Where Do You Draw The Line??

SimplyMe · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:08 PM

You put yourself at risk of "having sex" whenever you get intimate..whether it's only kissing or touching. I'm very cautious and realistic when it comes to sex because I know I'm not someone who has extreme self control. Trust me, when you in the "moment", it's extremely hard to not go all the way.

My suggestion is to just hang out and hold hands. I wouldn't pass kissing if I were you, and even kissing passionately can turn one another on.

If you're not ready, don't let anyone force you. I know guys become very pushy when they're heated. Say no and if he doesn't respect you, then you deserve better. However, I must say not everyone is good in bed (haha it's true) and I'd want to experiment before marriage. Sex is a natural human need so I don't think anything wrong of it. But you should NEVER ever do it unless YOU want to.

illinirdhd · Jun 27th, 2008, 05:22 PM

^^^ Absolutely. A premarital test drive is a must IMO!

pattylauren · Jun 27th, 2008, 06:03 PM

It's tricky, really... Like one of the earlier posters said, stay out of situations where you guys are alone together. It depends on how committed you are. It seems there are differing levels of being a virgin these days, but if you're having O.S. then you're not a virgin anymore. Anyway, I'm waiting and I'll tell you... it's hard and you have to really be determined! I would tell you to draw the line at kissing, because anything more just escalates quickly and can easily lead to sex! Stay away from those situations.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:04 PM

I'm trying to understand the question too. are you asking how far can you go before actually being considered "doing the deed" or are you asking how far should you go to avoid "doing the deed"?

if its the first question, when ta-tas and hoo-has and ding dongs make their first appearance, I would say you are entering the land of sex.

if its the latter question, simple acts of kissing & hugging etc. always have the potential to heat up to more intense activities. the body and the mind seem to seperate at this point cause no matter how much your mind says "no" the body is saying "yes". if you can figure out how to put the brakes on things going any further you should probably be nominated for a noble prize in human relations cause I know of few people who have been able to stop every single time. (ah screw it. I no of NO ONE who has ever been able to. And I've been around for 45 years) I'm not saying its impossible, just damn hard. My only suggestion would be to:

a) never be completely alone with the guy
b) get used to cold showers

Seriously. If you want to remain a virgin for whatever reason, you will have to take drastic measures to avoid getting overheated or overheating your SO (and good luck with that BTW).

Or you can do what my grandfather tried to suggest to my mom when she started dating my dad, "why don't you just write to each other"?)

<--- I believe this emoticon was fashioned after my moms reaction.

Finn'sGirl · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

I'm trying to understand the question too. are you asking how far can you go before actually being considered "doing the deed" or are you asking how far should you go to avoid "doing the deed"?

if its the first question, when ta-tas and hoo-has and ding dongs make their first appearance, I would say you are entering the land of sex.

if its the latter question, simple acts of kissing & hugging etc. always have the potential to heat up to more intense activities. the body and the mind seem to seperate at this point cause no matter how much your mind says "no" the body is saying "yes". if you can figure out how to put the brakes on things going any further you should probably be nominated for a noble prize in human relations cause I know of few people who have been able to stop every single time. (ah screw it. I no of NO ONE who has ever been able to. And I've been around for 45 years) I'm not saying its impossible, just damn hard. My only suggestion would be to:

a) never be completely alone with the guy
b) get used to cold showers

Seriously. If you want to remain a virgin for whatever reason, you will have to take drastic measures to avoid getting overheated or overheating your SO (and good luck with that BTW).

Or you can do what my grandfather tried to suggest to my mom when she started dating my dad, "why don't you just write to each other"?)

<--- I believe this emoticon was fashioned after my moms reaction.

Good Post!

Lol@ta-tas, hoo-has, and ding dongs. Should I be embarrassed that I have been laughing hysterically for 5 minutes now??

bagnshoofetish · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Finn'sGirl

Good Post!

Lol@ta-tas, hoo-has, and ding dongs. Should I be embarrassed that I have been laughing hysterically for 5 minutes now??

thats as "G" rated as I could get. Theres virgins in here afterall.

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

thats as "G" rated as I could get. Theres virgins in here afterall.

Girl, you crack me up.

They're Virgin's alright

Irishgal · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

thats as "G" rated as I could get. Theres virgins in here afterall.

I lost my virginity but I still have the box it came in.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Irishgal

I lost my virginity but I still have the box it came in.

was that the 2008 Vulva?

Irishgal · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

was that the 2008 Vulva?

I believe it was a bit, uh, older.

caitlin1214 · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:13 AM

The 2008 Vulva? I hear Sirius Satellite Radio comes standard on those now.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by caitlin1214

The 2008 Vulva? I hear Sirius Satellite Radio comes standard on those now.

so thats why I here the radio after making love....

merika · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:16 AM

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Originally Posted by caitlin1214

The 2008 Vulva? I hear Sirius Satellite Radio comes standard on those now.

