What to do...if material things you adore; you no longer care for?

Yorelica · Jun 27th, 2008, 02:47 PM

I loved purses and jewels... but some things happen the past few days ...and I feel like none of those "things" makes me happy anymore.

Will this feeling change with time?

Thanks for listening.

juneping · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:12 PM

i know what you are saying...sometimes i was so sick of the stuff i bought. but when i walking on the streets...i asked myself..can i really let go of my material stuff?
maybe the feeling will change...but i think it's more like wave...comes and goes..but each time gives your something new to think about.

nataliam1976 · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:58 PM

Funny you say that..I feel similar recently...The way I used to be I would just go and but the bag I want no matter what...but now I just dont care. Even my HGS dont give me much joy. I´d rather spend it on nice dinner and vacation with my SO.

maybe its temporary, maybe its part of maturing process ?

pattylauren · Jun 27th, 2008, 04:59 PM

It's because they're things and in the end, they don't matter and they won't make you happy. I feel that way sometimes after a big purchase... It's not going with me when I die, ya know? Just be a good steward of your money and try to have the important areas of your life settled, and when you see something you like and if you can get it... buy it and enjoy it for what it is, not what it can bring you.

nooch · Jun 27th, 2008, 06:15 PM

I'm the total opposite, I was so minimalist with stuff until my dad died. Now I have been spending like my money is on fire.

bagnshoofetish · Jun 27th, 2008, 09:39 PM

I can't say I LOVE my stuff. I just like it. I try to always remember its just stuff - I own "it" - "It" doesn't own me. I can take it all or leave it. My happiness does not depend on any of it. Don't allow your happiness to depend on what you own and you just won't care that much. Enjoy it for what it is - fleeting, temporary "pretty things" that distract us from the wear and tear life can put on us. Never take any of it so seriously.
Its been said over and over, 'you can't take it with you' so it must not be very important to begin with!

April_Skye · Jun 27th, 2008, 09:57 PM

I think something you need to remember is that these things - whether they are bags or jewels or makeup - is that they are accessories to your life.
They're the cherry on the cake.
I would actually feel a little sorry for you if those things were all you lived for and all you adored because that would seem terribly hollow.
If your feeling a little empty lately, its obviously about something deeper that needs a bit more attention. It'll pass! Trust me, ive experienced this a few times myself.

"Some things happened these past few days..."

Obviously your going through a some sort of situation (hopefully its not a very bad one! Hugs to you if it is!) that has sparked this feeling. But thats okay. What i like to do is stop spending on luxuries for a little while (note my ban?) and instead, catch up with my old friends, spend time with family/pets, have more 'me' time where I delve into new music, movies, books and dabble in a bit of art. Fill that empty space - and have fun doing it!

Schmodi · Jun 27th, 2008, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by nataliam1976

Funny you say that..I feel similar recently...The way I used to be I would just go and but the bag I want no matter what...but now I just dont care. Even my HGS dont give me much joy. I´d rather spend it on nice dinner and vacation with my SO.

maybe its temporary, maybe its part of maturing process ?

I'm exactly this way now too. I still like nice things, but I care more about having a nice time with my friends or SO rather than a new bag, etc.

Lululovebags · Jun 28th, 2008, 01:18 AM

hmmm, can we ever give up our worldly posessions?
the only time i feel like i don't care for my purses and jewels is when i shift my attention to something else. like a new car or something.
but the love always comes back.

lolitakali · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorelica

I loved purses and jewels... but some things happen the past few days ...and I feel like none of those "things" makes me happy anymore.

Will this feeling change with time?

Thanks for listening.

I think we all "grow out" of certain things.

See...

I used to like "purses", but grow out of it. Any purse I own that "is" trendy will become "was" trendy as the next best thing comes along...

Now....

I love CHC (cold hard cash) & gold... never out of style & always "In".

Which I think it is a better choice for me.

nataliam1976 · Jun 28th, 2008, 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Schmodi

I'm exactly this way now too. I still like nice things, but I care more about having a nice time with my friends or SO rather than a new bag, etc.

you and me , gf

imashopaholic · Jun 28th, 2008, 08:40 AM

I have to work really hard and put my pocket money aside for months before making a purchase and because it's not something I do often, I really cherish the 'material things' when I'm able to afford them. Having said that, most of my time, money and energy is invested in my happiness and that of my DH. We save a percentage of our income every week, pay all of the bills, and put a little aside for special nights out and things just for us.

What I'm trying to say is that if you focus on living and loving your life, the material things will be the icing on the cake, rather than the soft spongey centre. See them for what they are and you might find you'll enjoy them more. Like candy, if they're rare treats they won't be so sickly sweet that they'll turn you off wanting them. When you don't get to have something easily or often, you tend to appreciate it even more when the time comes for you to have it.

barcreperie · Jun 28th, 2008, 09:06 AM

You know, I've never really understood the notion that things must not be important because "you can't take it with you". You also can't take your friends, spouse, children, etc with you, does that make them unimportant?

