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SevenFive · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:07 PM

I'm new and mostly lurk, as it's hard to figure where's a good spot and time to jump in. So, first, hello to everyone!

I recently met someone through work who I am crazy about. He perused me pretty aggressively and I probably would have never met him had he not. We are, oddly and smoothly, taking it slow. We completely enjoy the time we do spend together by going to the Movies hanging out whatever...it's all been really good!
Except he is nearly ten years younger than me.

My question is this:
What's he thinking?
What are the odds this will amount to anything?

<--Because that's how I feel right now considering the odd-coupleness of it all.

Charles · Jun 7th, 2009, 09:13 PM

He's probably thinking he's dating a cool chick and he hopes she won't let the age issue ruin a good thing.
As for the odds of it working..it depends on the both of you, what each of you want, and what each of you are capable of giving. 10 years isn't a huge gap...unless you're 28 and he's 18, but still, there are generational aspects that might get in the way. ONly time will tell if they're enough to cause you trouble. Bottomline, just with any relationship, it depends on how compatible each of you are.

SevenFive · Jun 7th, 2009, 10:01 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

He's probably thinking he's dating a cool chick and he hopes she won't let the age issue ruin a good thing.
As for the odds of it working..it depends on the both of you, what each of you want, and what each of you are capable of giving. 10 years isn't a huge gap...unless you're 28 and he's 18, but still, there are generational aspects that might get in the way. ONly time will tell if they're enough to cause you trouble. Bottomline, just with any relationship, it depends on how compatible each of you are.

Late 20's late 30's... We have SO much in common. I am finding myself slowly being more into the thought of "us."
I never could have predicted this one. But it's so sweet I am willing to roll with it and see how it goes. Thank you for the honest response.

Charles · Jun 8th, 2009, 09:30 AM

NP...good luck!

FYI, my gf is 12 years my junior, and we've been at it for almost 3 years.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 8th, 2009, 05:12 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

NP...good luck!

FYI, my gf is 12 years my junior, and we've been at it for almost 3 years.

cradle.jpg + robber.jpg

dpgyrl026 · Jun 8th, 2009, 07:35 PM

This has probably been asked, but why do hetero men think it's hilarious to be "pretend gay" with their guy pals. The women I know do not find it funny at all

Charles · Jun 9th, 2009, 10:01 AM

I'm not sure what you mean. How do they pretend to be gay? Do they kiss their male friends?

Shoo...she was legal when we started dating! Besides, she approached me, so it's more like...bachelor pad bed robbing? How would that translate?

bagnshoofetish · Jun 9th, 2009, 12:35 PM

Originally Posted by Charles

Shoo...she was legal when we started dating! Besides, she approached me, so it's more like...bachelor pad bed robbing? How would that translate?

hmmm. how bout a young cat about to pounce on a wiener dog? (thats all I could find...)

cat and wiener dog.jpg

EMMY · Jun 10th, 2009, 01:37 PM

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

hmmm. how bout a young cat about to pounce on a wiener dog? (thats all I could find...)

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oonik · Jun 11th, 2009, 01:35 AM

Why they wouldn't ask for directions from strangers/friends ?

Why why why ?! Countless times I've told hubby to call so-and-so but he was adamant in not getting any help ! And several times I know the way but he will only use my help as a last resort. Why why why !? This issue always bothers me because it's not as if I am in an air-conditioned car. We're on a bike under the hot sun !

Chanel Belle · Jun 11th, 2009, 01:47 AM

I've met this guy a few times - always in a group situation.

During our recent meet up, he was so cautious about what he said to me, he looked as though he was afraid of offending me or just plain scared of me...lol.

I'm a shy girl, for god's sake! Why does he act as though he's treading on egg shells when he's around me? I don't get it.

Does he think I'm scary/boring/fragile?

Roo · Jun 11th, 2009, 01:49 AM

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

hmmm. how bout a young cat about to pounce on a wiener dog? (thats all I could find...)

Attachment 794778

Charles · Jun 11th, 2009, 10:58 AM

Originally Posted by oonik

Why they wouldn't ask for directions from strangers/friends ?

Why why why ?! Countless times I've told hubby to call so-and-so but he was adamant in not getting any help ! And several times I know the way but he will only use my help as a last resort. Why why why !? This issue always bothers me because it's not as if I am in an air-conditioned car. We're on a bike under the hot sun !

for some odd reason, men like to be able to get there on our own, or at least make it seem like we can get there on out own. It's the provider/dominant role in us. For me, however, I like to be able to get there, but I also don't like looking stupid, so I plan ahead and familiarize myself with the area so it looks like I know how to get anywhere, anytime. Maybe try that approach? Let him know that he doesn't look so smart when he's getting lost and he's much more likely to get some luvin if he stops to ask for directions, getting you both to your destination sooner, meaning you're less sweaty, meaning you're more willing to make out.

