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ilovetoshop2 · Oct 10th, 2009, 10:31 AM

I ended up going out last night to a friend's house. One of my guy friends (which my BF HATES) was there. I got drunk and got home at 2am. This morning I tlked to my BF and i told him about last night. Now he's pissed at me and wont even talk to me :'(. I dont know what to do, I asked him if he's gonna break up with me bcuz of this and he said that he needs to think :(. I cant contact him till he says something to me first bcuz he's phone broke yesterday and he works in the marine and has work untill tomorrow probably. I just feel so desperate and ashamed of what i did, I dont know what i should do anymore .. :'(

** i just noticed i posted this in the wrong section :x *** a mod please move this for me

love2shop_26 · Oct 10th, 2009, 03:35 PM

Did something happen between you and this other guy? Is that why you're ashamed? I say just give your BF the time and space he needs to think about it. Hopefully you two can work things out

shy*violet · Oct 10th, 2009, 03:54 PM

I'm confused... why are you "ashamed" because you went to a party and one of your guy friends was there?

If that's it, then I think you should contemplate if you are OK with your boyfriend telling you who you can/can't be friends with.

Aslan · Oct 10th, 2009, 04:02 PM

Please clarify, OP.

Cheetah7 · Oct 10th, 2009, 04:09 PM

I guess I don't understand why you would be *ashamed* of having your guy friend there unless something happened between the two of you. And is there a reason why your bf hates him? Maybe you should add more details to your post?

domlee · Oct 10th, 2009, 04:40 PM

Need further clarfication. As it stands right now, just because you and your bf's enemy (let's call him that for now) are in the same room, doesn't mean anything occurred. Need more info from you.

MarieG · Oct 10th, 2009, 05:00 PM

I agree with everyone- please clarify!

If he's only upset about you spending an evening with your friends and this person he doesn't like happened to be there I don't really see a problem. Does he expect you to just get up and leave as soon as this person enters a room??

In case something happened between you two that night I can obviously completely understand your boyfriend. In case that is the case it might be good for you to ask yourself why you did what you did and reevaluate your relationship.

However, as everyone mentioned before, we more clarification

ilovetoshop2 · Oct 10th, 2009, 05:24 PM

Sorry i didnt clarify.

NOTHING happened between me and my guy friend (lets call him T). My BF is like dead jealous of T bcuz for some reason he thinks T likes me. & also, my BF got mad bcuz i drank without asking him. IDK but I think tht he thinks tht mayb T could have took advantage of me since I got drunk, but he DIDNT. Now my BF says tht as of right now he doesnt trust me and has to think.

He told me tht i should have left once i realized T was there. I didnt know he was gonna b there.

claireZk · Oct 10th, 2009, 06:18 PM

No offense, but BF sounds like a controlling jerk. You can't drink without asking him??? Are you serious?!

talexs · Oct 10th, 2009, 06:21 PM

I wouldn't lose sleep over this, give your bf some time and then see how it goes. I am not in your situation--so I don't know everything--but I would definitely think if this is the type of relationship you want to be in. You can't/ don't drink unless you ask your bf, he makes you feel ashamed of yourself (for apparently no reason), this doesn't sound like it is good for you.

gacats · Oct 10th, 2009, 06:48 PM

I'm sorry, does BF support you? Is he in charge of you somehow?
Anytime you let someone control you, you lose everything.
Consider it a blessing if he breaks up with you.
Not to be harsh, but you are responsible for your own self. He isn't.

Junkenpo · Oct 10th, 2009, 06:49 PM

sounds to me like you need a new BF. a good SO doesn't get "jealous" for no good reason, control who you can be friends with... or control your normal behaviors. Permission to drink? seriously, who does that? Granted, getting drunk may not be the most responsible behavior, but that's still up to you to control, not him.

that he's shutting down the lines of communication to guilt you isn't reasonable either.

i say: walk now.

Aslan · Oct 10th, 2009, 06:50 PM

Originally Posted by claireZk

No offense, but BF sounds like a controlling jerk. You can't drink without asking him??? Are you serious?!

I totally agree!

OP, You shouldn't put up with this behavior from him! You have nothing to be ashamed of!

Mininana · Oct 10th, 2009, 06:51 PM

OMG I agree with the rest. Ur bf can't tell you what u CAN or CANNOT do. He's not your FATHER.

