What would you want to know about men?

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by Liz_x3

How can you tell if a guy just wants to have sex with you (conquest) or if he genuinely likes you?

If he genuinely likes you, he'll want to spend more time with you, call more often, etc.

Basically, if a man genuinely likes you, he won't mind only kissing for the first time on the third date. He'll actually enjoy going to see a movie with you, spending an evening just eating dinner and talking, or having lunch with you and your friends. Of course, he'll still want to have sex with you, but he'd rather spend time with you and not have sex than not spend time with you at all.

In most cases, your "normal" male friends are the ones who are actually secretly in love with you, while the guys you date are initially mostly interested in sex - which might change, if they find you particularly attractive, enjoy your company or simply aren't too popular with other women.

Oh, and yes, nearly all your male friends secretly want you. The longer the friendship has lasted, the likelier it is that you've broken his heart a few times over.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by MonkeyGirl

why do teenage boys seem to have it in their heads that by calling a girl a name (ex: slut, b!tch, etc), it will somehow get the girl to like them even just as a friend? cause i encounter quite a few of these guys and it bugs me.

Teenage boys are insecure, selfish idiots.

It might sound a bit blunt, but it's true. Admitting they actually like a girl would expose them to being hurt by that girl, so acting like they don't is much safer.

You've probably never met a man with a teen daughter who was enthusiastic about the idea of his daughter dating. There's a reason for that - the man in question was once a teen boy himself, and still recalls what teen boys are like.

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Libertine

If he genuinely likes you, he'll want to spend more time with you, call more often, etc. Basically, if a man genuinely likes you, he won't mind only kissing for the first time on the third date. He'll actually enjoy going to see a movie with you, spending an evening just eating dinner and talking, or having lunch with you and your friends. Of course, he'll still want to have sex with you, but he'd rather spend time with you and not have sex than not spend time with you at all. In most cases, your "normal" male friends are the ones who are actually secretly in love with you, while the guys you date are initially mostly interested in sex - which might change, if they find you particularly attractive, enjoy your company or simply aren't too popular with other women. Oh, and yes, nearly all your male friends secretly want you. The longer the friendship has lasted, the likelier it is that you've broken his heart a few times over.

Great post! I agree!

[~Fabulousity~]

Originally Posted by Libertine

Teenage boys are insecure, selfish idiots. It might sound a bit blunt, but it's true. Admitting they actually like a girl would expose them to being hurt by that girl, so acting like they don't is much safer. You've probably never met a man with a teen daughter who was enthusiastic about the idea of his daughter dating. There's a reason for that - the man in question was once a teen boy himself, and still recalls what teen boys are like.

Again I agree, are you male or female

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by Chanel Belle

Libertine, you have some really great answers :) Why do guys not ask us out even when they seem interested/have crushes on us etc?

Because they're insecure, of course.

Men aren't good at reading women. In fact, we're awful at it. Every time we ask a woman out, there's a pretty good chance we'll be rejected. And in all likelihood, all her friends will hear about it as well.

That's a pretty daunting prospect. So, most men don't even bother until they're pretty sure they'll get a positive response.

This is also the reason so many women end up dating "players" and men who cheat on them. The women who wait for men to ask them out often end up getting asked out by men who ask at least 10-20 women a week out.

There are many "pickup guides" for men out there which tell men to do just that. It's called the "shotgun theory" - with enough tries, you're bound to end up hitting something.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

Again I agree, are you male or female

I'm quite male. Otherwise, there would be little point to me trying to explain men to women, now would there?

[~Fabulousity~]

^^^Cool good to see another man around here besides Charles(not that I dont love him)

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by Liz_x3

I second this question!!! I had a guy tell me (all through text) that he was interested in me, had been interested in me for a while (so it wasn't some spontaneous burst of feeling), and made it very clear to not just me but one of my friends at all that he wanted to have sex with me. He even told me on multiple occasions that we should hang out. And yet he never ONCE asked me out!!!

Ehm... he did ask you out. On multiple occasions.

He thought you weren't interested, though.

[~Fabulousity~]

Ok here's one...

When men in their early 20's date a woman in her late 20's early 30's who is settled and has it together what do they think about her? Does this make them uncomfortable as a man just starting out?

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by suretobuy

Why do we have to constantly nag them about the SAME THING? It's not fun for me, but if I don't, whatever it is won't get done (usually something house related) WHY???

The more you nag, the more he'll start hating whatever it is you want him to do. Instead, try positive reinforcement - be extra nice when you want him to do something. After a while, he'll start associating doing things you'd like to have done with you being sweet, rather than with you nagging.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by nooch

Why does my fiance finish the fruit punch and hand me the pitcher, saying "you know how to make it better than I do!"?

Because we love it when someone takes care of us. Women do too, though.

Even if you don't actually aren't better at making it, it will still "feel" better when you make it, because he'll feel like someone's taking care of him.

Also, his mother. Next time you visit her together, observe as she treats him to things. That's the feeling he's looking for when he hands you that pitcher.

Either that, or he's just lazy.

Originally Posted by nooch

Also, why do so many men I know lie about things that are totally unimportant and then act like it's the other person's fault when they get caught lying? I'm not pissed at what you were doing, I'm pissed that you lied!

They lie to avoid small conflicts. When it fails, they get annoyed because all they got was a bigger conflict.

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by ~Fabulousity~

Ok here's one... When men in their early 20's date a woman in her late 20's early 30's who is settled and has it together what do they think about her? Does this make them uncomfortable as a man just starting out?

It depends on the man in question. Some don't mind at all, because they like the woman in question. Others will love it, because they're looking for a mother figure. And yet others will dislike it, because they'd rather be the more experienced one in the relationship.

[Jahpson]

why do they shake when they are finished and don't wipe off with a toliet paper?

[ghall]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

why do they shake when they are finished and don't wipe off with a toliet paper?

good question! my husband says it's pure laziness , at least for him, plus.... toilet paper sticks. lol

[Libertine]

Originally Posted by Jahpson

why do they shake when they are finished and don't wipe off with a toliet paper?

That's a rather... detailed question.

But anyway: many men do wipe, including me.

However, a problem is that with the wrong kind of toilet paper, tiny bits can stick. And to get rid of those, you'll need to wash it with water.