[illinirdhd]

Originally Posted by caitlin1214

I'm assuming the hand-held mixer was used in place of a certain personal battery-operated device.

If that means what I think it does.... OUCH!!!!!!

[caitlin1214]

^^ Hopefully they don't use the business end.

[Schmodi]

Originally Posted by illinirdhd

You probably don't want to know what goes on in some of the strip clubs in Mexico. I've been to a couple of pretty raunchy ones.

Not to mention the donkey shows. I was in Cancun about 7 years ago and my male friends (and a few female) went to see one

[Schmodi]

Originally Posted by caitlin1214

I'm assuming the hand-held mixer was used in place of a certain personal battery-operated device.

Ha I still can't picture this. I think I might be OK with that

[amber11]

i wouldn't mind if he went- the only time he goes is with friends once in a blue moon, and he doesn't find the strippers attractive whatsoever (from what i'v heard there not usually the most attractive ladies, atleast not the ones in his friends price range haha) if he started going regularly then i would start worrying

[angfento]

Yep DH said he was expecting a donkey to come on stage at any moment!

Originally Posted by Schmodi

Not to mention the donkey shows. I was in Cancun about 7 years ago and my male friends (and a few female) went to see one

[tadpolenyc]

Originally Posted by meemoo

I'm not against anyone who doesn't want/let their hubby/SO see porn or strippers or whatever, but in my PERSONAL opinion I just let him go do whatever he wants. I trust him, and he knows what he'd be losing. I believe he loves me, so if he wants to entertain himself by watching a girl dance or get a lapdance so be it. We've been together 3 years and living together most of that. We share friends and hangouts and such, so even if he tried to be sneaky he would get caught. I know he would never sneak around, plus he can't lie worth a doodie. ("Yes honey I cleaned the bathroom" looks up and begins whistling not making eye contact)

My friends are mostly the same, but some of his male friends are shocked that we get along so well. I tell them all the time: he allows me to know him without putting up walls, and therefore I know his motives, therefore I trust that whatever he is doing is within the confines of still respecting our relationship. If he breaks those barriers we are obviously not meant to be and while I would be very upset and sad, I'm not going to waste my time trying to force him to do or not do anything. He has a right to the life he wants, and so do I. As such, we work together and not against it.

I'm sure there is plenty that I do that he might not think is the best thing in the world, but he grants me freedom to go out with my friends to bars and clubs and pretty much wherever, and most of my friends are male, so I'd be a royal shark monster to try and stop him.

well said! i wholeheartedly agree with you.

[Kenia]

Strip clubs dont bother me, if its just looking and not an every weekend thing. I consider this a guy thing and for me its just one of those things I won't understand. That being said I am okay with him going every once in a while.

He doesnt go though! I find that if you say they cant go they want to go. But once you say go ahead they dont want to go anymore!

Around here there are strip clubs that do the whole you cant touch, she cant touch you thing. There are also strip clubs that have private backrooms, where we all know anything goes. Lets just say I prefer the first type.
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My bf has a friend that goes quite often. His wife doesn't care but when he gets home he has to give her the same amount of money that he spent for her to go out and get things for herself. Kinda like that was your play money, this is mine.

[tresjoliex]

Originally Posted by Leah411

I guess I will just never understand why it is "okay" for a guy in a committed relationship/marriage to cross certain physical boundaries...touching another woman's breasts, lap dances, "oral" stuff as someone put it....just as long as it's done in the spirit of "fun" at a bachelor party or boy's night out. And just how does being sexual with a total stranger right before your wedding "celebrate" the upcoming nuptials?

I know there will be many people on her who label me and others with similar opinions as "old-fashioned" or "insecure" or "uncomfortable with her body"....but I see sexual fidelity as the result of a commitment between two people who love each other and not as a sign of "insecurity".

Neither my DF nor I would disrespect our love and commitment to each other by engaging in any sort of sexual contact with another person. If other people want to do it, that is their choice. I just don't understand why when others make a different choice, they are labeled as "insecure" or found lacking in some other way.

I think you are so right.

I think it's so disrespectful.

I believe it is cheating on your gf.

And I don't get why guys go wild on their bachelor parties anyway? What, is it his last chance to fool around before he's committed in marriage? NOOOOOOOOO. He was commited when he first started dating her.

This world just gets crazier every day...

And I also believe there are much better ways to get money besides strippingg....

You pretty much sell your body to these horny men who shouldn't be there in the first place.

I don't like the feeling of being used or being someone else's pleasure run for 10 minutes.

How degrading is that of women.

And then they go call her a whore/slut.. ughh

[tresjoliex]

Originally Posted by Sass

wow i have read through the entire thread and here are my thoughts

Although i believe that everyone has a right to do exactly want (for a profession). I personally have a moral objection of women and men dancing and performing sexual acts in exchange for money!

when SO and i had only been together a few months and it was getting very serious very quickly and he was saying that he wanted to marry me etc. I told him i had a few rules. Not too bore you all but one of them was NO porn, prostitutes or strippers ... EVER. Or i will dump you so fast!

I have several objections to the porn, prostitutes and strippers (as to me they are all the same and equally as bad). No i am not insecure, and i 100% trust my man. However i have a serious religious objection to this type of behaviour so it is in no way acceptable to me.

1. men are objectifying women and i believe it to be degrading even if the women themselves don't

2. Why does he need to look at another half naked/naked women. If he chooses to be in an exclusive relationship with me then he gives up the right to look at other women naked. Looking at another women naked and thinking about her sexually is cheating to me!

3. The cost of entry, drinks and money given to stripper (it is a waste of OUR money)

Im sure people will disagree but that's my view!!

Right on.

Even if you aren't religious, I still don't see how some people are okay with it?

If you saw your SO with a girl at a restaurant you'd go up in flames, but a strip club is fine?

Maybe I'm just weird.

[ChanelGirlE]

Originally Posted by tresjoliex

And I don't get why guys go wild on their bachelor parties anyway? What, is it his last chance to fool around before he's committed in marriage? NOOOOOOOOO. He was commited when he first started dating her.

This world just gets crazier every day...

And I also believe there are much better ways to get money besides strippingg....

You pretty much sell your body to these horny men who shouldn't be there in the first place.

I don't like the feeling of being used or being someone else's pleasure run for 10 minutes.

How degrading is that of women.

And then they go call her a whore/slut.. ughh

Totally agree with you on this.... I don't think someone who needs to have "his last harrah as a single man" crazy stripper bachelor party, should be getting married in the 1st place. If you feel trapped and do not want to be with only one woman the rest of your life then why get married.

[tresjoliex]

Originally Posted by ChanelGirlE

Totally agree with you on this.... I don't think someone who needs to have "his last harrah as a single man" crazy stripper bachelor party, should be getting married in the 1st place. If you feel trapped and do not want to be with only one woman the rest of your life then why get married.

Yep, yep. How does the fiance allow this? What, does he forget about his future wife for a night....ughh disgusts me.

[QueenOfDa702]

Do you ladies not believe in Male strippers either? Its not like men are the ONLY ones who have strippers at their parties. Many MANY woman have Male strippers at parties, and bachelorette parties.

Actually we have a Male strip club here I've been wanting to hit up, sounds like a blast to me!

[illinirdhd]

Vegas tPF outing time... Ha!

[Zophie]

I have no interest in male strippers. I just like female strippers. I think women stripping are sexy. I think men stripping just look goofy. Just my .02.