What do you do alone on Friday and Saturday nights?

[Bella]

Originally Posted by bagnshoofetish

as the saying goes, no man/woman is an island. you always go on about being a loner but if you truly were, you would not be reaching out to people on a social network like TPF. just because you are alone and have been since a child does not mean you don't want or need others in your life. you constantly tell us all how terrible things have been for you and your threads are always about pointing out how you have been mistreated. the fact that you post these things publicly shows that you DO want attention from people. there is nothing wrong with that. we all do. just stop harping on being a loner - I am basically a loner too but all that means is that I am completely comfortable with being by myself. I get the feeling you repel people in real life because you don't trust other people or are afraid of being hurt. well, join the club. no one likes being hurt but it happens to everyone. stop walking around with that little black cloud over your head, try to see the good in others and project the good in yourself for others to see. if you walk around with nothing but negativity in your head and in your heart, trust me, it manifests in your entire aura and people can pick up on that a mile away. sure there are plenty of things to do by yourself but unless you are living on a secluded island, you are going to have to share whatever space you are in with others and you need to learn how to be more welcoming of that and let your guard down and give people the benefit of the doubt. we are all in this world together. gotta learn to get along with people IRL as well as on the internet.

Thanks shoo. You have said what I tried to say in my last post I deleted. If anything it reinforces I'm not alone in the way I'm seeing things here.

jackie, you don't sound like someone who is happy and content with being alone. You seem to be reaching out, but then in the same breath you are resistant. You said you never smile. There are just too many reasons to smile in this life jackie.

[helpchow]

Originally Posted by jackie100

Actually I started to play tennis already and there were a few other people in my class but I didn't meet or click with anyone. I didn't really talk to any of the other folks. I also took some college classes a few years ago but I still didn't meet anyone. I'm just a really introverted person, it's just how I am. I already was this way back in high school; I used to eat lunch alone etc. I have always been this way since I was born. I just prefer doing things alone.

Jackie, your posts always touch me a bit, probably because you remind me of myself in some ways. I've been a loner most of my life and an introvert. Although it is my nature to be an introvert, I do crave and need companionship, in the form of friendships or relationships. When I was in college, I often went from one boyfriend to the next because I didn't have many close girlfriends. Unfortunately, because I was too dependent on them, they didn't always treat me well and I would take it bc I was lonely. It was not until I got older that I made an effort to keep friendships, although not always successfully. If you are really content being alone, some of the things I would do on the weekends was just going to movies, dinner by myself, shopping, going to museums, etc. I also took cooking classes and art classes just bc I enjoyed these activities and they were social activities.

On the other hand, if you would like to participate in more social activities, maybe join some social groups in your area? It might be a pain at first, and may not even be fruitful, but you may just end up meeting some good friends. I know sometimes having girlfriends can be a pain in the ass bc they can be too self-absorbed or petty and you don't always get all the attention as you would with a boyfriend, but they are nice to have and can bring balance to your life if you don't have family to depend on. Good luck.

[amymaria]

Hey girl,
no i think i understood your question but i answered it a little bit in my mind differently.

aside from having dinner and stuff with friends I did everything alone. shopping, errands, movies etc and my point was I actually still do that alone.

i like to see movies alone the the theatre sometimes haha and i like having lunch on the patio of a restaurant alone too.

summertime i go to the park and read alone.

those are my fav things

Originally Posted by jackie100

I think I was more asking about what to do on the weekends by yourself when you don't have friends to go out with... When you have no one, no friends or acquaintances? What do you when completely alone? Having a bf is irrelevant to me, one can still have a great life without one. I guess I meant what type of activities to do by yourself if you have no one to do them with you? Such as going out to a restaurant alone, perhaps going to a concert alone, etc? What are more fun solo activities you can do by yourself? I am pretty much always single so that's not the issue and I don't plan to get a bf or get married... People responding with "going out for coffee with my friends" probably think that I meant to ask "What do you do alone on Friday and Saturday nights when you are single?" but that was not what I meant to ask. I meant to ask "What do you do alone on Friday and Sat night if you have no bf, no friends, and no family?" Sorry if I didn't phrase it correctly the first time :) So everyone please don't say "I go to vegas with my friends" or "I go get coffee with friends" etc... That doesn't count because that means you're not alone.. lol I meant to ask what do you do on weekend nights when you are COMPLETELY ALONE (meaning have no friends, family, bf)

[ladolcevita*]

Grocery shopping is always a lot of fun for me, but I enjoy food and supermarkets. Bookstores are also nice

[olialm1]

I usually have dinner with my s/o and hang out with him. Sometimes we see a movie, have some drinks, concerts, bars, whatever really. If I hang out with my girlfriends we usually shop. If I have the night to myself I usually pick up a work shift, bum around and surf the net, or get some studying done.

