[orderandlaw]

Okay, so imagine someone has promised that they will call you on a certain night, and then they completely fail to call. Between the time they fail to call and the time you talk to them, what do you think?

My first (sane) though was "Oh, he probably got called into work and couldn't call." My second (insane) thought was "He is not interested and didn't want to talk to me." I call that second thought insane because as far as I can tell there is absolutely no reason he would not want to talk to me and the last time we were together he was very interested. *chuckle* Apparently I am just extremely paranoid when it comes to relationships.

So, what do you think when someone doesn't call?

[Jahpson]

I think you think too much.

I dont call people often and its because im not a phone person. I would rather speak face to face

[siworae]

^^ I am like that too... definitely not a phone person! I actually use text messaging more often. Even when I am on the phone, the conversation usually lasts about 2-3 min. I prefer to meet in person, and I only use my phone to confirm a time/date for that.

I can understand where you're coming from, though... most of my family, friends, and acquaintances cannot live without their cell phones. They are often baffled when I don't call or don't pick up (and when I don't return a call after they've left a message), or they assume something is wrong... and when it comes to dating, guys assume I am not interested... and that's not always the case at all!! I'm trying to work on it, though.

[keya]

^^I think this is different, though, as the guy had promised he'd call. Why promise you'll call if you don't like talking on the phone, KWIM?


and I don't know why, but for some reason people in general tend not to call when they say they will I've had friends who, when they've said they'll call me, have made me think "oh, she def. wont call me, then " just because they never call when they say they will, but always do when they don't I don't know. Maybe making a promise to call makes it feel like an obligation, a chore, and that's what makes people "forget"? I don't know, maybe someone else can shed some light...

[Glamorous_girl]

im not a phone person, but if a person says they will call/text whatever on a certain day and it's 2 days later, then I just assume they are not interested.

[amanda]

it doesn't necessarily mean anything. i have a 25-page thread in here about a guy that asked me out, seemed like he had fun, and then didn't return two phone calls the next weekend. now we're dating regularly, at his request. he's not a phone person, so he didn't return the calls when he got the messages and couldn't hang out or had missed the time of the invitation. you have to look at the guy's entire history of acting around you; different people do different things for different reasons.

[forever21]

Calling someone I don't know very well makes me nervous as well... so I don't worry about that. But I think there are no excuses for not texting. If he doesn't text when he says he will, then forget it.

[snoozle]

I don't think anything of it. I hate talking on the phone so I'm not bothered by it. You can't get me to text unless it is life and death and then it will be "OK" or yes so some other 3 letter word because I don't have a texting plan and I don't care to use texting at the momment.

There is a difference btw your question and the title. If it were a date and he didn't call I'd think he was busy. But if he promised to call and didn't I'd probably do a :

[Speedy]

here we go again.


R E L A X!

[elizat]

Originally Posted by forever21

Calling someone I don't know very well makes me nervous as well... so I don't worry about that. But I think there are no excuses for not texting. If he doesn't text when he says he will, then forget it.

I agree. My dad is kind of harsh at times, but he always says that if a guy doesn't follow through in the beginning and wow you, he is not worth it. Provided, of course, that nothing awful happened, like a death, accident, etc., that prohibited from calling.

[Speedy]

On a second and more awake thought, if someone promised me they'd call and they didn't, they'd better be dead or in the hospital.

It's rude not to call someone if you've said you would. He's got one bad mark. (Yes, it's okay to keep score, helps if you ever decide he's marriage material.)

[RowanOak]

^^LOL. Speedy, you just kill me. I'm gonna go with you on the "better be dead or in the hospital." :)

[devoted]

I would think he was busy. if he never called again then obviously he wasn't interested. Not calling a few times just means he's busy, he forgot, etc. If you're not in a serious relationship with him there's no need to get upset.

[Irissy]

Some guys are just not phone talkers but they might be crazy texters, or they prefer to see you in person instead. Look at how he reacts in person when he's with you.

I usually just think that they got busy and forgot to call, but they better call within the next 2 days or they're dead in my book.

[Glamorous_girl]

Originally Posted by Irissy

Some guys are just not phone talkers but they might be crazy texters, or they prefer to see you in person instead. Look at how he reacts in person when he's with you.

I usually just think that they got busy and forgot to call, but they better call within the next 2 days or they're dead in my book.

Yes, I go by the next 2 days rule then I move on. I don't want to wait around and stress out but at the same time I'm giving them a bit of a buffer zone if something important came up. To me if you SAY you will call at a certain date/time or before a certain day/time, then I expect you to call. This isn't just with phone stuff, it's with hanging out and other stuff. I think if they say "I will call you/we should hang out SOMETIME" then I think they are being polite but if they say something specific like "Ill call you sunday night" or "lets have lunch on thursday" and they don't, then It bothers me.