Would this bother you?

[sweetneet]

i agree with the others, definitely not a big deal at all and i would just let it go.

i'm on Facebook a lot, and i would say 75% of the people i chat with & follow updates etc are men, just because most of my former co-workers and classmates happen to be men (i studied & worked in engineering). so i never really think twice about it, actually. my DH (in the same field) is used to it, if he was bothered every time i made chatted small talk on FB with an male coworker or classmate i would honestly find it odd. i mean, i see nothing wrong with having a friend or acquaintance of opposite sex to discuss things like work, etc. like others said, unless inappropriate things are being discussed, i see nothing wrong with it.

[queenvictoria2]

Originally Posted by guccimamma

i'd be weirded out if my husband was on facebook at all ..but i'm old

LOL at this! I wonder also at the ages of the responses and the OP .... seems a completely different world to me. I was on Facebook for a short time and it was too much drama for me

[dallas]

Originally Posted by guccimamma

i'd be weirded out if my husband was on facebook at all ..but i'm old

Me too.

Oh and no OP, it wouldn't bother me.

[BagLadie]

Let it go. He should be allowed to have female friends and the fact that he looks at her page only means he is looking at her page. I wouldn't read too much into it.

[MarneeB]

Originally Posted by guccimamma

i'd be weirded out if my husband was on facebook at all ..but i'm old

LOL! Funny, guccimamma! But me, too.

OP, if you trust your husband, don't let this ruin that.

[amymaria]

this is why me and my bf aren't even friends on fb.

anyway, let it go. i talk to my coworkers via FB sometimes when they're out of town on business and they're bored and i'm bored. it means nothing. just mutual friendship. you're allowed to like and get along with people of the other sex.

[cookie888]

I suppose you've got the answer you needed from everyone else.
Let it go

[sugarjaws]

I know everyone is telling you to let it go, it means nothing, it's not a big deal, but obviously it is a big deal to you which is why you posted on here. Personally, it would upset me too. If there is nothing on her fb page, then why is he checking it, and frequently at that? If he sees her at work everyday, I don't understand having to go on facebook to do whatever when he could just talk to her at work.

I wouldn't like it one bit. I have been doing the social network, chat sites ever since they have been accessible on the internet and from my experience, it is too easy to develop some kind of emotional relationship. I'm not saying anything is going on, but why does he "out of habit" feel the need to keep checking this woman's site? There is some kind of weird attraction going on.

I'm sorry, but this is weird. Personally, if it were me, I'd talk to him about it until you feel 100% sure there is nothing going on. Even if you "let it go", or whatever, I'm not sure you will truly let it go. It will always be in the back of your mind. Do yourself a favor and ask him to stop doing this, especially if it bothers you, and if it means nothing at all. It shouldn't be a problem for him to stop if it means nothing. He can learn to break this habit.

This is my opinion and I'm sticking with it :)

[sugarjaws]

I have been reading other posts and just want to add that sometimes it starts out innocent enough.... but when you start developing relationships out of work, and it starts to become more emotional, that's when bad things start to happen. I've seen it happen so many times.

I'm just trying to give you the other side, and am not saying that there is anything going on... just saying keep your eyes wide open and look out for any weird changes in behavior. Just sayin....

[NVMyLV]

Don't jump to conclusions. My DH jumped to conclusions about me and my male friends on FB (thanks to his nosey sister trying to stir up sh!t in my life because her life must bore her so much) and he accused me of having an affair with about 3 different guys. Since about a month ago, I no longer have FB because he had such a crazy fit. I had never seen him like that in all of decade long marriage. I thought that we had the PERFECT marriage and never even would consider cheating on him or think of him cheating on me. I am angry and hurt. Angry at his sister and hurt and angry at him for thinking that I would do that.

[simseema17]

Any male points of view?

[juneping]

I am not male and I find it bit odd that he only checked one person's page....why just her or her life is more fun or more picture?
At the mean time encourage your DH make some male friends....according to your post he doesn't have many friends...

[NVMyLV]

^^Did OP say that the female co-worker's FB page, was the only person's page that he was checking? I must have missed that, when I read the post. Also, how does OP know how "frequently" that DH is checking the female co-workers FB page? Is he doing it in front of her or does she have a key stroke tracker on the computer to keep up with his online activities?

[haribo15]

Just let it go. I think your DH was being honest.

[Pursegrrl]

Originally Posted by sweetneet

i agree with the others, definitely not a big deal at all and i would just let it go. i'm on Facebook a lot, and i would say 75% of the people i chat with & follow updates etc are men, just because most of my former co-workers and classmates happen to be men (i studied & worked in engineering). so i never really think twice about it, actually. my DH (in the same field) is used to it, if he was bothered every time i made chatted small talk on FB with an male coworker or classmate i would honestly find it odd. i mean, i see nothing wrong with having a friend or acquaintance of opposite sex to discuss things like work, etc. like others said, unless inappropriate things are being discussed, i see nothing wrong with it.

Another vote here to let it go. I too have worked with 80-90% men over the years (IT fields) and am on FB with quite a few former (male) co-workers (and their wives are FB friends too).

Whether it's phone, email or FB, I always ask how their wives are doing, how are the kids, "...be sure to tell <wife's name> I said hello." Stuff like that. Not that there is any remote interest in crossing the line with any of these guys, but it just underscores the boundary, if that makes sense, and my respect for their families as a single woman.