You never truly know who a person is until ______________ (fill in the blank).

rainrowan · Sep 26th, 2008, 08:47 PM

Regarding SOs and BFs --

when one of you does laundry - whites and colors all in one wash or separate washes
when one of you chooses to stay put on a line or jump back and forth to beat the wait
which one of you is the spender or the spendthrift and what is said about what the other does

These things seem so superficial, but they do point to different approaches and/or thinking on a bigger scale and whether a person can deal with the way the other person does things....

April_Skye · Sep 26th, 2008, 10:55 PM

You never truly know who a person is until you go shopping with them!

jellybebe · Sep 27th, 2008, 12:15 AM

Based on my experiences:

1) live with them
2) experience some kind of significant event (good or bad) - seeing how they react to you
3) disagree with them

Steelsapphire · Sep 27th, 2008, 05:11 AM

Based on my experience, when I fell seriously ill.

My true friends supported me, remembered me and I am grateful to them till this day.

Those that I thought were my friends, they didn't even call, eventhough they knew I was going through bad times. I have since dropped them.

poppyluver · Sep 27th, 2008, 06:46 AM

1. when you find out what they say about you behind your back.

I had a best friend for almost ten years and thought she was the sweetest person ever! My awakening came when my boyfriend showed me what she wrote when he asked her what she thought of me in an online chat. It turned out she was an extremely dishonest person. She even stole from me! She kept a my then new jacket that she couldn't fit in her closet for 3 years. Her younger sister is the one who realized the jacket was mine and returned it.

moi et mes sacs · Sep 27th, 2008, 06:39 PM

...until you see them angry.

Bagluvluv · Sep 28th, 2008, 03:26 AM

when youve seen them up, and then also when their down.....

Its true that if someone has changes in their life and you see that they dont change much because of it, is when you know basically, who they are inside.

shopgirl88 · Sep 28th, 2008, 11:14 AM

...they show you who they are, when they do believe them...

Kiss Me Deadly · Sep 28th, 2008, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by IntlSet

Very true! I have a friend who I went to high school with... she is sweetest person, ever! She would drive 2 hours to pick you up at the airport if you asked. Just a great girl. But watch out if you got a higher test score than she did... lol

yup.. story of my life...

Pursegrrl · Sep 28th, 2008, 02:55 PM

...until you:
- ask them to take you to/pick you up from the airport
- see them under stress
- travel with them
- see them caught off guard

sweetdreamer16 · Sep 28th, 2008, 07:23 PM

a) spend the night with them
b) see how they are with their family
c) treat people like bus drivers or servers
d) how they are around children

Lululapell · Sep 28th, 2008, 08:40 PM

You never truly know who a person is until you've been sick and they have to take care of you. This was when I fell in love with my husband all over again. He took care of me like a champ, cleaning up liquids from both ends, for 2 days, and never said a word.

wordbox · Sep 28th, 2008, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Lululapell

You never truly know who a person is until you've been sick and they have to take care of you. This was when I fell in love with my husband all over again. He took care of me like a champ, cleaning up liquids from both ends, for 2 days, and never said a word.

So true! I was really really sick a few months ago and my poor guy had to take care of me and clean up after me (yuck, I know). Anyhow, I remember thanking him and telling him that I knew he really loved me! lol... we were together for over 5 years but it's things like that that show you how they REALLY are. If you can clean up my puke, you're a keeper.

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Originally Posted by sweetdreamer16

a) spend the night with them
b) see how they are with their family
c) treat people like bus drivers or servers
d) how they are around children

Ooh, I really like this one (c), good call! If you're condescending or unnecessarily rude to waitstaff or people in any position to serve you, that says a lot. I also tend to notice when people get cheap with a tip.

PrettyInPink · Sep 28th, 2008, 10:15 PM

a) spend the night with them.
b) meet their family and friends.
c) travel with them.
d) go through a crisis together.