And he should like you by who you are

Jahpson · Oct 10th, 2009, 07:07 PM

sorry, but that is your BF's problem and not yours if he cannot handle it. dont let him make you feel guilty when you did nothing!! dont let him run your life

i bet you cant say anything if the tables were turned

Oct 10th, 2009, 10:31 AM	#1
ilovetoshop2 OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Location: Brazil Posts: 37	what should i do?:( I ended up going out last night to a friend's house. One of my guy friends (which my BF HATES) was there. I got drunk and got home at 2am. This morning I tlked to my BF and i told him about last night. Now he's pissed at me and wont even talk to me :'(. I dont know what to do, I asked him if he's gonna break up with me bcuz of this and he said that he needs to think :(. I cant contact him till he says something to me first bcuz he's phone broke yesterday and he works in the marine and has work untill tomorrow probably. I just feel so desperate and ashamed of what i did, I dont know what i should do anymore .. :'( i just noticed i posted this in the wrong section :x * a mod please move this for me
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Oct 10th, 2009, 03:35 PM	#2
love2shop_26 Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: ♥In my own little world♥ Posts: 2,912	Did something happen between you and this other guy? Is that why you're ashamed? I say just give your BF the time and space he needs to think about it. Hopefully you two can work things out
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Oct 10th, 2009, 03:54 PM	#3
shy*violet I heart PINK! Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 1,286	I'm confused... why are you "ashamed" because you went to a party and one of your guy friends was there? If that's it, then I think you should contemplate if you are OK with your boyfriend telling you who you can/can't be friends with.
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Oct 10th, 2009, 04:02 PM	#4
Aslan liberty+compassion Joined: Nov 2006 Location: New York Posts: 3,365	Please clarify, OP.
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Oct 10th, 2009, 04:09 PM	#5
Cheetah7 Member Joined: Aug 2009 Location: Here, there and everywhere Posts: 302	I guess I don't understand why you would be ashamed of having your guy friend there unless something happened between the two of you. And is there a reason why your bf hates him? Maybe you should add more details to your post?
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Oct 10th, 2009, 04:40 PM	#6
domlee Member Joined: Jan 2007 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 949	Need further clarfication. As it stands right now, just because you and your bf's enemy (let's call him that for now) are in the same room, doesn't mean anything occurred. Need more info from you.

Oct 10th, 2009, 05:00 PM	#7
MarieG ..loves Balenciaga:) Joined: Jun 2006 Posts: 4,017	I agree with everyone- please clarify! If he's only upset about you spending an evening with your friends and this person he doesn't like happened to be there I don't really see a problem. Does he expect you to just get up and leave as soon as this person enters a room?? In case something happened between you two that night I can obviously completely understand your boyfriend. In case that is the case it might be good for you to ask yourself why you did what you did and reevaluate your relationship. However, as everyone mentioned before, we more clarification
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Oct 10th, 2009, 05:24 PM	#8
ilovetoshop2 OP Member Joined: Jun 2007 Location: Brazil Posts: 37	Sorry i didnt clarify. NOTHING happened between me and my guy friend (lets call him T). My BF is like dead jealous of T bcuz for some reason he thinks T likes me. & also, my BF got mad bcuz i drank without asking him. IDK but I think tht he thinks tht mayb T could have took advantage of me since I got drunk, but he DIDNT. Now my BF says tht as of right now he doesnt trust me and has to think. He told me tht i should have left once i realized T was there. I didnt know he was gonna b there.

Oct 10th, 2009, 06:18 PM	#9
claireZk Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 11,691	No offense, but BF sounds like a controlling jerk. You can't drink without asking him??? Are you serious?!
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Oct 10th, 2009, 06:21 PM	#10
talexs I Love It!!!!! Joined: Jun 2008 Location: always in the office :( Posts: 1,490	I wouldn't lose sleep over this, give your bf some time and then see how it goes. I am not in your situation--so I don't know everything--but I would definitely think if this is the type of relationship you want to be in. You can't/ don't drink unless you ask your bf, he makes you feel ashamed of yourself (for apparently no reason), this doesn't sound like it is good for you.

Oct 10th, 2009, 06:48 PM	#11
gacats love me some bags! Joined: Oct 2006 Location: Georgia Posts: 7,086	I'm sorry, does BF support you? Is he in charge of you somehow? Anytime you let someone control you, you lose everything. Consider it a blessing if he breaks up with you. Not to be harsh, but you are responsible for your own self. He isn't.
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Oct 10th, 2009, 06:49 PM	#12
Junkenpo LVoebird! Joined: Jan 2007 Location: 2500 miles from any continental landmass Posts: 3,058	sounds to me like you need a new BF. a good SO doesn't get "jealous" for no good reason, control who you can be friends with... or control your normal behaviors. Permission to drink? seriously, who does that? Granted, getting drunk may not be the most responsible behavior, but that's still up to you to control, not him. that he's shutting down the lines of communication to guilt you isn't reasonable either. i say: walk now.
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Oct 10th, 2009, 06:51 PM	#14
Mininana Member Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 764	OMG I agree with the rest. Ur bf can't tell you what u CAN or CANNOT do. He's not your FATHER. And he should like you by who you are
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Oct 10th, 2009, 07:07 PM	#15
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,377	sorry, but that is your BF's problem and not yours if he cannot handle it. dont let him make you feel guilty when you did nothing!! dont let him run your life i bet you cant say anything if the tables were turned
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