[merika]

I wouldn't mind. I'm not insecure about my relationship or my body.

[tmc089]

I don't really care much for strippers, they're doing what they do, no big deal. BF used to have alot of money from a lawsuit, and he went to the strip club ALOT. Usually it was just to hang out with his buddies, but the strippers literally knew him by name...he never did anything crossing the line with them though, he was just there often.

I've never been to a strip club, but I wanna go so bad! BF doesn't go anymore, he just doesn't think it's respectful towards me (aww), but I tell him we should go for his b day or something. He says he doesn't want the creepo guys to look at me funny or anything, which is understandable. If BF did go, I would trust him to not do anything dumb. I think it just depends on the person.

[~Fabulousity~]

stripper parties at a house, no way!!! I have a male cousin who called me a few weeks ago telling me he went to a stripper party and his best friend had sex with the stripper(in front of everybody) after she performed felacio*spell check* on him right in front of all the other guys. And this wasn't the first time I heard of such.

Now to answer the question, if my SO wanted to go to a strip club with his buddies I don't think i'd be upset, but a stripper party

[artjen]

I honestly don't think my husband would seek out a stripper in any way, but if he were attending a party where the entertainment is a stripper...well, I wouldn't be pleased but it wouldn't cause a problem between us. I'm secure enough with myself to handle stuff liket that.

[ChanelGirlE]

Originally Posted by Laurie8504

Personally, no bf of mine will ever go to a strip club or event where a stripper will be present. I feel that this is an issue of respect and fidelity.

I feel the EXACT same way. The DH and I have talked about this and it is a HUGE respect issue. I think it's strange for men (or women!) to go PAY someone to strip. It seems degrading to me.

And strippers at someone's HOUSE? wtf!!! I've heard of SOOOO many horror stories of men at Bachelor parties with things going too far. I actually went to a Bachelor party (there wre females there-- the groom's friends) where the soon to be groom was doing a certain ORAL act to a stripper while his friends cheered him on?!?!? so much disrespect.

[leothelnss]

I'd like to share a little insight into how some of these "parties" go down...
When I was younger I met a lot of interesting individuals. One person I was friends with for a short time was a stripper, though she titled herself as an "escort". I was 15 (yeah) and wasn't really too educated on this sort of thing...
One night she said we should hang out, that she was going as an escort that night and I should accompany her. She picked me up and we drove to D.C. and got a couple of male friends of hers along the way, she said they were her "body guards".
Drove to this townhouse where she had the guys wait outside by the car.
The two of us walked inside and saw a group of men, maybe 13 or so of them, sitting around the living room. They were piled onto the couches and others were sitting in kitchen chairs...
We walked upstairs where I met another girl, who was wearing a see-through teddy.
Fast-forward... We're downstairs and the girls are dancing, half naked, spraying whipped cream on the guys and licking it off. I believe it was a bachelor party.
I was instructed to just standby and watch, and if asked why I wasn't dancing to tell the guys that I was thinking about joining their company.
WELL. Towards the end of the party the other girl starting naming prices for HJs and BJs... And a couple of the guys went upstairs with her.
The girl I had come with packed up her stuff and said we were leaving because she doesn't do that sort of thing, but that the other girl is notorious for breaking the rules and doing sexual favors in exchange for more money.
And then we left.

These parties are definitely not innocent and there is no way in hell I would allow my DH to go to one of them, though I don't believe he would anyway.
Yes, this is a true story.

[artich0ke]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

stripper parties at a house, no way!!! I have a male cousin who called me a few weeks ago telling me he went to a stripper party and his best friend had sex with the stripper(in front of everybody) after she performed felacio*spell check* on him right in front of all the other guys. And this wasn't the first time I heard of such.

Now to answer the question, if my SO wanted to go to a strip club with his buddies I don't think i'd be upset, but a stripper party

Haha she's not a stripper -- she's a hooker!