Or just explain how much it bothers you and ask him nicely to hit googlemaps prior to going somewhere?

Charles · Jun 11th, 2009, 11:02 AM

Originally Posted by Chanel Belle

I've met this guy a few times - always in a group situation.

During our recent meet up, he was so cautious about what he said to me, he looked as though he was afraid of offending me or just plain scared of me...lol.

I'm a shy girl, for god's sake! Why does he act as though he's treading on egg shells when he's around me? I don't get it.

Does he think I'm scary/boring/fragile?

He probably likes you and doesn't want to say something that might turn you off towards him.

sweetneet · Jun 11th, 2009, 11:08 AM

i don't know if this has been asked before (haven't read through the whole thread), but why do so many men dislike being social, in general? many guys act like they'd rather get a root canal than go to a party and have conversation with others. i don't consider myself a very social person, but i think i am, compared to my husband, who is not really a fan of meeting new people and just talking, etc. my dad is the same way. my mom would always want to host parties and chat with all the guests, yet my dad was the type who would rather just sit in a corner and read a book.

i know that not all guys are like this (a lot of guys are very outgoing) but i've noticed that in general, most guys aren't into the social scene at all. even on TV sitcoms, e.g. According to Jim, the King of Queens, etc...it is always the wife who wants to make new friends, host parties etc and the husband is always adamantly opposed to it. why?

Jun 7th, 2009, 09:13 PM	#422
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,194	He's probably thinking he's dating a cool chick and he hopes she won't let the age issue ruin a good thing. As for the odds of it working..it depends on the both of you, what each of you want, and what each of you are capable of giving. 10 years isn't a huge gap...unless you're 28 and he's 18, but still, there are generational aspects that might get in the way. ONly time will tell if they're enough to cause you trouble. Bottomline, just with any relationship, it depends on how compatible each of you are.
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Jun 8th, 2009, 09:30 AM	#424
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,194	NP...good luck! FYI, my gf is 12 years my junior, and we've been at it for almost 3 years.
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Jun 8th, 2009, 07:35 PM	#426
dpgyrl026 Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 489	This has probably been asked, but why do hetero men think it's hilarious to be "pretend gay" with their guy pals. The women I know do not find it funny at all
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Jun 9th, 2009, 10:01 AM	#427
Charles Sucks at budgeting Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Fl Posts: 6,194	I'm not sure what you mean. How do they pretend to be gay? Do they kiss their male friends? Shoo...she was legal when we started dating! Besides, she approached me, so it's more like...bachelor pad bed robbing? How would that translate?
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Jun 11th, 2009, 01:35 AM	#430
oonik Member Joined: Feb 2008 Posts: 690	Why they wouldn't ask for directions from strangers/friends ? Why why why ?! Countless times I've told hubby to call so-and-so but he was adamant in not getting any help ! And several times I know the way but he will only use my help as a last resort. Why why why !? This issue always bothers me because it's not as if I am in an air-conditioned car. We're on a bike under the hot sun !
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Jun 7th, 2009, 09:07 PM	#421
SevenFive Member Joined: Feb 2009 Location: Planet Earth Posts: 17	I'm new and mostly lurk, as it's hard to figure where's a good spot and time to jump in. So, first, hello to everyone! I recently met someone through work who I am crazy about. He perused me pretty aggressively and I probably would have never met him had he not. We are, oddly and smoothly, taking it slow. We completely enjoy the time we do spend together by going to the Movies hanging out whatever...it's all been really good! Except he is nearly ten years younger than me. My question is this: What's he thinking? What are the odds this will amount to anything? <--Because that's how I feel right now considering the odd-coupleness of it all.

Jun 11th, 2009, 01:47 AM	#431
Chanel Belle Member Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 232	I've met this guy a few times - always in a group situation. During our recent meet up, he was so cautious about what he said to me, he looked as though he was afraid of offending me or just plain scared of me...lol. I'm a shy girl, for god's sake! Why does he act as though he's treading on egg shells when he's around me? I don't get it. Does he think I'm scary/boring/fragile?
Chanel Belle Member Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 232

Jun 11th, 2009, 11:08 AM	#435
sweetneet 妊娠してるの！ Joined: Aug 2007 Location: at IKEA ♫ Posts: 5,952	i don't know if this has been asked before (haven't read through the whole thread), but why do so many men dislike being social, in general? many guys act like they'd rather get a root canal than go to a party and have conversation with others. i don't consider myself a very social person, but i think i am, compared to my husband, who is not really a fan of meeting new people and just talking, etc. my dad is the same way. my mom would always want to host parties and chat with all the guests, yet my dad was the type who would rather just sit in a corner and read a book. i know that not all guys are like this (a lot of guys are very outgoing) but i've noticed that in general, most guys aren't into the social scene at all. even on TV sitcoms, e.g. According to Jim, the King of Queens, etc...it is always the wife who wants to make new friends, host parties etc and the husband is always adamantly opposed to it. why?
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