[killerstrawbery]

i guess until never! lol

[Rhose]

Yeah, there's no way you can ever truly know a person. Not a chance. And I think that's great! It makes life, and ourselves, interesting.

But for the sake of the argument, whoever said how a person treats service workers like bus drivers and waiters is on the money. I always remember a quote by Dumbledore in Harry Potter (LOL) that went something like "you don't get the true measure of a man by the way he treats his equals, but rather, the way he treats his inferiors." So true.

During uni I dated a guy whose family was reasonably wealthy. He seemed nice enough and we had been dating for a few weeks when I went with him as a guest to a wedding. We were at the bar, facing each other, and he decided he wanted some more lime juice in the drink he'd just ordered. Without shifting his gaze from me, he held the glass back over the bar at the bar person, gave a short whistle and shook the glass at her to top it up!! She looked totally miffed but did it. He never even looked at her let alone thanked her. I think I was meant to be impressed by his suaveness. I was absolutely disgusted. I quickly thanked her but the damage was clearly done. I felt like dumping that drink on his arrogant head. This is a guy who never actually worked for his money either. I still get angry thinking about it! Needless to say, I had the "this isn't going to work out" convo with him later that night. That one incident told me everything I ever needed to know about him.

[bbbochap]

my gfs & i use this 2 situations to better judge prospective men, lol -

1. ... you have seen them gambling - mahjong, poker, blackjack etc...
when they are losing money, how they react in that moment of greed/desperation/eagerness to recuperate their loss.

2. ... you have sat in their car & witness their driving skills - are they road hoggers, tailgaters, road bullies etc....
here you can witness their patience level, management of anger/frustration.

[Pinkcaviar]

^ I agree with gambling! My father has been telling me that since I was teenager.

Some people are bad at losing money, sore losers and show their true colors. They suddenly become manipulative, angry, desperate, greedy and even conniving. Or to a degree where you can see a change of character.

Other factors;

1 - When you live with them.
2 - How they REALLY treat their family
3 - How they react due to a conflicting or difficult situation
4 - How they react in an extreme high or low situation

Nobody is perfect, but some people you should proceed with caution.

[calzz]

find out what their "crutch" is in times of adversity:

Do they turn to God and go to church, binge drink, gamble, get depressed, move homes/countries (flee), or turn to you for help/love/support etc. and so on?