would you date a man with three "baby mamas"?

shoppingisme · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:32 PM

i know someone who is contemplating this. (they have been going out casually for a few months, but now he wants to make it official and exclusive).
she asked for my opinion, and i told her to run in the opposite direction.

one child gets support and the ex wife gets alimony, the ex first girlfriend just gets child support and the other chick -- fiancee after his divorce from his wife - gets child support too.
and the ex wife is evil and works hard to make his life a living hell.
she called his house recently -my coworker answered and the ex told her that if she ever touched her child or ever tried to discipline her child that she would kick her ass...now mind you, my coworker has NOT even met any of the kids yet

(they were waiting to be official for a while). he told my coworker this is what she did to his EX fiancee too!

the kids are 10, 8, 3 (he was married once, engaged once, and had a kid as a teen). so, technically he only has two "baby mamas" and an ex wife.

i say no - too much drama to deal with.

what do you think?

how many baby mamas/daddies is too many?

or, if they are all civil, is three or even five baby mamas/daddies okay?

Syntagma · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:37 PM

Sorry but no! Just too much baggage!

joann121270 · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:40 PM

To much drama for me. I would run the other way.

omgsweet · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:42 PM

Whoa.

I guess it depends on the guy.

He'd have to be pretty amazing to make him worth all the drama and baggage.

Rockst@r · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:43 PM

RUN! Too much drama. How old is your friend? In the 20's, one can be selective enough to not date anyone with children (especially if she doesn't have any). If she's older, then men her age are more likely to have children. Multiple baby mamas sounds like the guy is indiscriminate with spreading his seed. Personally, if I weren't married (I have one child with my hubby and I'm 32) I'd only consider a man with multiple children if they're by the same woman, preferably someone he was married to.

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:45 PM

I think it depends on the "baby Mommas" if they are all level headed and drama free(which is sound like they are not drama free), then I would say..possibly. But since they seem to come with drama and a lot of immaturity, then my answer would be, no.

If a guy were to tell me he had 3 kids by 3 different woman, my first thought would be..."Is he trying to make me the 4th?"

shoppingisme · Dec 30th, 2007, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by QueenOfDa702

If a guy were to tell me he had 3 kids by 3 different woman, my first thought would be..."Is he trying to make me the 4th?"

that's my thought and i would never be the FOURTH woman he ran all up and through. but that's just me.

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Originally Posted by Rockst@r

I'd only consider a man with multiple children if they're by the same woman, preferably someone he was married to.

i feel the same way. imo, it just seems so...skankish to have three baby mamas or daddies. two, i'd say stay, but three?? and she wants kids too and he still wants more. but i told her if it were me i'd run away but that she should follow her own mind and heart.

Speedy · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:05 PM

Yup, too much drama.

And after five or six "baby's mommas'", when is he going to settle down?

mundodabolsa · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by omgsweet

Whoa.

I guess it depends on the guy.

He'd have to be pretty amazing to make him worth all the drama and baggage.

I'd say if he got himself in this situation, any chance of him being amazing is ruled out.

Rockst@r · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:16 PM

mundodabolsa, your comment made me laugh out loud...and is oh so true!

HubbaWubba · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:23 PM

He must make a lot of money to support his habit of dropping sperm so easily. The man is irresponsible. Baby Mama Drama is putting it lightly. Like someone else said, it would be different if they were all kids by the same mama, but three different ones...Hell to the NO! I hope your friend is using bc if she doesn't want to be part of his posse. His only saving grace is that he told her about the situation...but that wouldn't change anything in my eyes.

Pursegrrl · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:41 PM

Too much drama for me.

Melissa71 · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:47 PM

No way, too much drama. He'd have to have some extremely persuasive other talents to make me even consider it.

Adore · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:55 PM

No way... no way ever.

Sweetpea83 · Dec 30th, 2007, 03:57 PM

Uh no...too much drama.

Dec 30th, 2007, 02:32 PM	#1
shoppingisme Member	would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? i know someone who is contemplating this. (they have been going out casually for a few months, but now he wants to make it official and exclusive). she asked for my opinion, and i told her to run in the opposite direction. one child gets support and the ex wife gets alimony, the ex first girlfriend just gets child support and the other chick -- fiancee after his divorce from his wife - gets child support too. and the ex wife is evil and works hard to make his life a living hell. she called his house recently -my coworker answered and the ex told her that if she ever touched her child or ever tried to discipline her child that she would kick her ass...now mind you, my coworker has NOT even met any of the kids yet (they were waiting to be official for a while). he told my coworker this is what she did to his EX fiancee too! the kids are 10, 8, 3 (he was married once, engaged once, and had a kid as a teen). so, technically he only has two "baby mamas" and an ex wife. i say no - too much drama to deal with. what do you think? how many baby mamas/daddies is too many? or, if they are all civil, is three or even five baby mamas/daddies okay?

Dec 30th, 2007, 02:37 PM	#2
Syntagma Member	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? Sorry but no! Just too much baggage! __________________

Dec 30th, 2007, 02:40 PM	#3
joann121270 Only Louis Vuitton Location: Southern Ca. In A Resort	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? To much drama for me. I would run the other way.

Dec 30th, 2007, 02:42 PM	#4
omgsweet omg...cute bag!! Location: Scottsdale, Az	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? Whoa. I guess it depends on the guy. He'd have to be pretty amazing to make him worth all the drama and baggage. __________________

Dec 30th, 2007, 02:43 PM	#5
Rockst@r Zeta lady 4ever Location: Philadelphia	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? RUN! Too much drama. How old is your friend? In the 20's, one can be selective enough to not date anyone with children (especially if she doesn't have any). If she's older, then men her age are more likely to have children. Multiple baby mamas sounds like the guy is indiscriminate with spreading his seed. Personally, if I weren't married (I have one child with my hubby and I'm 32) I'd only consider a man with multiple children if they're by the same woman, preferably someone he was married to.

Dec 30th, 2007, 02:45 PM	#6
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? I think it depends on the "baby Mommas" if they are all level headed and drama free(which is sound like they are not drama free), then I would say..possibly. But since they seem to come with drama and a lot of immaturity, then my answer would be, no. If a guy were to tell me he had 3 kids by 3 different woman, my first thought would be..."Is he trying to make me the 4th?" __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:05 PM	#8
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? Yup, too much drama. And after five or six "baby's mommas'", when is he going to settle down?

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:16 PM	#10
Rockst@r Zeta lady 4ever Location: Philadelphia	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? mundodabolsa, your comment made me laugh out loud...and is oh so true!

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:23 PM	#11
HubbaWubba Sofa King Banned	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? He must make a lot of money to support his habit of dropping sperm so easily. The man is irresponsible. Baby Mama Drama is putting it lightly. Like someone else said, it would be different if they were all kids by the same mama, but three different ones...Hell to the NO! I hope your friend is using bc if she doesn't want to be part of his posse. His only saving grace is that he told her about the situation...but that wouldn't change anything in my eyes.

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:41 PM	#12
Pursegrrl Oh! That Joe! Location: Seattle	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? Too much drama for me. __________________

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:47 PM	#13
Melissa71 Member Location: Illinois	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? No way, too much drama. He'd have to have some extremely persuasive other talents to make me even consider it.

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:55 PM	#14
Adore Member Location: USA	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? No way... no way ever.

Dec 30th, 2007, 03:57 PM	#15
Sweetpea83 Happy Holidays!	Re: would you date a man with three "baby mamas"? Uh no...too much drama. __________________ The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge.- Bertrand Russell