[shamsi]

Originally Posted by KC1984

I've been with my partner for a few years (engaged), blissfully happy, have a 19 months old daughter.
He proposed last July - he gave me a beatiful ring that he had made. I'm really happy just been engaged as it showed we'd both made a commitment but now everyones on at us to set a date.

Money's not an issue so we could get married soon, but I'd like my daughter to have an active role in the wedding so I though wait till she was about 3 but then we've discussed having another so I'm thinking maybe I havent got as much time as i thought.
You see I'm a young mum I'm only 24 - I think been married will make me feel old but I don't want to wait till after we have our 2nd as I'll want them to have an active role as well so then I may be knocking on 30's door!

So I thought I'd open it up to the forum when did you all decided to take the plunge???

why not just do the ceremony get it all legal (this will also protect your child) & in a few years after the second one is old enough, have a big 5 or 10 yr vow renewal?
I have a friend who married young & though they waited to have children b/c they married young money was a factor & it wasn't the big shin-dig of her dreams. They are now planning their 10th anniversary vow renewal & their daughter will be the flower girl.

[Zophie]

I think when YOU feel it's the right time, then it's the right time. Sorry I can't give any better advice because I've never been married.

[nawth21]

I was 3 or so when my parents got married, I dont remember jack. So I'm in some pictures, whoopie LOL. Anyways, I'm 25 and engaged, and we'll be married in Feb so 1 year after the engagement.

[~Fabulousity~]

Most women are over-joyed at the thought of marrying their love, you don't seem so eager. If deep down you don't want to marry him right now or ever than don't!

[VPT]

Originally Posted by KC1984

but I'd like my daughter to have an active role in the wedding so I though wait till she was about 3 but then we've discussed having another so I'm thinking maybe I havent got as much time as i thought.

I'm going to be outright blunt because I find this offensive. I think you're being selfish, you want this wedding to be perfect in your eyes, but you disregard the child who you brought to this world. Her main concerns are a mom and a dad united together legally. It's like an emotional assurance her parents are there for the long haul. Many broken families with young children don't see the importance and how being apart can really ruin the child, especially if they could help it.

There are countless of single women or single moms out there who have been taking pains to get a guy to fall in love and marry them, so many wrong turns they took, rollercoaster relationships, etc, they would kill to be in your position to get married. Here you're blessed with everything - financially stable etc. Daughter's participation aside, honestly what are you really waiting for??