what did/do your friends do bug you the most?? - let's share

juneping · Jun 27th, 2008, 05:05 PM

i left home and came to this city for school and got a job. most of my friends are married (late 30s) and i found the newer friends i made are mostly younger..in their late 20s or early 30s.

after many years of experience of making friends...i honestly think i feel more at ease w/ ppl my own age. the experience is more similar and mostly my friends from childhood to college they put up w/ me. (i'm bit spoiled in some way). and the younger friends i have...they are nice but certain things just i don't know how to deal w/ them.

this girl i met is pretty mature for her age on most things. but after we became close..she has this little bad habbits. i see her about once a week..and i found she needs to ask me for a single 8 times out of 10 that we see each other. i really dislike this kind of habbit. i tried asking her for the single she borrowed almost everytime she borrowed...she still manages to ask me for singles. i feel extremely uncomfortable to ask her to stop borrow a single from me.......

another girl i met back in grad school..she was in undergrad at the time. we became friends and we both moved to NYC many years ago. she is the type when i asked for help..she'd help. but she hardly gives me a call unless she needs my help. i was looking for a friend not for a charity center or be one...

i have alot stories...so far these two bug me the most at the moment.
do you have similar stories like those??

Schmodi · Jun 27th, 2008, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by juneping

this girl i met is pretty mature for her age on most things. but after we became close..she has this little bad habbits. i see her about once a week..and i found she needs to ask me for a single 8 times out of 10 that we see each other. i really dislike this kind of habbit. i tried asking her for the single she borrowed almost everytime she borrowed...she still manages to ask me for singles. i feel extremely uncomfortable to ask her to stop borrow a single from me.......

another girl i met back in grad school..she was in undergrad at the time. we became friends and we both moved to NYC many years ago. she is the type when i asked for help..she'd help. but she hardly gives me a call unless she needs my help. i was looking for a friend not for a charity center or be one...

Is a single like a music single?

I know what you mean about having people to call that only want to vent. I had a good friend in college that would always talk about herself and it was annoying. Something was always wrong, etc and it was draining. That said-I love her and she's my friend. So I sit there and listen and give her my advice. After all sometimes I get upset and need my friends to listen as well.

juneping · Jun 27th, 2008, 06:14 PM

^^single = $1
...the friend who called was asking me to give her school work critique...and after she got a good feel of it...i never heard of her. she never really needed me emotionally. it's was few years ago. and now she emailed me again b/c she is coming back to ny to look for a job....

lv-lover · Jun 27th, 2008, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by juneping

another girl i met back in grad school..she was in undergrad at the time. we became friends and we both moved to NYC many years ago. she is the type when i asked for help..she'd help. but she hardly gives me a call unless she needs my help. i was looking for a friend not for a charity center or be one...

i have alot stories...so far these two bug me the most at the moment.
do you have similar stories like those??

I hate those types. Barely speaks to you and when they need something they're like "Hey girlfriend!!!!" I also dislike girls who leave they're girlfriends for a guy and come back 5 months later and wonder why no one is talking to them.

I use to have this "friend" who would make fun of people ALL the time, I would try to change the topic but she would never have much to say about other things. She would always be hypocritical, for example she would make fun of someon'es teeth when her teeth aren't very nice etc.

leothelnss · Jun 27th, 2008, 07:32 PM

Hmm lets see.
We'll start with my "best friend" who I haven't spoken to in a couple of months for... Reasons.
1. Didn't move out of her parent's house until she was 20. Doesn't have a driver's license (STILL). Didn't hold a job longer than a month or two. Depended on me for rides, a place to stay sometimes and pretty much everything else. Basically your typical kid trying to leech off the parent's for as long as they can after they turn 18.
2. When we did hang out, she would ask me to buy her things. For example, we're in line at 7-11 and she grabs a bag of chips, rubs her belly, says she's hungry, smiles and then hands them to me. I'm like, "Yeah, sure." Then she says, "Can I get a drink too?" I'm not your mommy, and I'm not a drive-thru. You need to get a job.
It's pretty much the same when we went out to eat, she'd either pay for about half of what SHE ordered or not pay at all, or offer to.
3. This doesn't really have to do with me personally, but when she finally moved out of her parent's house and into a new apartment with her BF, she QUIT her job. Less than a week after she moved in with him. He doesn't make a lot of money, either. I asked her, "How do you expect him to pay for it by himself?" She's like, "I don't know, I just HATE that job!"
I'd been friends with her for a long time, but it was clear that my relationship with her was just as one-sided as every other relationship she had, including her parent's and her boyfriend. She hasn't matured at all since I met her, so I'm distancing myself from her until she gets her sh** together.

Well, that's all I got. Aside from all the drama-creating, gossip-starting old friends of mine who I don't talk to anymore. I really just can't put up with all this crap from people at this point in my life. Until I meet some people who don't enjoy drama and have grown up enough, I guess I'll just go friendless.

SPOILEDkiwi · Jun 27th, 2008, 08:20 PM

My best friend is great, but the one thing that pisses me off is her taste in men. She jumps around from guy to guy, all the same loser type. Then she expects me to sit on the phone for hours listening to her complain about them. She asks me why she can't find a nice guy, meanwhile she's turning down the nice guys for the super jealous, half crazy "bad boys" that are not even hot enough to remotely justify it.

artich0ke · Jun 27th, 2008, 09:35 PM

Hmm:

Friend #1 won't call me unless she needs something (such as a last-minute place to hold her BF's surprise birthday party). She also loves to talk about all the guys she's slept with (10 or 11, I can't remember -- and we're only 20 and she first had sex when we were 16), doesn't listen when I say she should get herself checked or make sure she wears a condom every time, and then complains to me when one of our mutual friends she slept with gave her HPV! As if it was HIS fault and solely his. It takes two to tango!