I go through phases of what I want and value in terms of material things. I've gone through phases of wanting only improvements on my home, jewelry, handbags, clothes, shoes, cosmetics, etc. I drift in and out of these and other near-obsessions. But I've found that the more I can afford, if I give in too often to purchases of a certain type, they give me less of a thrill and become less important. In other words, the novelty wears off with overload. So I've learned to pull back and not indulge myself to excess anymore. For the past 6 months or so I've been on an anti-consumerism kick, fueled in part by Twiggers "Curbing Consumerism" thread, and it feels WONDERFUL!!!! It's not that I don't make *any* purchases anymore, but each purchase I make is well thought out and because of that I make far fewer purchases than I did a year ago. As a consequence, each purchase means more to me, gives me more of a thrill, and I don't feel as much like a marketing victim as I'd been in the past.

keodi · Jun 28th, 2008, 09:58 AM

[quote=barcreperie;6900621]You know, I've never really understood the notion that things must not be important because "you can't take it with you". You also can't take your friends, spouse, children, etc with you, does that make them unimportant?

I go through phases of what I want and value in terms of material things. I've gone through phases of wanting only improvements on my home, jewelry, handbags, clothes, shoes, cosmetics, etc. I drift in and out of these and other near-obsessions. But I've found that the more I can afford, if I give in too often to purchases of a certain type, they give me less of a thrill and become less important. In other words, the novelty wears off with overload. So I've learned to pull back and not indulge myself to excess anymore. For the past 6 months or so I've been on an anti-consumerism kick, fueled in part by Twiggers "Curbing Consumerism" thread, and it feels WONDERFUL!!!! It's not that I don't make *any* purchases anymore, but each purchase I make is well thought out and because of that I make far fewer purchases than I did a year ago. As a consequence, each purchase means more to me, gives me more of a thrill, and I don't feel as much like a marketing victim as I'd been in the past.[/quote]

well said, this is exactly how I've been feeling lately..

Liz_x3 · Jun 28th, 2008, 11:32 AM

I've felt like this on numerous occasions!

There's a really good chance that you might start craving material things again since most people do. I know that after a few days (and sometimes even hours LOL) I started wanting things again.

But if it all came down to it, I would rather have an amazing life then amazing things.

I think maybe something have happened to you that make you question the real meaning of life or something similar.

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:12 PM	#2
juneping couch potato-ing Joined: Jun 2007 Location: NYC Posts: 1,562	i know what you are saying...sometimes i was so sick of the stuff i bought. but when i walking on the streets...i asked myself..can i really let go of my material stuff? maybe the feeling will change...but i think it's more like wave...comes and goes..but each time gives your something new to think about. __________________ wish list: purse ban until the cc is paid off

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:58 PM	#3
nataliam1976 Hmmmph Joined: Nov 2006 Location: all around Europe Posts: 8,369	Funny you say that..I feel similar recently...The way I used to be I would just go and but the bag I want no matter what...but now I just dont care. Even my HGS dont give me much joy. I´d rather spend it on nice dinner and vacation with my SO. maybe its temporary, maybe its part of maturing process ? __________________ "Buy me, Lady" said the frock, "and I will make you into a BEAUTIFUL and WHOLE and COMPLETE human being". "Do not be SILLY", said the Man, " for a frock alone cannot do that". "TRUE" said the Lady. " I shall have the Shoes and the Bag as well".

Jun 27th, 2008, 04:59 PM	#4
pattylauren fierce Joined: Sep 2007 Location: The beautiful south Posts: 248	It's because they're things and in the end, they don't matter and they won't make you happy. I feel that way sometimes after a big purchase... It's not going with me when I die, ya know? Just be a good steward of your money and try to have the important areas of your life settled, and when you see something you like and if you can get it... buy it and enjoy it for what it is, not what it can bring you. __________________

Jun 27th, 2008, 06:15 PM	#5
nooch Member Joined: Apr 2008 Location: new mexico via BROOKLYN NY Posts: 1,145	I'm the total opposite, I was so minimalist with stuff until my dad died. Now I have been spending like my money is on fire. __________________ http://www.natreasures.com Authentic American Indian jewelry & crafts All orders ship free PM me for discount codes Support local artists & their work!

Jun 27th, 2008, 09:39 PM	#6
bagnshoofetish No More 4 Me Thanks! Joined: Feb 2006 Posts: 15,182	I can't say I LOVE my stuff. I just like it. I try to always remember its just stuff - I own "it" - "It" doesn't own me. I can take it all or leave it. My happiness does not depend on any of it. Don't allow your happiness to depend on what you own and you just won't care that much. Enjoy it for what it is - fleeting, temporary "pretty things" that distract us from the wear and tear life can put on us. Never take any of it so seriously. Its been said over and over, 'you can't take it with you' so it must not be very important to begin with! __________________ click here.

Jun 27th, 2008, 02:47 PM	#1
Yorelica Member Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 2,480	I loved purses and jewels... but some things happen the past few days ...and I feel like none of those "things" makes me happy anymore. Will this feeling change with time? Thanks for listening.

