What would you want to know about men?

[Megs]

Originally Posted by ms.fashionista

Do men get turned off after seeing their wife give birth to their offspring? I mean, after seeing the stretched va-jay-jay, does it traumatize them in the bedroom in the future?

For some reason this made me laugh out loud!

[Megs]

Originally Posted by ghall

plus urine is sterile... haven't you heard of having to pee on your foot if you stepped on a sea urchine, or soak your foot in urine if you stepped on a sea urchine? it sounds gross, but it prevents infections...

Actually, this is true for jellyfish stings, as in the urine helps calm the sting

[bagnshoofetish]

^^^okay heres a link:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=2283933

I just don't want anyone peeing on each other needlessly!

[talexs]

Originally Posted by Libertine

Running away from problems is easier than dealing with them, and we usually severely dislike emotional confrontations with women. Mainly because such confrontations virtually never have positive outcomes for us - once a woman starts crying, we don't have any proper response. And I'm actually serious about that. If she's crying because she's angry at you, hugging and comforting her is obviously not an option. If she's crying because you're angry at her, hugging and comforting her would defeat the point. Once an argument or conflict turns emotional, there's usually no way the typical man can deal with it. Trying to be rational obviously doesn't work, trying to make her feel better means you concede the point whatever it is, standing firm means you'll be a jerk - there is no good outcome. As for your specific example: if a guy stops ignoring a woman after a small misunderstanding, there's probably more the matter than just that small misunderstanding. He probably was already having doubts about the relationship, and took the cowardly way out - using a small conflict as an excuse to break off all contact.

Very interesting and something I kind of suspected. Ugh, men, sometimes I wish they would say what was on their mind as opposed to expecting you to be psychic.(At least in my situation.) Also, why do men not tell you if something you does bother them, like my now ex, was irritated bc he didn't think I cared enough and was too "unclingy" and traveled too much for work, why didn't he tell me instead of sulking and letting it all build up to that one misunderstanding I mentioned? Your answers are fabulous , you're helping all of us out a bit

[envyme]

I LOVE this thread!!!!!!!!!!!

[LulaMaeBarnes]

You know, my bf has always been really honest with me when I have questions like that but these are questions I had never thought to ask. It's all very interesting and I'm enjoying this thread. Ok here's my question:

Why do men spit.

[Chanel Belle]

Originally Posted by Libertine

Because they're insecure, of course. Men aren't good at reading women. In fact, we're awful at it. Every time we ask a woman out, there's a pretty good chance we'll be rejected. And in all likelihood, all her friends will hear about it as well. That's a pretty daunting prospect. So, most men don't even bother until they're pretty sure they'll get a positive response. This is also the reason so many women end up dating "players" and men who cheat on them. The women who wait for men to ask them out often end up getting asked out by men who ask at least 10-20 women a week out. There are many "pickup guides" for men out there which tell men to do just that. It's called the "shotgun theory" - with enough tries, you're bound to end up hitting something.

Thanks, Libertine! That shed some light

So how do we women nudge the guys we like to ask us out without seeming desperate?

[couture2387]

ok why do ex bf's pursue u, tell you they still love u and want to be with u and then when it comes down to getting back they freak out because they think it'll last "forever"? Um...I'm not sure it'll last a week and he's thinking about "forever"? lol, I've never understood that one.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by ms.fashionista

Do men get turned off after seeing their wife give birth to their offspring? I mean, after seeing the stretched va-jay-jay, does it traumatize them in the bedroom in the future?

Some do, some don't. Even the ones that do, though, usually get over it.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by AdviceVixen

i would love to know why some males can mate for life and others can't

I have absolutely no idea, actually.

If I had to guess, however, I'd say that it probably has a lot to do with upbringing. If a man spent his childhood watching his parents constantly fight, I suppose the idea of lifelong relationships might not particularly appeal to him.

[JCinwrppingppr]

I have a few questions.

