[SPOILEDkiwi]

I live in an apartment on campus with 5 other girls. We're not really friends but we say hello to each other. The girl that lives in the room right next to me has the loudest sex. I'm ok with that except that they do it for about an hour at a time, three times a day She's SO loud that I feel like I'm listening to a porno. It's so gross that I have to turn up my tv really loudly. She also goes to sleep at weird times, so sometimes I'll wake up at 4 in the morning to her loud moaning I'm trying to study right now and they've been having sex for the last 45 minutes and I can't concentrate because my tv is so loud. This has been going on for about a month.

I have to find a way to let her know that I can hear her and ask her to keep it down. How do you confront someone about this? I think I would probably write her an anonymous note and slip it under her door so things aren't weird between the two of us. I really think that if she knew that someone could hear her she wouldn't be so loud. But what do I write?

[twinkle.tink]

I would just invest some good earplugs

[Pursegrrl]

^^ ditto. Or how about a round of applause once they "finish."

[LavenderBlue]

I would maybe knock on her door sometime and say, "I am studying for finals right now and am going around asking people to please be considerate for a couple weeks ... sometimes people are noisy and I don't say anything, but for these few weeks I have to insist." And maybe if she has a brain cell between herself and her vigorous friend, she'll figure it out.

Just an idea. Good luck!

[SPOILEDkiwi]

Originally Posted by twinkle.tink

I would just invest some good earplugs

I've thought about the earplugs, but I really would only do that as a last resort. I pay extra for my own room so I feel like I shouldn't have to wear earplugs to sleep and study every single day. I really want to try to let her know that I can hear her and it's very bothersome.

[GUNG]

^I feel for ya, I really do. In my Junior year at college, I lived with the RA (Resident Advisor) who was in charge of our floor. Her room was next to mine and she would have sex all the time. I could just not believe the kinds of stuff I was hearing at all hours of the night. She sounded like a BEAST! It was aggravating, it was hilarious, and it was mortifying. LOL

...and what the heck was I gonna do? She was the RA! LOL.

I invested in earplugs and used them nearly all the time! I think that might help your situation too!

[SPOILEDkiwi]

^^ Yeh a couple times I actually thought he was beating her up! I actually got scared because it sounded violent... but it turned out not to be.

My boyfriend thinks that we should just have really loud sex in my room so she knows how thin the walls are and hears how gross it is.

[Laurie8504]

This thread is full of great advice! (and lots of humor)

How to tell your neighbors to be quiet? (Adult content inside)

[cammy1]

look I would just be straight and tell her that sex that loud makes u uncomfortable. I had this problem before with neighbours underneath me and they had very loud sex- every day at around 3-4am- even waking up my baby. I just banged REALLY hard on the floor and they got the msg- I hardly hear them now!

[Lauralai23]

Can I just say ewwwwwwww!

I don't think I could actually confront her.. I would do the anon note too! I mean.. you live with so many girls that it could be anyone! I would be totally blunt with the letter.

Just say look.. I've been trying not to say anything, but I can't study, I can't sleep, and this is becoming a huge problem. I really need you and your guy to keep it down when you're having sex.

If she doesn't.. is there any way you and the other girls could get together and veto her out of the house or something??? You shouldn't have to wear ear plugs. It's a respect thing for me..

Have any of your other roommates said anything about hearing her too?

I thought my upstairs neighbors playing guitar hero super loud was the worst problem ever. Hahaha. I just bang on the ceiling with my broom handle.

[cherrypie]

You should call the cops on them next time they are really loud, saying you thought it was a physical/violent argument... that would shut them up

[missyanne]

Originally Posted by cherrypie

You should call the cops on them next time they are really loud, saying you thought it was a physical/violent argument... that would shut them up

Sorry, I don't have any advice but what cherrypie said might actually work.

[merika]

Bang on the wall and ask very loudly "Are you okay in there? Are you feeling ill? Do you want me to get you something?"

Originally Posted by SPOILEDkiwi

My boyfriend thinks that we should just have really loud sex in my room so she knows how thin the walls are and hears how gross it is.

That's a great idea! You'd only have to do it once...you don't even have to do it for real, you can just fake having sex if the thought of her hearing you having sex for real makes you uncomfortable!

[wordpast]

I'm sorry, I would just tell her. "Hey, do you guys think you can keep it down a little when you're having sex?"

[razorbackbelle0]

Originally Posted by merika

Bang on the wall and ask very loudly "Are you okay in there? Are you feeling ill? Do you want me to get you something?"



That's a great idea! You'd only have to do it once...you don't even have to do it for real, you can just fake having sex if the thought of her hearing you having sex for real makes you uncomfortable!

Yep, ITA. This will work. Just do it once (the faking -- or real-- sex)