[helium]

I'd honestly just pack her stuff up when she's not there and leave it out the door. She'll get the message. This is not a best friend, it's not even a friend!

I have to say though, be careful. Call the police on them next time for disturbing public peace if they keep up the loud music. Mention the drugs if you so desire (and I so would).

[heiress28]

Originally Posted by amber11

i'd talk to your landlord and work out the rent like everyone else is saying on here- bottom line is that this is obviously a terrible situation your in and i'm sorry your in it, and from a legal standpoint you don't want to put yourself around drugs where you could ever be blamed for something (she sounds like that kind of friend to be honest), i hope you can figure something out... good luck!!

This is exactly what I am worried about!!!!!!!! I do NOT want to get in trouble for something I don't even do! (and that I am so strongly against none the less...........). Can u believe that they had the nerve to tell me to do it with them since my boyfriend was away in another state for work?????? They were like...we won't tell just do it...u need it, u can't be such a good person all the time.... I couldn't believe my ears I just walked out of their room.

Not only are we having problems with money and the drug issue but also the chores around the house.... They are locked in their room all day smoking and doing some other stuff that I CAN HEAR THROUGH THE WALLS (thank god I don't have a kid) and when they finally decide to come out I ask them to do something simple like take the garbage out and they won;t do it...she will be like...ummm..yea... and two days later the garbage will still be sitting there. '

I was redoing the kitchen and I was on my hands and knees cleaning and organizing each shelf and all I asked her to do was line the shelves. What did she do? Ignore the fact that I had asked her. So I did everything myself and now the kitchen is beautiful. I took a picture to show my SO so that he can actually know that the kitchen was once like that because tomorrow I'm sure it's going to be disgusting once they put their hands on it. After she saw everyuthing done, she told me she was NOW going to do the lining...I said oh no sweetie you aren't....after all the work I did you aren't going to undo it. You should;ve done it during the two days I waiting for u to do it.

Anyhow, I've been telling my SO everything that has been going on and basically he said when he gets back this weekend, he is sitting down and having a talk and telling them .... either you move out or we move out. Let's see how that goes.

[juneping]

can you remove her name from the lease?
when her name is on the lease, you have no right to ask her to move out. i don't think your friend will move out b/c it's free rent and i think she knows that and now she also has a free maid...YOU.
if i were you.....i would look for a place and the mean time talk to your landlord you want to move out. remember to remove your name off the lease when u move out.
it's bad...i am sorry.
when a good friend of mine moved in....she was not that bad but we are no longer friends...i'll never take a friend in anymore.

[~Fabulousity~]

Horrid situation! Her mom obviously knew all this was going on and moving hasn't helped a bit. I would take the advice posted here about paying only your half of the rent and see how that goes. Also its great that your SO is gonna have a sit down with these two disgusting leeches.

[lovinalotofbags]

June is right, you cannot make her move out b/c she is on the lease, but you guys can and should and just deal with the consequences of the lease. I would suggest get a place before you actually leave that one.

[heiress28]

First I just want to thank everyone who took the time to read this thread and give me advice on what to do in a situation like this!!!

Update -- My SO anticipated himself and called them saying we were going to move out and for that reason my friend and her boyfriend knocked on my door and asked what was going on. I sat down and had a talk with them and explained everything and she said she didn't see anything wrong because things like that don't mean anything to her. I basically told her she really needs to have more responsibility and she's a grown woman now. She said she was going to try to make things better and she doesn't want things to go in this direction. They asked me for one more month to prove themselves so lets see how this goes.....

Thanks everyone!

[lovinalotofbags]

What did she mean by, "things like that don't mean anything to her?"

IMO if you have to tell an adult about their poor behavior and not fulfilling their responsibilities and contributions to the household, and they say they will change, they will just revert back. For your sake, I hope not.

I hope everything works out. Keep us posted.