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Libertine · Jan 22nd, 2009, 06:19 PM

Originally Posted by dell

Ok.... so how do we get you to communicate better? I am NOT talking about a 4 hour heart to heart... just to say "hey I love it when you..." or just having a conversation without getting defensive. Please, if I am asking you about why you did something, don't take it as a personal attack, I am trying to learn...

Most men simply don't enjoy talking about feelings and relationships that much, and don't see much point in doing it.

There are exceptions, but they are few and far between. With most of us, the fact that we don't communicate as much as you'd like to is something that you can only accept. Because it's not something that will change no matter how much you try, and trying too much will only lead to conflicts.

Just look at two hypothetical telephone conversations: a man telling his male best friend that he has a new girlfriend, and a woman telling her female best friend that she has a new boyfriend. The former will usually take 5 minutes, 10 at most. The latter might last the better part of a day - don't deny it, I've witnessed it many times over

canadianstudies · Jan 22nd, 2009, 06:40 PM

Originally Posted by krisluvspurses

Why do they throw dirty clothes on the floor when the hamper is 3 feet away??

ARGH oh my god I HATE this!!!

bagnshoofetish · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:11 PM

why can't men view a pantry or a refrigerator as a 3 dimensional object? if what you are looking for isn't up front, you just assume its not there? is there some sort of fear of looking behind things?

and what about closing drawers/cupboards? why do you tend to leave these things open after getting what you want out of them....?

redney · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:13 PM

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

why can't men view a pantry or a refrigerator as a 3 dimensional object? if what you are looking for isn't up front, you just assume its not there? is there some sort of fear of looking behind things?

YES, I second this!! What the heck is up with that??

kcf68 · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:14 PM

Originally Posted by illinirdhd

Why do they think farts are funny, and why don't they grow out of that? My husband literally disgusts me with them - I just don't understand how an almost 40 year old man can still crack himself up by being revolting and obnoxious.

Is my husband and your husband related??

kcf68 · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:16 PM

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

why can't men view a pantry or a refrigerator as a 3 dimensional object? if what you are looking for isn't up front, you just assume its not there? is there some sort of fear of looking behind things?

and what about closing drawers/cupboards? why do you tend to leave these things open after getting what you want out of them....?

I think it is easier for you to do it than them. It might take too much effort or they are afraid to mess up your kitchen set up.

scarlett_2005 · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:22 PM

Why do men think the bed is a good place to put a wet towel?
My husband does this at least once a week. It drives me crazy!

redney · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:31 PM

Originally Posted by kcf68

I think it is easier for you to do it than them. It might take too much effort or they are afraid to mess up your kitchen set up.

not in my case

SO will stand with the fridge door open and just look at whatever is at the front of the shelves. If the item he wants is not in the front, he does not look behind the front row of items so is convinced the item is not in the fridge. period.

he cooks and, believe me, is NOT afraid to mess up the kitchen.

bagnshoofetish · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:33 PM

Originally Posted by scarlett_2005

Why do men think the bed is a good place to put a wet towel?
My husband does this at least once a week. It drives me crazy!

yes!!!! we need answers!!!!

bagnshoofetish · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:34 PM

Originally Posted by kcf68

I think it is easier for you to do it than them. It might take too much effort or they are afraid to mess up your kitchen set up.

I don't think closing a cupboard or a drawer is going to mess up the kitchen...

talexs · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:55 PM

So I completely love this thread. My question is, why after dating for like 6 months does a guy completely ignore you after one misunderstanding? (Maybe that is a bit too specific, but I'm thinking you get the idea.) Perhaps better stated it's how or why do men disappear sometimes and not deal with a problem? And for clarification sake I don't mean deal with it like hours of drama and the sort--I don't think anyone, man or woman, likes that.

Liz_x3 · Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:58 PM

How can you tell if a guy just wants to have sex with you (conquest) or if he genuinely likes you?

MonkeyGirl · Jan 22nd, 2009, 08:07 PM

why do teenage boys seem to have it in their heads that by calling a girl a name (ex: slut, b!tch, etc), it will somehow get the girl to like them even just as a friend? cause i encounter quite a few of these guys and it bugs me.

Chanel Belle · Jan 22nd, 2009, 08:46 PM

Libertine, you have some really great answers :)

Why do guys not ask us out even when they seem interested/have crushes on us etc?

Liz_x3 · Jan 22nd, 2009, 09:41 PM

Originally Posted by Chanel Belle

Libertine, you have some really great answers :)

Why do guys not ask us out even when they seem interested/have crushes on us etc?

I second this question!!! I had a guy tell me (all through text) that he was interested in me, had been interested in me for a while (so it wasn't some spontaneous burst of feeling), and made it very clear to not just me but one of my friends at all that he wanted to have sex with me. He even told me on multiple occasions that we should hang out.
And yet he never ONCE asked me out!!!

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Jan 22nd, 2009, 08:46 PM	#29
Chanel Belle Member Joined: Nov 2008 Posts: 222	Libertine, you have some really great answers :) Why do guys not ask us out even when they seem interested/have crushes on us etc?
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Jan 22nd, 2009, 07:55 PM	#26
talexs I Love It!!!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: always in the office :( Posts: 1,348	So I completely love this thread. My question is, why after dating for like 6 months does a guy completely ignore you after one misunderstanding? (Maybe that is a bit too specific, but I'm thinking you get the idea.) Perhaps better stated it's how or why do men disappear sometimes and not deal with a problem? And for clarification sake I don't mean deal with it like hours of drama and the sort--I don't think anyone, man or woman, likes that.

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