YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!!

babypebblezz · Dec 18th, 2007, 08:07 PM

Mods...please close this dumb thread. My closest cousin is having an affair...what should I do?

I just had one of the most open and honest conversation ever with my cousin. I feel so stupid for jumping into conclusions. I should of just confronted her when I read the messages. The co-worker has a crush on her since last year and she was too embarass to tell me cause he's so old and married. The text messages didn't reveal much but I assumed the worst.( "Miss you n luv ya" from the guy and "sweet dreams" from my cousin). My cousin is actually helping him out by convincing him to seek marriage counseling. She has no intention on hooking up with him and I'm so relieved. Yay!!!!

: yahoo:

Speedy · Dec 18th, 2007, 08:09 PM

WHEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW...

And I hope he takes to counselling... a 50 year old married man with a crush on a 25 year old spells trouble for ALL involved!

Glad you talked to her.

Bubble Girl · Dec 18th, 2007, 08:22 PM

Very good to hear. She does need to be careful though, as sending a reply such as "sweet dreams" could give the wrong impression, and if she is trying to discourage his interest, she would be better not responding to his texts. KWIM?

caxe · Dec 18th, 2007, 10:06 PM

See...that's why lots of us suggested for you to do or say nothing...

LOL

dallas · Dec 18th, 2007, 10:20 PM

....and perhaps it would be best in future, if you didn't read phone messages that are meant for others.

chelsae · Dec 19th, 2007, 02:03 AM

^^^ lol

It's good that she's not having an affair! :)

fiatflux · Dec 19th, 2007, 02:57 AM

For her to allow him to say "miss you" and "luv ya" (and to respond w/"sweet dreams") is crossing the line, though. Put yourself in his wife's place...would she be fine with that communication? You yourself jumped to conclusions about what was going on...well, you had good reason to! She needs a wake up call if she thinks that she is "helping" with his marriage...it's actually quite the opposite. She's keeping him hanging on to the hope of a relationship with her by allowing that kind of communication.

Jahpson · Dec 19th, 2007, 09:48 AM

see that? now had you got involved or whatever you would have looked pretty silly.

dont get yourself involved in other peoples relationship

bagnshoofetish · Dec 19th, 2007, 07:07 PM

aren't you glad you were just honest with her? talking about stuff is not a bad thing....glad everything is straightened out.

paintednightsky · Dec 19th, 2007, 10:17 PM

That's great you talked with her. I know some people say don't talk to her, etc. but it seemed you were very close to her anyway so I'm glad it all worked out! Sometimes people are too afraid of losing friendships but I don't think I could be friends with anyone who cheated. I had a friend who cheated with every guy she could (total skank) so I quit being friends with her! Speaks volumes about character of a friend I wouldn't want (plus she was a klepto!)

GUCCI_COOCHIE · Dec 21st, 2007, 01:17 PM

I didnt comment on your other thread, but I'm glad you're relieved from all this! hehe

Dec 18th, 2007, 08:07 PM	#1
babypebblezz Member Location: NYC	YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! Mods...please close this dumb thread. My closest cousin is having an affair...what should I do? I just had one of the most open and honest conversation ever with my cousin. I feel so stupid for jumping into conclusions. I should of just confronted her when I read the messages. The co-worker has a crush on her since last year and she was too embarass to tell me cause he's so old and married. The text messages didn't reveal much but I assumed the worst.( "Miss you n luv ya" from the guy and "sweet dreams" from my cousin). My cousin is actually helping him out by convincing him to seek marriage counseling. She has no intention on hooking up with him and I'm so relieved. Yay!!!!: yahoo:

Dec 18th, 2007, 08:09 PM	#2
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! WHEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW... And I hope he takes to counselling... a 50 year old married man with a crush on a 25 year old spells trouble for ALL involved! Glad you talked to her.

Dec 18th, 2007, 08:22 PM	#3
Bubble Girl Member	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! Very good to hear. She does need to be careful though, as sending a reply such as "sweet dreams" could give the wrong impression, and if she is trying to discourage his interest, she would be better not responding to his texts. KWIM?

Dec 18th, 2007, 10:06 PM	#4
caxe Loves root beer. Location: The Southeast, US	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! See...that's why lots of us suggested for you to do or say nothing... LOL __________________ Christmas without fruitcake is like St. Sigmund's Day without the headless boy.

Dec 18th, 2007, 10:20 PM	#5
dallas Ya anno	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! ....and perhaps it would be best in future, if you didn't read phone messages that are meant for others. __________________

Dec 19th, 2007, 02:03 AM	#6
chelsae Member	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! ^^^ lol It's good that she's not having an affair! :) __________________ "Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening." -Coco Chanel

Dec 19th, 2007, 02:57 AM	#7
fiatflux Member	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! For her to allow him to say "miss you" and "luv ya" (and to respond w/"sweet dreams") is crossing the line, though. Put yourself in his wife's place...would she be fine with that communication? You yourself jumped to conclusions about what was going on...well, you had good reason to! She needs a wake up call if she thinks that she is "helping" with his marriage...it's actually quite the opposite. She's keeping him hanging on to the hope of a relationship with her by allowing that kind of communication.

Dec 19th, 2007, 09:48 AM	#8
Jahpson Member Location: The Playground	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! see that? now had you got involved or whatever you would have looked pretty silly. dont get yourself involved in other peoples relationship __________________ Amazingly Sophisticated Happy Holidays to all my TPF friends!

Dec 19th, 2007, 07:07 PM	#9
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Dec 19th, 2007, 10:17 PM	#10
paintednightsky Member	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! That's great you talked with her. I know some people say don't talk to her, etc. but it seemed you were very close to her anyway so I'm glad it all worked out! Sometimes people are too afraid of losing friendships but I don't think I could be friends with anyone who cheated. I had a friend who cheated with every guy she could (total skank) so I quit being friends with her! Speaks volumes about character of a friend I wouldn't want (plus she was a klepto!)

Dec 21st, 2007, 01:17 PM	#11
GUCCI_COOCHIE 90 day ban! 6/1-8/31 Location: OC.	Re: YAY! MY cousin isn't having an affair!!!! I didnt comment on your other thread, but I'm glad you're relieved from all this! hehe __________________ *CURRENTLY ON A 90-day BAN! http://90dayshoppingrehab.blogspot.com/