What would you want to know about men?

[Libertine]

Hi all!

I'm currently working on a website where I try and explain the male mind to women, and I'm looking for common questions women have about men.

So if there's something about men that has always baffled you, or if you want to know why your husband or boyfriend does things that may appear entirely insane to you, please post it in this thread.

Thanks in advance


Also, for those wondering why I'm posting here: it's the place with the most women I could find online

[dell]

Well..... I posted a thread about men and porn. Why do they want to watch porn if they have a healthy sex life?

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by dell

Well..... I posted a thread about men and porn. Why do they want to watch porn if they have a healthy sex life?

Ah, thanks. Good question to write an article about

A preliminary answer: we like variety, most of us enjoy visual stimulation, and to most of us, the type of sexual stimulation porn provides is entirely separate from emotions. Plus, porn gives us the chance to enjoy fantasies that we may not want to try out in real life.

If we're in a committed relationship with a partner we love, porn gives us the opportunity to add some variety to our sex life without cheating on the partner we love.

Of course, even for those men who would cheat if given the chance, it's still alluring because it takes no effort, involves no complications, and allows them to enjoy even their most secret fantasies.

It's a bit like watching sports on tv, really. You get to experience the excitement of what's going on, more or less, without actually having to spend much time and effort on it.

[krisluvspurses]

Why do they throw dirty clothes on the floor when the hamper is 3 feet away??

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by krisluvspurses

Why do they throw dirty clothes on the floor when the hamper is 3 feet away??

Because many of us actually, honestly, truly do not notice a bit of a mess. We figure we'll pick up the dirty clothes when we decide to do the laundry, and where they are in the meantime does not seem particularly important.

When I lived with two male friends of mine, we'd typically just wait until the house looked like it had been hit by a grenade before we would even think of cleaning it up. And, to be honest, up until it looked like that, none of us really noticed.

Until our girlfriends jointly rebelled and told us they wouldn't come over anymore until we cleaned up the house, anyway

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by AdviceVixen

what's your site? i would love to visit it. mine is HERE; an advice column mostly for women.

MenExplained.com

It's rather new, and I desperately need to redesign it. Still, the list of 128 things men wish women knew about them is worth reading :)

[candace117]

Originally Posted by dell

Well..... I posted a thread about men and porn. Why do they want to watch porn if they have a healthy sex life?

Women watch porn too. It's not just a 'male thing'.

[IcansPotaFake32]

Why do they act like they want to be single forever?

[~bastet]

Why do men automatically assume that women know nothing about computers/technology? (This is a pet peeve of mine, IDK if it applies to other people, too).

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by IcansPotaFake32

Why do they act like they want to be single forever?

Hmm... do they?

As far as I know, it changes for most men between ~24 and ~32. That's what it was like with me and most of my male friends, anyway.

But aside from age, three other things also play a role, I think.

First, most men want to be in a stable position before they settle down. We want to be sure we can support a family.

Second, we want to feel free even if we're in a relationship. If a woman starts nagging, and trying to control every little thing we do, we start longing for our old freedom again.

And third, most young men probably just don't like admitting they actually value commitment, family, etc. When young, men care about their image a lot. Caring about children, family, love and other values traditionally seen as "female" isn't considered macho, so many men hide that side until age makes them more confident.

[sportygal85]

Oh I have a bunch!

What do guys consider to be warning signs that a girl will get clingy and too attached? Is simply being sexually inexperienced enough to convince a guy that a girl will be clingy even if she doesn't otherwise act like it?

Do men like straight hair or curly hair better? Some say straight because it's smoother/silkier, some say curly because he imagines what she would look like post-sex. (LOL)

What makes a guy suddenly lose interest in a girl he had been previously really into?

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by sportygal85

Oh I have a bunch! What do guys consider to be warning signs that a girl will get clingy and too attached? Is simply being sexually inexperienced enough to convince a guy that a girl will be clingy even if she doesn't otherwise act like it? Do men like straight hair or curly hair better? Some say straight because it's smoother/silkier, some say curly because he imagines what she would look like post-sex. (LOL) What makes a guy suddenly lose interest in a girl he had been previously really into?

The main sign a girl will get clingy: the girl in question acting clingy. Calling too often, texting too often, coming over too often, acting too sweetly, moving forward too quickly in a relationship, mentioning early on in a relationship that she wants to get married and have children one day - they're all major indicators that a girl will become even more clingy later on in a relationship.

Sexual inexperience, however, would not make any sane man think a girl is likely to be clingy.

Straight hair vs curly hair... different men have different tastes. As long as it's long and clean, most men won't care a lot.

There are several reasons for men suddenly losing interest. The main one is if a woman seems too interested, or too easy. If she's too interested, he'll probably be scared she wants too much commitment too quickly. Or, he might think he could probably get better. If she's too easy, he'll think she might've been just as easy with many other guys in the past.

Of course, another reason would be that he wasn't all that interested in the first place, mainly wanted sex, and lost interest when he got what he wanted. Yes, men will occasionally feign interest in women they can't stand just to get the opportunity to have sex with them. We're pigs, I know.

Or he might just be interested in the chase, and not the catch. Quite a few men can't resist a good challenge, even if they're not interested in a serious relationship. So they'll flirt until a woman becomes interested, but then they'll realize that they're not interested in anything more than to know that they could have had her if they had wanted to.

It doesn't have to be as bad as that, though. Maybe the guy in question is just unsure whether the girl in question really likes him. Or maybe he's afraid of appearing too eager.

There are many possible reasons, and it completely depends on the situation in question.

[Tammie25]

wow Libertine you have some really good answers! i should def take some notes here :)

[dell]

Ok.... so how do we get you to communicate better? I am NOT talking about a 4 hour heart to heart... just to say "hey I love it when you..." or just having a conversation without getting defensive. Please, if I am asking you about why you did something, don't take it as a personal attack, I am trying to learn...

[illinirdhd]

Why do they think farts are funny, and why don't they grow out of that? My husband literally disgusts me with them - I just don't understand how an almost 40 year old man can still crack himself up by being revolting and obnoxious.