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boxermom · Sep 28th, 2009, 05:04 PM

I'd feel hurt. My sons are older than you and I've always sent cards and a gift for every birthday--a parent doesn't just forget their child's birthday unless they are very self-absorbed. I'm sorry.

Happy belated birthday!

JNH14 · Sep 28th, 2009, 08:08 PM

I'd be really disappointed! I come from a large family, but we still take the time to call or send a card. I don't think you're being overly sensitive-someone ought to whack your parents upside their head and tell them that you're their daughter-FOREVER! That being said-do you also remember to call the rest of your family or send a card for their birthdays?

nathansgirl1908 · Sep 28th, 2009, 08:31 PM

No, it isn't overreacting, but I guess I feel that way because my parents ALWAYS made a big deal out of my birthdays.

The fact that you raised this issue means you had some expectation of SOMETHING. My only question is whether they didn't call because of the tension you say exists. And is it possible that your mom is taking ownership of that problem as well?

Angelfangs · Sep 28th, 2009, 11:15 PM

Birthdays in my family are a HUGE deal...always call, send and receive cards, gifts. Always a favorite cake ranging from Prune (actually not bad made from scratch...ha) to Red Devil Food....ALWAYS with two or three kinds of ice-cream, toppings and sprinkles...And balloons and banners!! And the BDay person gets to choose what they want to be cooked or where they want to go out. I LOVE birthdays and love to celebrate them with my friends and family. I'm sorry THIS year didn't make you feel good....maybe next year... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Miss Evy Rocks! · Sep 28th, 2009, 11:29 PM

You have every right to be hurt

I would be.
I'm 27 and my mommy still calls me the morning of my birthday and buys me a card and a gift

Jasmine K. · Sep 29th, 2009, 12:04 AM

Happy Birthday OP! I totally understand where you are coming from and yes, I would get sad too. I am having family problems as well so I completely understand the strain it may put on things. But don't let it get you down! Are the members of your family in close proximity? If not then it may simply be a case of "out of sight, out of mind". Don't put too much weight into the Birthday issue because that shouldn't be the measure of ones love.

Rockysmom · Sep 29th, 2009, 12:27 AM

I would be hurt. I don't expect a party or anything, just a phone call or even a voice mail or text. I hope it didn't completely ruin your day.

bibliophile · Sep 29th, 2009, 06:38 AM

Firstly, HAPPY BELATED BDAY!

I'd be really hurt if I were you, especially since it IS in your family's culture for bdays to be a big deal (ie big bbqs for your brothers etc). I think you should tell them this (in a non-aggressive way, cos as you said things are already a little tense), if only to make yourself feel better and for them to hopefully remember next year.

PurseAddict79 · Sep 29th, 2009, 11:07 AM

JNH14 Yes, I always call or text my brothers on their bday and always call my parents and send them a card with a giftcard so they can go out to dinner to celebrate. I guess that's where the expectation comes from. That whole 'treat others as you would hope they treat you' thing.

nathansgirl1908 I don't think so. My mom and I actually are on the same "side" when it comes to the other issue (we both feel my brother should have dumped his gf), so I don't think that's what it is.

Jasmine k My family lives about an hour away... I talk to them a few times a week. I'm just baffled how they could look at the calendar or whatever and think Hmm its September 26th... nope, nothing special about today kwim?

rockysmom I feel bad, because it kinda did. I was with my dbf who was sooo good to me... heartfelt card, beautiful and thoughful gifts, very affectionate and attentive, and I kept checking my phone... waiting... and then I burst into tears when I was getting ready for him to take me out to a nice dinner. I feel bad, because he knew I was upset and despite his best efforts there was really nothing he could do...

carvedwords · Sep 29th, 2009, 11:38 AM

I'd be hurt and that's because my parents always made, and still do, make a big deal out of my birthday and my sisters. I guess it would be better if you had no expectations and then you wouldn't be hurt, but how could you not? They are your parents and who wouldn't be hut?

Happy Birthday!!!!!

DiorDeVille · Sep 29th, 2009, 12:06 PM

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!

I hope your family is a bit more thoughtful next year- but in the meantime, treat yourself! :)

dusty paws · Sep 29th, 2009, 12:23 PM

I'd be hurt too.

But at least your BF and friends made you feel special. Happy belated!

nataliam1976 · Sep 29th, 2009, 02:45 PM

You cant choose your family, so dont worry too much about it...but you can choose your friends and your SO and those all love you and care for you. Happy birthday sweetheart

PurseAddict79 · Sep 29th, 2009, 02:52 PM

Thank you for the Happy Birthday wishes everyone

talexs · Sep 29th, 2009, 03:18 PM

PurseAddict-
I don't think it is wrong of you to feel hurt and def don't think you are being overly sensitive. I have read so many of your posts on tpf (generally in the beauty bar) and gathering what I can from your posts you sound really nice and considerate and like you would always take the time out of your schedule--no matter how busy--to wish someone a happy bday. I am sorry that nobody called, texted, emailed, sent a card or anything to you. Happy 30th Pumpkin!

