Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl.. POLL

PrinceAbdullah · Feb 21st, 2008, 01:39 AM

I writing an essay for my comp class..

Would love a lady's perspective on this. When you go out to eat, or see a movie, etc, who should pay? Should it always be the guy, or should it be split?

I always pay, and hate it when a girl insists to pay..

devoted · Feb 21st, 2008, 01:42 AM

At the beginning of a relationship, or if it's just intended as casual dating, then the bill should be half and half. Or the guy pays for one date, then the girl pays for the second date. Once it's serious, the guy should pay for everything. I only believe this because sometimes a man expects certain things from a female if he's taking her out to nice places and spending money on her, this way he knows not to even think about it.

poptarts · Feb 21st, 2008, 01:51 AM

It's ok for him to pick up the tab on the first or second date if he's the one that asked you out. But after that, a girl should share the tab. I'm not saying 50/50 down to the last penny every time a check lands on table; but more like if he buys dinner; then you get drinks/entertainments or if he treats this time, you'll get the next round.

PrinceAbdullah · Feb 21st, 2008, 01:56 AM

Would love a lady's perspective on this. When you go out to eat, or see a movie, etc, who should pay? Should it always be the guy, always the girl, should it be split, or guy pays for one date, then the girl pays for the second date?

claireZk · Feb 21st, 2008, 01:57 AM

I think when a guy asks a girl out on a date and he's trying to pursue her then he should pay. It's not a deal-breaking thing for me, I just see it as a nice gesture. I feel a little put off if a guy doesn't offer-- it's like "he doesn't think I'm worth the cost of dinner?!

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After you've been dating for awhile, I think the girl should pick up the tab sometimes too. Especially if she makes just as much/more money than the guy

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Pinkcaviar · Feb 21st, 2008, 02:19 AM

I think it depends on the relationship and communication between the couple and what they're comfortable with. I have some friends that refuses to let the guys pay and others who only let the guys pay.

However, I'm a little old fashion, but I really prefer the guy to pay especially when he's pursuing the girl. It just bothers me when a new couple starts of a nice date and it ends with the focus on the bill -dividing every cent.
It can also get awkward on the first date when the guys seems reluclant to pay the entire sum and stares at the bill ...and Im thinking should I fork over some cash for him?

I don't think there's anything wrong with a guy treating his lady!

And like ClaireZk metioned, after you've been awhile in the relationship the girl can also pick up the tab and treat her boy every once in awhile.

Zophie · Feb 21st, 2008, 02:22 AM

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Originally Posted by PrinceAbdullah

I writing an essay for my comp class..

Would love a lady's perspective on this. When you go out to eat, or see a movie, etc, who should pay? Should it always be the guy, or should it be split?

I always pay, and hate it when a girl insists to pay..

I like you!

Ideally, I think the guy should pay.

Sarsi · Feb 21st, 2008, 02:46 AM

I'm old fashioned when it comes to dating... LOL!
I like being treated like a lady.
I dont remember ever paying for a date...

Charles · Feb 21st, 2008, 03:19 AM

This has been brought up a few times before. You might want to do a search on it.

ItalianFashion · Feb 21st, 2008, 03:51 AM

I think the guy should pay.. Guess im old fashioned about that. I do not think he should ever expect anything either but a lot of men do.

mellecyn · Feb 21st, 2008, 04:49 AM

I think the guy pays if he´s pursuing the girl and wants to impress her. If it´s a mutual "let´s have a date", one can pick up the tab and the other one next time, or split.
I feel if I split, I owe nothing to the other person, and it´s more fair.
I don´t understand why women, screaming for gender equality, equal salaries, we want the men to pay for everything !!! I mean we work now, we make money....I like men who take initiatives, I would let them pay the first time, not after...unless I don´t work.

