[nooch]

Originally Posted by Zophie

One thing I've noticed is that if a person is well-off financially, comes into some money, makes it big in their career, whatever, it really shows you what they are really like. When you see a guy who is wealthy and he still treats the guy who busses tables at a restaurant or picks up the trash or washes his car, etc., with respect, you know he's a decent man. Some people get a little ahead in life and you can see that deep down they are really a jerk. They probably were all along, but just never could let their true colors show.

This is the truth! My SIL's parents are the kind of people who think "good service" means "I can ask this guy to blow me and chew my food and then not tip him".

[catherela]

Originally Posted by tiffanystar

Until you have a major life crisis (i.e. lose your job, get a serious illness, have a breavement, get divorced etc).

^ agree! it's when the bad times roll that you see someone's true colors...

[atsnowflake]

I would say until you have seen them extremly stressed out. I think that is when someone's true personality comes out... are they disorganized, ok, set it into tasks, freak out, blame others, get mad, walk way from the problem(s) ect...

also... to live with them.

[wordbox]

Originally Posted by tiffanystar

Until you have a major life crisis (i.e. lose your job, get a serious illness, have a breavement, get divorced etc).

This is so true! I have a friend who is getting married and they've only known each other for a few months. I worry for them, because they haven't gone through anything together yet. It's the big issues, the big fights, that shows what they're really like (and ensure that you can work through the issues).

And money/finances tells SO MUCH about people and can have a huge effect on the relationship. Sharing finances, having one person support the other, making more than the other, struggling to get by, etc... that stuff is major.

Oh, and of course there's living together. Boy do you ever get to know them! haha

[LovePinkCoach]

Definitely living together.

[VPT]

.. until you MARRY him!

He still manages to hide his flaws very well when you're shacking up. But once you tie the knot he lets everything hang out erm let me rephrase that!

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

Zophie, this is the most insightful post on human nature I've ever seen on PF. It's incredibly true, I just didn't realize it until you said it.

I actually never really realized it until someone pointed it out to me, even though once he did, it seemed so obvious.

[dusty paws]

- when you travel together
- when you have a death in your family (learned this one the hard way..)
- when someone enters a "steady" relationship with a SO.
- when you live together!

[caxe]

...until you see how they handle being extremely angry.

[QueenOfDa702]

Originally Posted by shanam

..tell them a secret.

I think thats a good one! How they handle your secret tells a lot about them.


I think mine would be ...Seeing the way they act when they are drunk.

Or visit their home. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their house, the cleanliness, the way its decorated, the whole shebang!

[Zophie]

Originally Posted by QueenOfDa702

I think thats a good one! How they handle your secret tells a lot about them.


I think mine would be ...Seeing the way they act when they are drunk.

Or visit their home. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their house, the cleanliness, the way its decorated, the whole shebang!

oh, lordy, in that case I better not invite anyone over.

[BTBF]

Originally Posted by IntlSet

You never truly know who someone is until you travel with her/him.

Your opinion?

Especially road trips, that is when you really know if you are really compatible with him/her.

[IntlSet]

Originally Posted by QueenOfDa702

Or visit their home. I think you can tell a lot about someone by their house, the cleanliness, the way its decorated, the whole shebang!

I agree and disagree. I think there's something to be said for people to actually buy real art for the walls (+100 in my book). On the other hand, it's entirely possible to be well-educated when it comes to art history and to have sophisticated taste but simply not be able to afford any decent art.

[candypants1100]

someone dies.

[Amberini]

I think it could be a number of things, but I think more than anything, you never truly knoe who a person is, until they're broke.

I think it's interesting to see what people think of money - who they are when they have it, who they are when they don't.

If they're not a good person without money, they're never going to be a good person with money.

Definitely agree with what Zophie said!