Sep 28th, 2009, 08:08 PM	#17
JNH14 Midlife...no crisis! Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Somewhere South... Posts: 2,428	I'd be really disappointed! I come from a large family, but we still take the time to call or send a card. I don't think you're being overly sensitive-someone ought to whack your parents upside their head and tell them that you're their daughter-FOREVER! That being said-do you also remember to call the rest of your family or send a card for their birthdays?
	__________________ "Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out". John Wooden

Sep 28th, 2009, 08:31 PM	#18
nathansgirl1908 Laughing AT you Joined: Apr 2006 Location: The Land of the Biased Posts: 5,013	No, it isn't overreacting, but I guess I feel that way because my parents ALWAYS made a big deal out of my birthdays. The fact that you raised this issue means you had some expectation of SOMETHING. My only question is whether they didn't call because of the tension you say exists. And is it possible that your mom is taking ownership of that problem as well?
	__________________ Before giving someone a piece of your mind, make sure there is enough to go around. "The love inside...you take it with you." Patrick Swayze in Ghost

Sep 28th, 2009, 11:15 PM	#19
Angelfangs Member Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 65	Birthdays in my family are a HUGE deal...always call, send and receive cards, gifts. Always a favorite cake ranging from Prune (actually not bad made from scratch...ha) to Red Devil Food....ALWAYS with two or three kinds of ice-cream, toppings and sprinkles...And balloons and banners!! And the BDay person gets to choose what they want to be cooked or where they want to go out. I LOVE birthdays and love to celebrate them with my friends and family. I'm sorry THIS year didn't make you feel good....maybe next year... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
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Sep 28th, 2009, 11:29 PM	#20
Miss Evy Rocks! ♥Handbag Collector♥ Joined: Dec 2007 Location: Where My Purse Obsession Reigns! Posts: 2,954	You have every right to be hurt I would be. I'm 27 and my mommy still calls me the morning of my birthday and buys me a card and a gift
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Sep 29th, 2009, 12:04 AM	#21
Jasmine K. Sucker For Fashion!! Joined: Jul 2009 Location: A Place Where LVoe Is Like Breathing Posts: 66	Happy Birthday OP! I totally understand where you are coming from and yes, I would get sad too. I am having family problems as well so I completely understand the strain it may put on things. But don't let it get you down! Are the members of your family in close proximity? If not then it may simply be a case of "out of sight, out of mind". Don't put too much weight into the Birthday issue because that shouldn't be the measure of ones love.
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Sep 28th, 2009, 05:04 PM	#16
boxermom Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: North Carolina Posts: 13,700	I'd feel hurt. My sons are older than you and I've always sent cards and a gift for every birthday--a parent doesn't just forget their child's birthday unless they are very self-absorbed. I'm sorry. Happy belated birthday!

Sep 29th, 2009, 12:27 AM	#22
Rockysmom Member Joined: May 2008 Posts: 941	I would be hurt. I don't expect a party or anything, just a phone call or even a voice mail or text. I hope it didn't completely ruin your day.
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Sep 29th, 2009, 06:38 AM	#23
bibliophile Newly obsessed Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 488	Firstly, HAPPY BELATED BDAY! I'd be really hurt if I were you, especially since it IS in your family's culture for bdays to be a big deal (ie big bbqs for your brothers etc). I think you should tell them this (in a non-aggressive way, cos as you said things are already a little tense), if only to make yourself feel better and for them to hopefully remember next year.
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Sep 29th, 2009, 11:07 AM	#24
PurseAddict79 OP PerpetuallyPenniless Joined: Sep 2008 Location: The Mall Posts: 1,233	JNH14 Yes, I always call or text my brothers on their bday and always call my parents and send them a card with a giftcard so they can go out to dinner to celebrate. I guess that's where the expectation comes from. That whole 'treat others as you would hope they treat you' thing. nathansgirl1908 I don't think so. My mom and I actually are on the same "side" when it comes to the other issue (we both feel my brother should have dumped his gf), so I don't think that's what it is. Jasmine k My family lives about an hour away... I talk to them a few times a week. I'm just baffled how they could look at the calendar or whatever and think Hmm its September 26th... nope, nothing special about today kwim? rockysmom I feel bad, because it kinda did. I was with my dbf who was sooo good to me... heartfelt card, beautiful and thoughful gifts, very affectionate and attentive, and I kept checking my phone... waiting... and then I burst into tears when I was getting ready for him to take me out to a nice dinner. I feel bad, because he knew I was upset and despite his best efforts there was really nothing he could do...

Sep 29th, 2009, 11:38 AM	#25
carvedwords ♥ Joined: Apr 2007 Location: California Posts: 5,131	I'd be hurt and that's because my parents always made, and still do, make a big deal out of my birthday and my sisters. I guess it would be better if you had no expectations and then you wouldn't be hurt, but how could you not? They are your parents and who wouldn't be hut? Happy Birthday!!!!!
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Sep 29th, 2009, 12:06 PM	#26
DiorDeVille Member Joined: Apr 2006 Location: U.S. Posts: 615	HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!! I hope your family is a bit more thoughtful next year- but in the meantime, treat yourself! :)

Sep 29th, 2009, 12:23 PM	#27
dusty paws Prada&BalAddict Joined: Sep 2006 Location: San Francisco Posts: 9,079	I'd be hurt too. But at least your BF and friends made you feel special. Happy belated!
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Sep 29th, 2009, 02:52 PM	#29
PurseAddict79 OP PerpetuallyPenniless Joined: Sep 2008 Location: The Mall Posts: 1,233	Thank you for the Happy Birthday wishes everyone

Sep 29th, 2009, 03:18 PM	#30
talexs I Love It!!!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: always in the office :( Posts: 1,499	PurseAddict- I don't think it is wrong of you to feel hurt and def don't think you are being overly sensitive. I have read so many of your posts on tpf (generally in the beauty bar) and gathering what I can from your posts you sound really nice and considerate and like you would always take the time out of your schedule--no matter how busy--to wish someone a happy bday. I am sorry that nobody called, texted, emailed, sent a card or anything to you. Happy 30th Pumpkin!

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