[fieryfashionist]

I love going to B&N and reading a silly, fun magazine (US Weekly, etc.) with a cup of hot chocolate, watching my favorite tv shows, surfing the net (I literally research clothing and make lists of items I want, I'm so passionate - hmm, maybe that's a euphemism for crazy - about fashion haha), working out, going to museums, window shopping (and shopping!), cooking yummy things, watching movies (I got over that high schoolish god forbid you watch a movie by yourself mentality a long time ago) and stuff like that... nothing spectacularly interesting, but to be honest, I love hanging out with myself and have never been someone who constantly needs to be around people... I don't show up late and I always know how to behave around myself haha.

[yeliab]

In college I looked forward to Fridays bc I told myself "no studying on Fridays"... I just did whatever I wanted! And it still goes on today!

I look forward to Fridays bc I feel fantastic knowing that I can sleep in late on Saturdays! Friday nights are for watching DVDs, surfing the net, having dinner out, or having dinner take out at home, or going to movie theaters, etc... I love cuddling on the couch with pups in tow and just watch movies!! That's the best!! Decompressing from the week is just a luxury I look forward to!

When my older DH wants to sleep early on Friday night - I'm kind of disappointed bc I want to stay up late. I just end up doing my own thing!

[Jahpson]

Originally Posted by fieryfashionist

I love going to B&N and reading a silly, fun magazine (US Weekly, etc.) with a cup of hot chocolate, watching my favorite tv shows, surfing the net (I literally research clothing and make lists of items I want, I'm so passionate - hmm, maybe that's a euphemism for crazy - about fashion haha), working out, going to museums, window shopping (and shopping!), cooking yummy things, watching movies (I got over that high schoolish god forbid you watch a movie by yourself mentality a long time ago) and stuff like that... nothing spectacularly interesting, but to be honest, I love hanging out with myself and have never been someone who constantly needs to be around people... I don't show up late and I always know how to behave around myself haha.

I must say, that was the most fun I have ever had. I went to the movies by myself a couple of times. I buy some of the food and candy and just enjoy. I would recommend seeing a comedy or romance flick. The first movie I went to see was one of the SAW trilogies [horror], and I was a little shook up when I walked to my car IN BROAD DAYLIGHT! lol

[elizat]

The stuff I posted I do totally alone. I do spend time w/ family and friends on weekends, but I also spend a ton of time alone and there are entire weekends where I don't talk to or see anyone, by choice.

Other ideas for solo stuff: art galleries/exhibits, museums, local festivals or markets, local parks or going to a zoo, or movies/seeing a show. I have season passes to all the Broadway shows at my performing arts center with my mom, but if she didn't want to go, I'd have happily got my own season pass. I do the stuff above alone all the time.

[petitechouchou]

I do a lot of things when I am alone. My dbf enjoys mountain biking and surfing so he goes off to his 'man dates' so I usually catch up on movies, rearranging the house, reading, or playing with my purses

[Fetish]

Most people I know always party on fridays/saturdays and like mentioned - ask me how my weekend was. Truth is, I stray away from partying on weekends because its the heavy partying that goes on and I like to avoid spending any mass amounts of money that Im having a hard time scrounging for lately. Instead I may grab lunch with a friend on the weekdays and come the weekends, its pretty much "me" time. I too am self employed so on the weekends instead of partying, I will actually do more work - negotiating contracts or promoting my business. Sometimes I help out my parents with their errands since they've done so much for me over the years or I help take care of their house. I clean or organize my home.. pretty much do stuff that I wouldnt normally want to do during the week that I am working. Im not into pampering myself a whole but I will watch a movie or tv, surf facebook/contact friends, surf the messageboards, take care/spend time with the animals, read some magazines/books.. theres always something to do. :)

[jackie100]

Thanks everyone for your responses and giving me good and fun ideas to try out...

[one2many]

Let's see...it's Friday night right now and I'm about to shower then spend the rest of the evening watching tv and messing around online (games, searching, etc.). Oh yeah I'm totally cool, lol.

[juneping]

^^i am doing the same. would love a bath but the condition of the tub is not good enought (it's nothing i can do about it...wish i could clean it though).
bf is helping his legally blind friend tonight...ugh...

[Heath-kkf]

I pretty much do what everyone else has said. Fridays are a long day for me, so I'm usually exausted by the end of it. I am also in law school so that is alot of work to do also. I can't be with the bf much on the weekends cause he lives 45 minutes away and is usually busy studying for college classes and taking care of his DD.