Luckily my SO thinks that things like strip clubs, porn, etc. are "barbaric" so I don't have to deal with it. I think strip clubs and strippers are kind of sleazy myself. Yeah, it's a job, but you seriously can't find some place else to work?

[Demosthenes]

I'm just grossed out by the idea of another naked woman rubbing on my husband. Not so much insecurity as it is entitlement. He's MY husband, and he should love and respect me, you know? Him wanting to go to a strip club alone, or to a house party would be so out of character I'd probably be freaking out at home.

[claireZk]

Originally Posted by nooch

Nothing less attractive than a man who pays a woman to feign interest in him while he disrespects the one he has at home.

I don't dislike STRIPPERS, I dislike STRIP CLUBS and events where strippers are present. Call me unenlightened if you will (oh, and I have been many times), but I am uncomfortable with it. Also, I am uncomfortable with a man who can so easily shift into that drooling man-child so easily. My fiance has no interest in strip clubs but like I said, I can't really see myself dating someone who didn't feel the same way as I do about them.

Right on!

[IntlSet]

I seriously could not care less if he's with a big group of guys who all want to go. If he's going to strip clubs alone, there might be a problem.

[coachariffic]

Originally Posted by Zophie

I have no problem with strippers at all unless he starts spending all his money on the strippers and stalking them or something and it becomes an obsession. But then I like to go to strip clubs myself. I'd be more upset that he didn't take me when he went.

Same here! We always go together so if he went by himself I'd be po'd!

[guccimamma]

i think that by making a big deal out of it...you call more attention to the matter than it deserves.

strippers are there simply for the money, they are not trying to steal your man...unless they think your man is a high roller with hundred dollar bills in his pocket.

let him go, pretend it doesn't bother you...even if it does.

[kbell]

I don't have an issue with strippers or strip clubs. My husband isn't & has never been into the whole strip club thing even when he was younger. I'm secure enough not to be threatened by some random naked gals.

Also, I think there's a lot of misconceptions as to what goes on in a strip club (not talking private parties - whole diff story there and I have several!). Strip clubs are a lot less seedy in person than what's displayed on TV - at least the ones I've been in. I went to one for a friends 40th - all the wives accompanied their husbands...and once recently for another friends birthday. There's no touching/grabbing going on. There are however a lot of guys who went alone there which I found sad. I also don't understand why anyone automatically assumes these strippers want their man.

I do know people who are extremely opposed to this - one who came very close to calling off her wedding because her fiance went to a strip club for his bachelor party - even though he of course didn't plan the party. She finally admitted it was due to her own very serious insecurities, got over it & married him.

Now I am not a fan of private parties due to some very disturbing disgusting stories I've heard and know to be true, but a strip club I have no problem with. I guess I'm a hypocrite because I've attended several girlie private parties with male strippers which my husband had no problem with. I wouldn't forbid my husband from going to say a bachelor party with a private stripper but I'd much prefer the strip club because of what I've heard.

[Leah411]

I guess I will just never understand why it is "okay" for a guy in a committed relationship/marriage to cross certain physical boundaries...touching another woman's breasts, lap dances, "oral" stuff as someone put it....just as long as it's done in the spirit of "fun" at a bachelor party or boy's night out. And just how does being sexual with a total stranger right before your wedding "celebrate" the upcoming nuptials?

I know there will be many people on her who label me and others with similar opinions as "old-fashioned" or "insecure" or "uncomfortable with her body"....but I see sexual fidelity as the result of a commitment between two people who love each other and not as a sign of "insecurity".

Neither my DF nor I would disrespect our love and commitment to each other by engaging in any sort of sexual contact with another person. If other people want to do it, that is their choice. I just don't understand why when others make a different choice, they are labeled as "insecure" or found lacking in some other way.

[sofakingsweet]

I could care less as long as he comes home to me. There WOULD be a problem if he's spending all his money for this stripper thing and if he was seeing strippers alone.