1. When a guy likes a girl and KNOWS that the girl likes him, why can't he still ask her out? In such early stages, commitment should not be an issue!! It's not like us women expect a proposal on date #3.

2. Can you explain why some men suddenly get all fatalistic,? Like "I'm not good enough for you, I can't be the man that you want me to be", that kind of stuff? Okay...most girls would not waste her time with a guy that she didn't think was worthy/good enough. If we like a guy, then we like the guy and we like the guy just the way he is!

3. What should a single gal do to get noticed at a party/bar/club?

This thread is so cool, thanks for answering all the questions.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by sportygal85

What does a guy consider to be "too interested?" Like what would some examples of that be? Why do guys say they are fine with not having sex but then get pissy if the girl refuses to give him a blowjob? Do guys actually enjoy making out or do they just see it as an annoying pit stop on the way to the "good stuff?"

"Too interested" depends on how much the guy is into the girl in question, as well as what his personal preferences are. Still, there are some things to avoid.

It's almost always a bad idea to bring up fantasies of a future together early on in the relationship. Even if you make it clear that you're not entirely serious, it can still freak a guy out. Especially if you mention things like children and marriage.

Aside from that, the most common examples of being "too interested" are calling too often, texting too often and demanding too much time. Most men, if they want some time alone, will just not call for a day or two. Sending over a dozen text messages in that time will scare them off immediately.

When you start dating a guy, no matter how hard you're falling for him, don't demand to see him more than 2-3 times a week unless he makes it clear he wants it as well.

Still, it depends completely on the guy in question. Some want you to move in after the first date, others would rather wait a decade or two.


As for your next question, most men indeed don't mind waiting for sex - until you spend some time making out with them. Once you make out with a guy for anything over half an hour, ending it without "release" means he'll experience anything between severe physical frustration and intense pain. (And by intense, I do mean intense - in particularly bad circumstances, it easily ranks above breaking a rib or leg. Yes, I am speaking from experience.)

So if you aren't prepared to at least "lend a helping hand", don't go into hours of heavy petting.

And yes, we do enjoy making out. But as mentioned above, too much making out and we require a form of release.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by nooch

What do guys think of the manipulative douchebags who present themselves as good men but are actually hugely bitter misogynists who can only see women as queens or whores? You know, the "I'm a Nice Guy" guys. Do you hate them as much as we do? (My fiance has answered this question before as we were introduced by one of those guys, but my fiance is so mellow that if he were any more mellow I would check his pulse so I figured I'd ask someone who might be a little less comatose)

We hate them with a passion. More than you do, probably. They're the guys who pretend to be friends with the women we like, and try to sabotage our relationships with those women.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by Liz_x3

Ack. You pretty much confirmed all my suspicions on my head that I am the one who ruined it between me and this guy because I REFUSED to show that I was interested because I wanted to have the upper hand. And what sucks is that I genuinely liked this guy A LOT... that is why I was so afraid of showing any emotion whatsoever because I was terrified of him hurting me. Okay, another question! What types of flirting works the best with guys WITHOUT coming across as overly interested and/or slutty?

Talk to them, smile, listen to their stories, laugh at their jokes.

Of course, keep in mind that there's absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy out yourself. If a man likes you, he won't think you're desperate or a slut if you ask him out for coffee or lunch. In fact, he'll probably appreciate you for not playing games.

But don't come on too strong on a date like that - don't tell him you "really like him", or make too much of it. Just smile, say you had a good time, and casually mention you'd like going for coffee or something similar again.

[Janos614]

Originally Posted by Libertine

Aside from that, the most common examples of being "too interested" are calling too often, texting too often and demanding too much time. Most men, if they want some time alone, will just not call for a day or two. Sending over a dozen text messages in that time will scare them off immediately.

As far as sending text messages, if I initiate and he writes back each time, is that still being too interested? Or is just the act of sending that many in that time too much whether he writes back or not? I'm trying to figure out the difference between conducting a conversation via text and just bugging him.