Why so much drama?

[Cheetah7]

Originally Posted by LinaFelina

I'm male and I have to ask, is it part of growing up as a woman, is it a social thing that just happens?

IMO, I think for some it's part of growing up. They see their mom, sister or another family member engaging in this behavior so it becomes part of the norm for them. Still for others it might be insecurity or even just plain boredom. I know in my experience with friends who were drama queens, they were just bored and had to create drama wherever they went. In my workplace, it could be stress and/or insecurity like another poster above me suggested.

[SunnyFreckles]

1. Some women require drama to live.

2. Some women will die if drama enters their life.

3. Then there are all the others!

Basically, as I have grown into a real grown up, I have had to decide what I want in my life and what I don't. If I find a person to fall into #1 catagory, I won't even give the girl a chance. I have been through the drama thing for the last 10 years and I am all done. I can take a lot, but once I get pushed to the point of it becoming personal...I just have to say no more.

So now...I don't have a lot of friends! I am not upset or hurt or tainted or anything! I am just a much happier lady now with people in my life who love me for me and who let me love them for them! Pretty basic stuff when you come down to it!

[simplygm819]

Originally Posted by natalie78

I've always worked with mixes of men and women, but have always found myself gravitating towards the men. A lot less drama involved and I have more in common with men.

I used to work in an office where the majority of their employees were female and it was NOT fun. A lot of them were judgmental and always had something to say or gossip about whether it was the way you dressed/act/talk and they ALWAYS made it a point to run and let the head of the dept know when you goofed up on something, no matter how minor the mistake. What is up with that? Sometimes it feels like competition is so harsh between women as compared to men. No matter what you do, it feels like someone will always be jealous of you. If you're happy, they can't stand it and when your life is feeling down in the dumps, they rejoice. THAT is just plain scary..whatever happened to more unison among women if there are no better people to understand the way we think/act than OTHER women?

[mellecyn]

I have come accross a lot of drama queens, it was often in my student jobs where I´d meet women not from the same background, daddy´s girls. I studied in a creative field, and thought the girls there were cool because of our common passion and giving very little time to boys drama or fashion dramas for instance....Nowadays I meet women from very different fields, I just show up as myself and I trust my instincts to detect what they ´re made of, so far I have been very blessed to meet substantial women, very funny, supportive, entertaining, compassionate, passionate, mature, a little goofy and nerdy like myself, but all good. I do still believe in getting what you give. I give my honesty, see what happens, but disapoint me and I am gone. In all honesty I think I finally grew up to enjoy female´s company and wonder if I wouldn´t be happy that way...forget men lol. Of course some were showing jealousy, but I don´t do anything to attract that, so that´s their problem not mine. Trust your instincts, take your time. I have such little problem establishing meaningful friendships with international women that I am wondering why the relationship side of things isn´t going so well ???!?!?!

[gacats]

I'm in the 50 age group and detest drama. When I began my new job over a year ago, one of my female coworkers said "Do you like everyone? I never hear you say anything negative about anyone" Well, guess what? Unless I'm given a reason to say something negative, I won't.
But I am a person who hates conflict since life is too short and precious for it. I'll just drop out of sight for a while, until the clouds pass.
I'm much happier this way.