Jun 27th, 2008, 09:57 PM	#7
April_Skye we CAN have it all Joined: Jun 2007 Location: Sydney, Australia Posts: 602	I think something you need to remember is that these things - whether they are bags or jewels or makeup - is that they are accessories to your life. They're the cherry on the cake. I would actually feel a little sorry for you if those things were all you lived for and all you adored because that would seem terribly hollow. If your feeling a little empty lately, its obviously about something deeper that needs a bit more attention. It'll pass! Trust me, ive experienced this a few times myself. "Some things happened these past few days..." Obviously your going through a some sort of situation (hopefully its not a very bad one! Hugs to you if it is!) that has sparked this feeling. But thats okay. What i like to do is stop spending on luxuries for a little while (note my ban?) and instead, catch up with my old friends, spend time with family/pets, have more 'me' time where I delve into new music, movies, books and dabble in a bit of art. Fill that empty space - and have fun doing it! __________________ Live Now. Kill The Boredom *On shopping ban until 1st August!! Can she do it?*

Jun 28th, 2008, 01:18 AM	#9
Lululovebags LV + Tiffany = LOVE Joined: Mar 2008 Location: Earth Posts: 2,337	hmmm, can we ever give up our worldly posessions? the only time i feel like i don't care for my purses and jewels is when i shift my attention to something else. like a new car or something. but the love always comes back. __________________

Jun 28th, 2008, 08:40 AM	#12
imashopaholic is in LoVe again! Joined: May 2008 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 2,702	I have to work really hard and put my pocket money aside for months before making a purchase and because it's not something I do often, I really cherish the 'material things' when I'm able to afford them. Having said that, most of my time, money and energy is invested in my happiness and that of my DH. We save a percentage of our income every week, pay all of the bills, and put a little aside for special nights out and things just for us. What I'm trying to say is that if you focus on living and loving your life, the material things will be the icing on the cake, rather than the soft spongey centre. See them for what they are and you might find you'll enjoy them more. Like candy, if they're rare treats they won't be so sickly sweet that they'll turn you off wanting them. When you don't get to have something easily or often, you tend to appreciate it even more when the time comes for you to have it. __________________ We're Off To Sydney - Where To Stay? What To Do?

Jun 28th, 2008, 09:06 AM	#13
barcreperie Member Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 637	You know, I've never really understood the notion that things must not be important because "you can't take it with you". You also can't take your friends, spouse, children, etc with you, does that make them unimportant? I go through phases of what I want and value in terms of material things. I've gone through phases of wanting only improvements on my home, jewelry, handbags, clothes, shoes, cosmetics, etc. I drift in and out of these and other near-obsessions. But I've found that the more I can afford, if I give in too often to purchases of a certain type, they give me less of a thrill and become less important. In other words, the novelty wears off with overload. So I've learned to pull back and not indulge myself to excess anymore. For the past 6 months or so I've been on an anti-consumerism kick, fueled in part by Twiggers "Curbing Consumerism" thread, and it feels WONDERFUL!!!! It's not that I don't make any purchases anymore, but each purchase I make is well thought out and because of that I make far fewer purchases than I did a year ago. As a consequence, each purchase means more to me, gives me more of a thrill, and I don't feel as much like a marketing victim as I'd been in the past.

Jun 28th, 2008, 09:58 AM	#14
keodi Sofa King Done.... Joined: Aug 2006 Location: ANON Posts: 5,839	[quote=barcreperie;6900621]You know, I've never really understood the notion that things must not be important because "you can't take it with you". You also can't take your friends, spouse, children, etc with you, does that make them unimportant? I go through phases of what I want and value in terms of material things. I've gone through phases of wanting only improvements on my home, jewelry, handbags, clothes, shoes, cosmetics, etc. I drift in and out of these and other near-obsessions. But I've found that the more I can afford, if I give in too often to purchases of a certain type, they give me less of a thrill and become less important. In other words, the novelty wears off with overload. So I've learned to pull back and not indulge myself to excess anymore. For the past 6 months or so I've been on an anti-consumerism kick, fueled in part by Twiggers "Curbing Consumerism" thread, and it feels WONDERFUL!!!! It's not that I don't make any purchases anymore, but each purchase I make is well thought out and because of that I make far fewer purchases than I did a year ago. As a consequence, each purchase means more to me, gives me more of a thrill, and I don't feel as much like a marketing victim as I'd been in the past.[/quote] well said, this is exactly how I've been feeling lately.. __________________ NOTE TO SELF: SELF, YOU WILL NOT SPEND UNNECESSARILY!!!

Jun 28th, 2008, 11:32 AM	#15
Liz_x3 Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 3,088	I've felt like this on numerous occasions! There's a really good chance that you might start craving material things again since most people do. I know that after a few days (and sometimes even hours LOL) I started wanting things again. But if it all came down to it, I would rather have an amazing life then amazing things. I think maybe something have happened to you that make you question the real meaning of life or something similar.