What would you want to know about men?

[Charles]

Babi, what you sent seemed a bit vague. I'm assuming when you said that your head is still sailing, you meant that you were still a bit high from being around him? Given what you actually said, that could be a pretty decent jump, and one he might be a bit scared to perform.

Maybe reply with something a bit more obvious.

[Babi]

^ Got it, thanks Charles.
Maybe one day...then of course I'll be back here to tell

[HappyGrl2008]

Thanks again Charles. I think we share the same definition on what a "player" is: the lying and manipulation. But they are so good in hiding that, you won't find out until you've been played...that's my experience.

Originally Posted by Charles

So, the question is, do you like the guy? If so, are you flirting back with him? Have you let him know that you're interested?

Yes I like him very much. But when I think of it, I don't know him at all! Just some basic things...But maybe getting to know him better should be left for later?

I am flirting back with him, in my own innocent ways...He calls me a tease but says I'm worth it. I'm not sure how to let him know I'm interested...that is the scary part for me. How can I let him know I'm interested without coming off as too "desparate"? He's quite a bit older than me, has experienced a lot more in life, he is sexy looking, could have every girl he wants, IMO. I know he doesn't think of me as a naive girl...but sometimes I can be.

Another thing. If I were to see him again, and he would make a move, I know I will not be able to resist him. That is my biggest fear...Cause if he's not interested in me enough and leaves, I'd be devastated...Should I resist temptation? I don't want to get hurt like that again.

[Charles]

Well, it depends. If you put a lot of value and connection in sex, then you should probably try to wait. For me, simply having sex never determined whether I stayed with a girl or moved on. For some guys, it might. Either way, I think if he's a decent guy, he'll wait at least a few weeks. Basically, wait until you feel things might be going somewhere, and be honest about that with him.
As for letting him know you're interested, just let him know where you'll be. If you're going out this weekend, ask him what he's doing, then tell him where you'll be and if he gets bored, maybe he should meet up with you.

[Chanel Belle]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Thanks again Charles. I think we share the same definition on what a "player" is: the lying and manipulation. But they are so good in hiding that, you won't find out until you've been played...that's my experience. Yes I like him very much. But when I think of it, I don't know him at all! Just some basic things...But maybe getting to know him better should be left for later? I am flirting back with him, in my own innocent ways...He calls me a tease but says I'm worth it. I'm not sure how to let him know I'm interested...that is the scary part for me. How can I let him know I'm interested without coming off as too "desparate"? He's quite a bit older than me, has experienced a lot more in life, he is sexy looking, could have every girl he wants, IMO. I know he doesn't think of me as a naive girl...but sometimes I can be. Another thing. If I were to see him again, and he would make a move, I know I will not be able to resist him. That is my biggest fear...Cause if he's not interested in me enough and leaves, I'd be devastated...Should I resist temptation? I don't want to get hurt like that again.

This guy sounds more like a flirt than a player...I've met enough of these types to last me a lifetime! A flirt uses words and sweet nothings and tell you what you want to hear. Basically, they are full of bullshit, but no substance :P But they are quite harmless.

A player is someone who plays with women's emotions and manipulate them into having sex with them and more. And after sex, poof! Guy is gone.

Make sure that you know more about the guy first before having sex with him - a player usually can't be bothered to wine and dine you (unless he views you as a challenge or some sort of conquest). When you meet up with your guy, have a deep conversation, find out what he's about, what his beliefs are and so on. If he lasts through all that, it's a positive sign

Just my 2 cents worth.

[HappyGrl2008]

Thanks Charles and Chanel Belle for your input. I really appreciate it!!

I no longer think of him as a player, but maybe he is indeed a bit of a flirt. I'm surprised he is still single at his age, cause he is really good looking, funny and smart. But maybe there are other reasons for that.

If I see him again, I will resist temptation...though it will be very difficult, lol!! I'll take the advice of having a meaningful, deeper conversation with him first. Something inside me though, tells me he is a good and decent person and that he is good to the people around him. It's just me and my stupid doubts and fear to get caught up in the same mess as with the last guy...

Thanks again!!!!

[Chanel Belle]

Originally Posted by HappyGrl2008

Thanks Charles and Chanel Belle for your input. I really appreciate it!! I no longer think of him as a player, but maybe he is indeed a bit of a flirt. I'm surprised he is still single at his age, cause he is really good looking, funny and smart. But maybe there are other reasons for that. If I see him again, I will resist temptation...though it will be very difficult, lol!! I'll take the advice of having a meaningful, deeper conversation with him first. Something inside me though, tells me he is a good and decent person and that he is good to the people around him. It's just me and my stupid doubts and fear to get caught up in the same mess as with the last guy... Thanks again!!!!

Oh, do take note and see if he asks you ALOT of questions about yourself (your beliefs, your work, your friends, your life in general) because I think a guy who is genuinely interested in you will want to know everything about your life :)

If he talks about superficial matters all the time or worse, talks about himself most of the time, it's not a good sign

[sophiae]

This might have already been asked, but how do guys feel about piercings on girls?

[sophiae]

Originally Posted by Charles

Men like girls, men like 2 girls...2 girls doing something "taboo" while letting us watch....what's not to love? Second question...typically, no. It also depends on if there was an attraction to begin with. If he's really just a friend, he's just a friend for a reason.

To follow up on this, how do guys determine if a girl is going to be just a friend?

[Charles]

1: Piercings...depends on the guy.

2: If he's not attracted to her, and if he is, if she doesn't return the attraction. I can't really give a definitive opinion without specifics. There are too many variables.

[sophiae]

Originally Posted by Charles

1: Piercings...depends on the guy. 2: If he's not attracted to her, and if he is, if she doesn't return the attraction. I can't really give a definitive opinion without specifics. There are too many variables.

LOL there aren't any specifics... I was just wondering if it was different from how girls make their "labels".

[mymeimei02]

Why do some guys are so quick to fall in love? I met a guy and a few days later he met another girl at a wedding and he is in a relationship with her ever since and he is heads over heels in love with her. Is that possible?