OOOhhhhhh....NOW I know what he was doing

- he was listening to the RADIO!!

bagnshoofetish · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:19 AM

wow I just saw a new thingy at the bottom of this page. Its called Similar Threads. Why didn't I see that one? Now I'm gonna have to go there too....(and when I said "thingy" it wasn't a euphemism...)

caitlin1214 · Jun 28th, 2008, 12:41 AM

2008 Vulva.

Sounds like a car, doesn't it?

The 2008 Vulva is a 2-door, 4-passenger family coupe, or sports coupe, available in two trims, the GS and the GT.

Upon introduction, the GS is equipped with a standard 2.4-liter, I4, 162-horsepower engine that achieves 20-mpg in the city and 28-mpg on the highway. A 5-speed manual transmission with overdrive is standard, and a 4-speed automatic transmission with overdrive is optional. The GT is equipped with a standard 3.8-liter, V6, 265-horsepower engine that achieves 16-mpg in the city and 26-mpg on the highway. A 6-speed manual transmission with overdrive is standard, and a 5-speed automatic transmission with overdrive is optional.

Jun 27th, 2008, 05:22 PM	#17
illinirdhd Sofa King Hooked Location: Las Vegas, NV	^^^ Absolutely. A premarital test drive is a must IMO! __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 06:03 PM	#18
pattylauren fierce Location: The beautiful south	It's tricky, really... Like one of the earlier posters said, stay out of situations where you guys are alone together. It depends on how committed you are. It seems there are differing levels of being a virgin these days, but if you're having O.S. then you're not a virgin anymore. Anyway, I'm waiting and I'll tell you... it's hard and you have to really be determined! I would tell you to draw the line at kissing, because anything more just escalates quickly and can easily lead to sex! Stay away from those situations. __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 11:04 PM	#19
bagnshoofetish We Love Our Billy	I'm trying to understand the question too. are you asking how far *can* you go before actually being considered "doing the deed" or are you asking how far *should* you go to avoid "doing the deed"? if its the first question, when ta-tas and hoo-has and ding dongs make their first appearance, I would say you are entering the land of sex. if its the latter question, simple acts of kissing & hugging etc. always have the potential to heat up to more intense activities. the body and the mind seem to seperate at this point cause no matter how much your mind says "no" the body is saying "yes". if you can figure out how to put the brakes on things going any further you should probably be nominated for a noble prize in human relations cause I know of few people who have been able to stop every single time. (ah screw it. I no of NO ONE who has ever been able to. And I've been around for 45 years) I'm not saying its impossible, just damn hard. My only suggestion would be to: a) never be completely alone with the guy b) get used to cold showers Seriously. If you want to remain a virgin for whatever reason, you will have to take drastic measures to avoid getting overheated or overheating your SO (and good luck with that BTW). Or you can do what my grandfather tried to suggest to my mom when she started dating my dad, "why don't you just *write* to each other"?) <--- I believe this emoticon was fashioned after my moms reaction. __________________ Please help us: http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...nt-392607.html

Jun 28th, 2008, 12:13 AM	#26
caitlin1214 Santa Baby Location: Toronto, Canada (Eh?)	The 2008 Vulva? I hear Sirius Satellite Radio comes standard on those now. __________________ And this above all: to thine ownself be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. Polonius, Hamlet Act I, sc iii

Jun 28th, 2008, 12:19 AM	#29
bagnshoofetish We Love Our Billy	wow I just saw a new thingy at the bottom of this page. Its called Similar Threads. Why didn't I see that one? Now I'm gonna have to go there too....(and when I said "thingy" it wasn't a euphemism...) __________________ Please help us: http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...nt-392607.html

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:08 PM	#16
SimplyMe Racing With You. Location: Very foggy!	You put yourself at risk of "having sex" whenever you get intimate..whether it's only kissing or touching. I'm very cautious and realistic when it comes to sex because I know I'm not someone who has extreme self control. Trust me, when you in the "moment", it's extremely hard to not go all the way. My suggestion is to just hang out and hold hands. I wouldn't pass kissing if I were you, and even kissing passionately can turn one another on. If you're not ready, don't let anyone force you. I know guys become very pushy when they're heated. Say no and if he doesn't respect you, then you deserve better. However, I must say not everyone is good in bed (haha it's true) and I'd want to experiment before marriage. Sex is a natural human need so I don't think anything wrong of it. But you should NEVER ever do it unless YOU want to.

Jun 28th, 2008, 12:41 AM	#30
caitlin1214 Santa Baby Location: Toronto, Canada (Eh?)	2008 Vulva. Sounds like a car, doesn't it? The 2008 Vulva is a 2-door, 4-passenger family coupe, or sports coupe, available in two trims, the GS and the GT. Upon introduction, the GS is equipped with a standard 2.4-liter, I4, 162-horsepower engine that achieves 20-mpg in the city and 28-mpg on the highway. A 5-speed manual transmission with overdrive is standard, and a 4-speed automatic transmission with overdrive is optional. The GT is equipped with a standard 3.8-liter, V6, 265-horsepower engine that achieves 16-mpg in the city and 26-mpg on the highway. A 6-speed manual transmission with overdrive is standard, and a 5-speed automatic transmission with overdrive is optional. __________________ And this above all: to thine ownself be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. Polonius, Hamlet Act I, sc iii