Cal · Feb 21st, 2008, 07:35 AM

Pffff........guy should pay.

rubylola · Feb 21st, 2008, 09:57 AM

Wow- I am really surprised at all of these answers that the guy should pay- isn't that a little last century? Girls now earn their own money and should pay their own way.

I think that whoever asks the other person out on a first date should expect to pay for the date (regardless of sex), although the person being asked should also offer to pay their share as it is good manners.

Thereafter, once a relationship is serious paying responsibility should be fairly split (and that split should take into consideration if one of the couple earns significantly more than the other- in which case it would seem fair if they pay for more).

I am now married and remember on my first date with my husband how he teased me when I insisted on buying the second round of drinks at the bar we met at, asking was I one of those 'feminists'. To me it isn't really about feminism, I consider everyone to be equal, and think the way I think it should be done is fair and no-one owes anyone anything.

Now that we are married I am happy to let my husband pay for everything, but once you are married its all a big shared pot anyway!

Thought I should clear up where i say 'regardless of sex'- i don't mean that whoever asks the other person out on a first date should expect to pay for the date (regardless of whether they will be having sex), but rather regardless of what sex they are.

Laurie8504 · Feb 21st, 2008, 09:59 AM

I don't think you can start two threads on the same thing...

keya · Feb 21st, 2008, 10:01 AM

I think the guy should pay (supposing that he's the one who did the asking out) but the girl should offer to. I always offer to pay, but to this date I still haven't been allowed to

if the relationship progresses, it's only fair to take turns in treating the other. I have a friend who used to cook for her bf, and he'd take her out for dinner once a week or something. Either way, there should be some shared balance once things get more serious, but as long as the guy is persuing the girl, I think he should pay

View Poll Results: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl
Always the Man..	58	45.67%
Always the Woman..	1	0.79%
Split the Bill..	18	14.17%
Guy pays for one date, then the girl pays for the second date..	50	39.37%
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Feb 21st, 2008, 01:39 AM	#1
PrinceAbdullah Sofa King Banned	Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I writing an essay for my comp class.. Would love a lady's perspective on this. When you go out to eat, or see a movie, etc, who should pay? Should it always be the guy, or should it be split? I always pay, and hate it when a girl insists to pay..

Feb 21st, 2008, 01:42 AM	#2
devoted Member	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl At the beginning of a relationship, or if it's just intended as casual dating, then the bill should be half and half. Or the guy pays for one date, then the girl pays for the second date. Once it's serious, the guy should pay for everything. I only believe this because sometimes a man expects certain things from a female if he's taking her out to nice places and spending money on her, this way he knows not to even think about it.

Feb 21st, 2008, 01:51 AM	#3
poptarts Member	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl It's ok for him to pick up the tab on the first or second date if he's the one that asked you out. But after that, a girl should share the tab. I'm not saying 50/50 down to the last penny every time a check lands on table; but more like if he buys dinner; then you get drinks/entertainments or if he treats this time, you'll get the next round. __________________ The ever expanding List 35cm Black Matte Croc PHW 30cm Violet Lizzy PHW 32cm Indigo Box Kelly GHW Red Caviar Jumbo SHW Black Matte Reissue 228 Large bronze python flap

Feb 21st, 2008, 01:56 AM	#4
PrinceAbdullah Sofa King Banned	Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl.. POLL Would love a lady's perspective on this. When you go out to eat, or see a movie, etc, who should pay? Should it always be the guy, always the girl, should it be split, or guy pays for one date, then the girl pays for the second date?

Feb 21st, 2008, 01:57 AM	#5
claireZk Member	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I think when a guy asks a girl out on a date and he's trying to pursue her then he should pay. It's not a deal-breaking thing for me, I just see it as a nice gesture. I feel a little put off if a guy doesn't offer-- it's like "he doesn't think I'm worth the cost of dinner?! " After you've been dating for awhile, I think the girl should pick up the tab sometimes too. Especially if she makes just as much/more money than the guy ...