Megs · Sep 29th, 2008, 12:00 AM

I agree with a ton of these answers... but I am still learning about most people.

But if we are talking about Vlad, a few things really came into play:

1) Spend time apart - as in him being in Germany me being in the US
2) Go through Crisis together. We had a few of these
3) see if you can grow together... as friends, a couple, etc

Sep 26th, 2008, 08:47 PM	#61
rainrowan INFJ	Regarding SOs and BFs -- when one of you does laundry - whites and colors all in one wash or separate washes when one of you chooses to stay put on a line or jump back and forth to beat the wait which one of you is the spender or the spendthrift and what is said about what the other does These things seem so superficial, but they do point to different approaches and/or thinking on a bigger scale and whether a person can deal with the way the other person does things....

Sep 26th, 2008, 10:55 PM	#62
April_Skye we CAN have it all Location: over there..... and down a bit	You never truly know who a person is until you go shopping with them! __________________ Live Now. Kill The Boredom

Sep 27th, 2008, 12:15 AM	#63
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Sep 27th, 2008, 06:39 PM	#66
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	...until you see them angry. __________________ If you never change your mind, why have one? Edward de Bono

Sep 28th, 2008, 03:26 AM	#67
Bagluvluv Think, Think, Think! Location: On my cell	when youve seen them up, and then also when their down..... Its true that if someone has changes in their life and you see that they dont change much because of it, is when you know basically, who they are inside. __________________ Want for everybody, all that you want for yourself-----Wallace D. Wattles I'm soooo done....

Sep 27th, 2008, 05:11 AM	#64
Steelsapphire Member	Based on my experience, when I fell seriously ill. My true friends supported me, remembered me and I am grateful to them till this day. Those that I thought were my friends, they didn't even call, eventhough they knew I was going through bad times. I have since dropped them.

Sep 27th, 2008, 06:46 AM	#65
poppyluver Member Location: California	1. when you find out what they say about you behind your back. I had a best friend for almost ten years and thought she was the sweetest person ever! My awakening came when my boyfriend showed me what she wrote when he asked her what she thought of me in an online chat. It turned out she was an extremely dishonest person. She even stole from me! She kept a my then new jacket that she couldn't fit in her closet for 3 years. Her younger sister is the one who realized the jacket was mine and returned it.

Sep 28th, 2008, 11:14 AM	#68
shopgirl88 Member	...they show you who they are, when they do believe them...

Sep 28th, 2008, 02:55 PM	#70
Pursegrrl Oh! That Joe! Location: Seattle	...until you: - ask them to take you to/pick you up from the airport - see them under stress - travel with them - see them caught off guard

Sep 28th, 2008, 07:23 PM	#71
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Sep 28th, 2008, 08:40 PM	#72
Lululapell Member Location: Utopia	You never truly know who a person is until you've been sick and they have to take care of you. This was when I fell in love with my husband all over again. He took care of me like a champ, cleaning up liquids from both ends, for 2 days, and never said a word. __________________ BANNED and Currently Coveting: RM Nikki in kelly green (ORDERED!) 06 Chanel Bleu Fonce Lambskin Bal Sapphire Day Bal Sanguine Pom Bal Mandarin First Chanel Large Brown Tote (BOUGHT 11/2/08) Bal Sahara Step (BOUGHT 10/21/08)

Sep 28th, 2008, 10:15 PM	#74
PrettyInPink Member Location: Michigan	a) spend the night with them. b) meet their family and friends. c) travel with them. d) go through a crisis together.

Sep 29th, 2008, 12:00 AM	#75
Megs	I agree with a ton of these answers... but I am still learning about most people. But if we are talking about Vlad, a few things really came into play: 1) Spend time apart - as in him being in Germany me being in the US 2) Go through Crisis together. We had a few of these 3) see if you can grow together... as friends, a couple, etc __________________ Enter our fabulous November giveaway sponsored by Adriana Castro!!!! Check out our latest press, Purse Blog in the Miami Herald!