it's your SO looking, well you know he appreciates a beautiful woman. And following that thought a little further, doesn't that tell you that YOU are beautiful, because of all the women he's looked at, he chose YOU?? __________________ I appreciate fine things, but most of all, fine people.

Jun 27th, 2008, 08:44 PM	#83
Charlie ♥CRYLATER3♥	I also dont mind them. I know my husband. Last year his best friend got married and they host a bachelor party for him, they hired a stripper obvioulsy. I even gave my hubby 20 dlls on singles for the party but he only spent 1/4 of it. I saw the pictures. Now if they were doing this just for fun not for an especial ocasion, well maybe I'd be not ok with it.