You never truly know who a person is until ______________ (fill in the blank).

keodi · Sep 25th, 2008, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by illinirdhd

LOAN them money!

good one!

wordbox · Sep 25th, 2008, 07:35 PM

The drunk one is a good one... how people act when they've been drinking -- especially if they had a bit too much -- gives you a whole lot of information about them! Some people turn into completely different people. Others show you a few traits you didn't know they had.

lovinalotofbags · Sep 25th, 2008, 07:49 PM

you've walked a mile in their shoes

ShelleyBaby · Sep 25th, 2008, 08:04 PM

Live with them, spend huge amounts of time with them and meet there family.

ShelleyBaby · Sep 25th, 2008, 08:04 PM

Give them everything you can and get nothing in return.

Cristina · Sep 25th, 2008, 08:12 PM

I absolutely agree about the drinking. I'm a blabbermouth when I drink and admit a lot of things, but I tend to have the same attitude as I always do, give or take a lot of laughing and craziness

Until you...

Have to rely on them for everything, such as when you're debilitated to due to surgery or another medical condition.

Experience a loss in your family.

Live with them (!).

Spend time with those closest to them, such as family and friends.

Are most vulnerable, strip everything away and really show yourself and who you are to that person.

Have to make major decisions together.

suretobuy · Sep 25th, 2008, 08:13 PM

I totally agree with travel. My mom has a childhood friend of 40(!) years and they went on a ten day trip abroad. When mom came back, she was like

OMG, I never knew she was like that!!! And not in a positive way

juicy couture jen · Sep 25th, 2008, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by caxe

...until you see how they handle being extremely angry.

OMG, that is so TRUE. My SO has an insane temper, and I hate it.

Bellagigi · Sep 25th, 2008, 10:57 PM

So many good answers.

I will add:

Working with them

I had a close friend whom I helped get a job with me years ago. It almost destroyed our relationship. I never knew she could be so lazy.

bisousx · Sep 25th, 2008, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by nooch

This is the truth! My SIL's parents are the kind of people who think "good service" means "I can ask this guy to blow me and chew my food and then not tip him".

I love how eloquently you put it. Zophie is dead on.. and I agree with the posters who say you don't really know someone until you loan them money or need money.

Demosthenes · Sep 26th, 2008, 12:38 AM

I agree with all of the points so far!

I'd like to add:

....you are separated from them by long distance.*
....you get into your first fight.
....you read their diary. (just kidding)

*I lost a lot of friends when I moved. The real ones kept in touch, and the fair-weather friends didn't even call when I was hospitalized, even though I considered them among my best friends. How's that for an eye opener?

lilian · Sep 26th, 2008, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by lovinalotofbags

you've walked a mile in their shoes

luxurina · Sep 26th, 2008, 01:27 AM

You face adversity with them.

SimplyMe · Sep 26th, 2008, 03:00 AM

You never truly know who a person is until you allow him/her to take advantage of you.

Those who takes you for granted for whatever reasons is never worth your time. People who truly cares and loves you will never intentionally do things that will hurt and/or disrespect you.

Bella · Sep 26th, 2008, 03:22 AM

Great thread with many thoughtful responses... Here's mine.

You never truly know who a person is until you see how they treat their parents.

I've found this to be very telling in my life experience so far.

Sep 25th, 2008, 07:35 PM	#32
wordbox spay, neuter, adopt! Location: The North Pole	The drunk one is a good one... how people act when they've been drinking -- especially if they had a bit too much -- gives you a whole lot of information about them! Some people turn into completely different people. Others show you a few traits you didn't know they had. __________________

Sep 25th, 2008, 07:49 PM	#33
lovinalotofbags In for the long haul Location: South Carolina	you've walked a mile in their shoes __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Sep 25th, 2008, 08:12 PM	#36
Cristina Location: South Florida	I absolutely agree about the drinking. I'm a blabbermouth when I drink and admit a lot of things, but I tend to have the same attitude as I always do, give or take a lot of laughing and craziness Until you... Have to rely on them for everything, such as when you're debilitated to due to surgery or another medical condition. Experience a loss in your family. Live with them (!). Spend time with those closest to them, such as family and friends. Are most vulnerable, strip everything away and really show yourself and who you are to that person. Have to make major decisions together. __________________ and it's called i'll be getting by and i'll make ends meet does the forty hour week have you bent at the knees? and you can't even see that everything's kept just out of reach my american dream is to have it a little bit better than my parents ever had it - less than jake

Sep 25th, 2008, 10:57 PM	#39
Bellagigi Member Location: Winchesterton..field...ville	So many good answers. I will add: Working with them I had a close friend whom I helped get a job with me years ago. It almost destroyed our relationship. I never knew she could be so lazy. __________________ "When you die, if you get a choice between going to regular heaven or pie heaven, choose pie heaven. It might be a trick, but if it's not, mmmmmmm, boy." -Jack Handey

Sep 26th, 2008, 12:38 AM	#41
Demosthenes Member	I agree with all of the points so far! I'd like to add: ....you are separated from them by long distance.* ....you get into your first fight. ....you read their diary. (just kidding) *I lost a lot of friends when I moved. The real ones kept in touch, and the fair-weather friends didn't even call when I was hospitalized, even though I considered them among my best friends. How's that for an eye opener? __________________

Sep 25th, 2008, 08:04 PM	#34
ShelleyBaby Member Location: Scotland	Live with them, spend huge amounts of time with them and meet there family.

Sep 25th, 2008, 08:13 PM	#37
suretobuy Call me Maddie Location: South of Canada	I totally agree with travel. My mom has a childhood friend of 40(!) years and they went on a ten day trip abroad. When mom came back, she was like OMG, I never knew she was like that!!! And not in a positive way

Sep 26th, 2008, 01:27 AM	#43
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Sep 26th, 2008, 03:00 AM	#44
SimplyMe Racing With You. Location: Very foggy!	You never truly know who a person is until you allow him/her to take advantage of you. Those who takes you for granted for whatever reasons is never worth your time. People who truly cares and loves you will never intentionally do things that will hurt and/or disrespect you.

Sep 26th, 2008, 03:22 AM	#45
Bella just Bella	Great thread with many thoughtful responses... Here's mine. You never truly know who a person is until *you see how they treat their parents.* I've found this to be very telling in my life experience so far. __________________