What is he trying to say?

[A_Lagerfeld_Grl]

Me and my boyfriend are in a LDR. He lives in London and me in Malaysia. I was in London before I got back here.

Anyway, yesterday he flew home to his parents in Dublin and after some texts from him last night, he mentioned this.....

After some talks tonight, i think i need a girlfriend to be there for me now.....these days are just getting harder...

Separation for real? Is that it? What are your takes on it if someone say so to you?

[oo0ehxtahcee0oo]

how long have you two been together for?? and why did you move to make it a LDR?? LDR are hard period, maybe theres something he needs your support for?? is he sick or something??

[VPT]

Yeah looks like he wants a girlfriend who can physically be there with him, not everyone takes kindly to LDR. Sorry it does seem like a breakup.

[A_Lagerfeld_Grl]

We were together for 9months, i got back home to Malaysia in Nov 2007.

[VPT]

I have something to tell you in private but I can't seem to message you. Do you have another older ID perhaps?

[A_Lagerfeld_Grl]

Originally Posted by VPT

I have something to tell you in private but I can't seem to message you. Do you have another older ID perhaps?

I dont...why not here?

[VPT]

Cos i suspect his reason is not valid. There's more to it. I've been in a similar situation before.

[oo0ehxtahcee0oo]

Originally Posted by VPT

Cos i suspect his reason is not valid. There's more to it. I've been in a similar situation before.

Yah.. or that too!!

[A_Lagerfeld_Grl]

...........and?

[guccimamma]

man, i am up past my bedtime....i thought you guys were LDS...i was trying to figure out what your religion had to do with your separation, i had to read it again to figure out what LDR meant.

time for me to go to sleep.

sorry you are going through this, long distance can be painful.

[A_Lagerfeld_Grl]

Ah, no it has nothing to do with religion..Jst me having to make it back home then...

[barcreperie]

If I received that text message in those circumstances, I'd take it as a prelude to a breakup.

[Cristina]

Originally Posted by VPT

Cos i suspect his reason is not valid. There's more to it. I've been in a similar situation before.

I think there is more to this, as well.

An appropriate response to his statement would be, "You know what? I was thinking the exact same thing. I also need someone who can be here for me, too. A break will do us both good."

Then, hang up the phone and do all of your crying, moping and ice cream eating Don't pick up his phone calls or answer his text messages.

After you're done with that, get busy, with work, school and some fun activities. You never know who you'll meet!

[nickkyvintage]

Originally Posted by Cristina

I think there is more to this, as well.

An appropriate response to his statement would be, "You know what? I was thinking the exact same thing. I also need someone who can be here for me, too. A break will do us both good."

Then, hang up the phone and do all of your crying, moping and ice cream eating Don't pick up his phone calls or answer his text messages.

After you're done with that, get busy, with work, school and some fun activities. You never know who you'll meet!

yep that is just what i would do! beat him to it. It might make you feel loads better. If it's not a break up he wants then he will tell you if he contacts you! Good luck x

[EmmaLee83]

Shouldn't she try and discuss things with him first? Perhaps he is seeing someone else or something, but it's usually not so easy to just dump someone without having some sort of closure...