Where Do You Draw The Line??

[MissyBaby]

Me and some friends were talking about it the other day....

Where do you draw the line with your SO....physically? You know? If your not planning on actually having sex itself.

[Zophie]

I think wherever you feel comfortable is where you draw the line, and that's something only you can know.

[amber11]

i think if you are deciding to wait for sex (which i didn't) you shouldn't start any of it, because once you do its hard not to let it escalate. if you really don't want it to happen i wouldn't let yourself get into the situation where you two are alone. late. at night.

[Roo]

I'm confused.

[QueenOfDa702]

Originally Posted by Roo

I'm confused.

Oh Roo, me too!

[Couture Dreams]

well if we are talking about abstaining from sex, then i believe you should abstain on all types of sex. I am no virgin, not proud of it but Im not ashamed either. I have met a bunch of girls who are "virgins" but who have done things I have never done 0_o

but like Zophie said, only you would know where the line needs to be drawn. definitely dont do anything that would make you uncomfortable. TAKE BABY STEPS! dont get caught up in the moment and get lost in the hormones.

[oo0ehxtahcee0oo]

Originally Posted by Roo

I'm confused.

I third that.

[mellecyn]

I think what Missy is saying is her and her BF have done stuff without going all the way...which is pretty common when you´re a teen.
So techinically it´s still being a "virgin".
But anyways, I agree with Amber11, once you´ve started it´s really hard to not let it escalate, the temptation becomes too strong, it´s easier to not start any of it !
Only you and BF can talk and decide what´s best for you 2, according to your wishes and beliefs.

[Bella]

Originally Posted by MissyBaby

Me and some friends were talking about it the other day....

Where do you draw the line with your SO....physically? You know? If your not planning on actually having sex itself.

I'd say you answered your own question .... everything but intercourse, right.

Have fun!

[Sternchen]

It depends on what you're comfortable doing. When I was still a virgin I basically drew the line by oral sex. If your views on being a virgin include doing nothing sexual, then I would draw it by kissing and touching.

Do what ever you're comfortable with!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by amber11

i think if you are deciding to wait for sex (which i didn't) you shouldn't start any of it, because once you do its hard not to let it escalate. if you really don't want it to happen i wouldn't let yourself get into the situation where you two are alone. late. at night.

Yup! Yup!

[LissiSays]

I agree with a lot of the comments on here. The line should be wherever you feel comfortable. I don't know how strong your self-control is... but temptation is a killer. And the further certain things go, the harder it is to resist.

[lovinalotofbags]

Kissing should be the line. No part of sexual activity besides kissing should be undertaken. Things can quickly get out of hand. Touching, massaging, heavy petting is a precursor to sex, so do not engage. Being a virgin is identified as not having sexual intercourse. But some feel that other forms are okay. Why would you do the other and not have intercourse. How about abstaining from it all until you are ready. This is just my opinion.

[illinirdhd]

Honestly, I've never understood people who say they're saving themselves or waiting for marriage, but then do everything EXCEPT have intercourse. I suppose if you're having oral sex and touching each other, you're still a virgin, but if you're giving everything else up, what's the point in holding off on that one thing? If you're going to let a man touch you with his hands and mouth, then why not just have sex? Isn't oral sex more intimate than vaginal sex? It's rare, but you CAN get pregnant without having actual intercourse, and you can certainly get an STD, so what's the point? At least when you're having sex, you'll probably use a condom. I'm guessing most people don't use condoms/dental dams for oral sex and touching.

If I were waiting for marriage (which I didn't), I would draw the line at kissing. IMO, if you're saving yourself, then save your entire self.

[lovinalotofbags]

Originally Posted by illinirdhd

Honestly, I've never understood people who say they're saving themselves or waiting for marriage, but then do everything EXCEPT have intercourse. I suppose if you're having oral sex and touching each other, you're still a virgin, but if you're giving everything else up, what's the point in holding off on that one thing? If you're going to let a man touch you with his hands and mouth, then why not just have sex? Isn't oral sex more intimate than vaginal sex? It's rare, but you CAN get pregnant without having actual intercourse, and you can certainly get an STD, so what's the point? At least when you're having sex, you'll probably use a condom. I'm guessing most people don't use condoms/dental dams for oral sex and touching.

If I were waiting for marriage (which I didn't), I would draw the line at kissing. IMO, if you're saving yourself, then save your entire self.

ITA. I am thinking the same thing that people esp teens do not use protection for oral sex. IMO oral is more intimate. I have always thought, why in the hell would you want to put your mouth down there on a man or a woman when you won't engage in intercourse People still do not know that they can get STDs from oral sex. The only thing you can't get is pregnant. Even if the penis does not penetrate, sperm will find a way. Get a clue people.