Feb 21st, 2008, 02:19 AM	#6
Pinkcaviar Pinkcaviar Location: Canada, eh?	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I think it depends on the relationship and communication between the couple and what they're comfortable with. I have some friends that refuses to let the guys pay and others who only let the guys pay. However, I'm a little old fashion, but I really prefer the guy to pay especially when he's pursuing the girl. It just bothers me when a new couple starts of a nice date and it ends with the focus on the bill -dividing every cent. It can also get awkward on the first date when the guys seems reluclant to pay the entire sum and stares at the bill ...and Im thinking should I fork over some cash for him? I don't think there's anything wrong with a guy treating his lady! And like ClaireZk metioned, after you've been awhile in the relationship the girl can also pick up the tab and treat her boy every once in awhile.

Feb 21st, 2008, 02:46 AM	#8
Sarsi Member Location: Bay Area CA.	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I'm old fashioned when it comes to dating... LOL! I like being treated like a lady. I dont remember ever paying for a date... __________________ SARSI

Feb 21st, 2008, 03:19 AM	#9
Charles Sucks at budgeting Location: Jacksonville, Fl	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl This has been brought up a few times before. You might want to do a search on it.

Feb 21st, 2008, 03:51 AM	#10
ItalianFashion Member Location: Grumolo Italy and NC	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I think the guy should pay.. Guess im old fashioned about that. I do not think he should ever expect anything either but a lot of men do.

Feb 21st, 2008, 04:49 AM	#11
mellecyn Take me to LV Location: 300 km from LV somewhere in Europe	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I think the guy pays if he´s pursuing the girl and wants to impress her. If it´s a mutual "let´s have a date", one can pick up the tab and the other one next time, or split. I feel if I split, I owe nothing to the other person, and it´s more fair. I don´t understand why women, screaming for gender equality, equal salaries, we want the men to pay for everything !!! I mean we work now, we make money....I like men who take initiatives, I would let them pay the first time, not after...unless I don´t work. __________________ "You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete" Buckminster Fuller

Feb 21st, 2008, 07:35 AM	#12
Cal For Avandome Location: Australia!	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl Pffff........guy should pay. __________________

Feb 21st, 2008, 09:57 AM	#13
rubylola Member	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl Wow- I am really surprised at all of these answers that the guy should pay- isn't that a little last century? Girls now earn their own money and should pay their own way. I think that whoever asks the other person out on a first date should expect to pay for the date (regardless of sex), although the person being asked should also offer to pay their share as it is good manners. Thereafter, once a relationship is serious paying responsibility should be fairly split (and that split should take into consideration if one of the couple earns significantly more than the other- in which case it would seem fair if they pay for more). I am now married and remember on my first date with my husband how he teased me when I insisted on buying the second round of drinks at the bar we met at, asking was I one of those 'feminists'. To me it isn't really about feminism, I consider everyone to be equal, and think the way I think it should be done is fair and no-one owes anyone anything. Now that we are married I am happy to let my husband pay for everything, but once you are married its all a big shared pot anyway! Thought I should clear up where i say 'regardless of sex'- i don't mean that whoever asks the other person out on a first date should expect to pay for the date (regardless of whether they will be having sex), but rather regardless of what sex they are. Last edited by rubylola; Feb 21st, 2008 at 10:01 AM.

Feb 21st, 2008, 09:59 AM	#14
Laurie8504 chocolate...where? Location: Italy	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl.. POLL I don't think you can start two threads on the same thing...

Feb 21st, 2008, 10:01 AM	#15
keya Member	Re: Who Should PAY?? Guy Or Girl I think the guy should pay (supposing that he's the one who did the asking out) but the girl should offer to. I always offer to pay, but to this date I still haven't been allowed to if the relationship progresses, it's only fair to take turns in treating the other. I have a friend who used to cook for her bf, and he'd take her out for dinner once a week or something. Either way, there should be some shared balance once things get more serious, but as long as the guy is persuing the girl, I think he should pay