Friend #2 calls me at 9pm to come hang out (I live 45 minutes away from her and generally have to be at work at 8am) and doesn't understand why I won't. And then on a Saturday if I make the drive out and get there at 7:30 or 8 pm we'll hang out for a while, but she doesn't like going out so I mostly just sit and watch her diddle on her computer, and then at 10 she complains that she's tired and wants to go to bed!

lovinalotofbags · Jun 27th, 2008, 10:16 PM

These are some pretty selfish friends. I have generally flocked to women my age or older. I have a good friend who is 60 but does not look like it and she is a hoot. All others are around my age late 30s, early 40s. We are all young in appearance and spirit.
June: You will find more mature friends, ask and they will come.
Leo: I would have abandoned her long time ago.
Spoiled: I can see how that friend would get on your last nerve. Either something tragic will happen to make her snap out of her bad boy phase or contract an incurable disease.

Purses · Jun 27th, 2008, 10:56 PM

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Originally Posted by juneping

i left home and came to this city for school and got a job. most of my friends are married (late 30s) and i found the newer friends i made are mostly younger..in their late 20s or early 30s.

after many years of experience of making friends...i honestly think i feel more at ease w/ ppl my own age. the experience is more similar and mostly my friends from childhood to college they put up w/ me. (i'm bit spoiled in some way). and the younger friends i have...they are nice but certain things just i don't know how to deal w/ them.

this girl i met is pretty mature for her age on most things. but after we became close..she has this little bad habbits. i see her about once a week..and i found she needs to ask me for a single 8 times out of 10 that we see each other. i really dislike this kind of habbit. i tried asking her for the single she borrowed almost everytime she borrowed...she still manages to ask me for singles. i feel extremely uncomfortable to ask her to stop borrow a single from me.......

another girl i met back in grad school..she was in undergrad at the time. we became friends and we both moved to NYC many years ago. she is the type when i asked for help..she'd help. but she hardly gives me a call unless she needs my help. i was looking for a friend not for a charity center or be one...

i have alot stories...so far these two bug me the most at the moment.
do you have similar stories like those??

I've sort of experience this too quite some time ago. I find that the friend I do make are a lot younger and their habits and maturity is not the same as mine. That can be okay, but I find them dragging me down, socially.

I have this co-worker/friend who always want me to meet her in her area, and she would never come down to my area. Then I moved and I know for a fact she will never come down here in my area.

QueenOfDa702 · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:17 PM

Oh the list could go ON AND ON for me lmao.

Lets start with friend #1:
She is broke. She tries to venture and do things to make money, but she is never serious about it. She makes items, and sells them in a store, but doesnt take inventory, so for all she knows the owner of the store is ripping her off. I try to explain to her how to run a business, but she is a know-it-all and wont take my advice.
She wont get a job. Period. She refuses. It annoys the crap out of me.

Friend #2:
She has a son, who is the cutest kid, he really is pretty cute. She lets you know that he is cute, over, and over and over. "You should see him, hes so cute." "I wish you were here to see him grow up, he is so cute!" Yes, EVERY sentence is something about him being cute. Its to the point where I just want to say "You know hes really not that cute at all." just to piss her off.

Friend #3:
Every time we make plans with a group of friends and invite #3, he always tries to change the time! Like, we had lunch the other day, I called #3 and said "Hey, we are meeting at 12pm for lunch, you want to go?" he says "Ok, no problem, Ill be there at 1pm" ummm, we will be done eating and gone by then, so dont even bother.

I have a couple more, but we wont go there lol

FrancescaAveiro · Jun 27th, 2008, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by SPOILEDkiwi

My best friend is great, but the one thing that pisses me off is her taste in men. She jumps around from guy to guy, all the same loser type. Then she expects me to sit on the phone for hours listening to her complain about them. She asks me why she can't find a nice guy, meanwhile she's turning down the nice guys for the super jealous, half crazy "bad boys" that are not even hot enough to remotely justify it.

OMG.... r u sure we don;t have the same friend lol!!! jk, but seriously i know what u mean, i have a friend just like that.

GirlFriday · Jun 28th, 2008, 01:52 AM

My best friend stole a ring from me my sophomore year of highschool. She just wore it one day right in front of me. I got it back. (long story) Anyway, she had a lot of family problems growing up. After it happened, I didn't speak to her for 6 months. She finally apologized to me after that 6 months. 15 years later we're still best friends. She's grown up so much and turned into this incredible wife and mother. She's a great friend. Sometimes I'll tease her about stealing my stuff and she's like, "I can't believe I did that!" It was so long ago, we just laugh about it now.

One thing I can't stand is when I'm with a friend out in public and they know everyone! They have to stop and talk to 10 people in the store. So what's like a 30 minute trip turns into 2 hours. I don't understand why they have to stop and talk to every person they know for 20 minutes. If I don't know the person, it's really awkward because they start talking about people I don't know and I can't contribute to the conversation at all. I'm like, "can you just walk by someone and say hi and ask how they're doing without stopping to talk for half an hour?"

There's also one friend that I'm starting to not like to hang out with. I'll be hanging out with her and her phone rings off the hook and she answers every call. It's always friends, and she'll talk to them for a long time and it drives me crazy. Put the phone down!

Lululovebags · Jun 28th, 2008, 01:56 AM

i have ex-friends whom i've not met or chatted or catch up for ages (and when i say ages, i mean 5 years and up) that suddenly beeped me for my address so that they can send me their wedding invites. seriously.

i hate these types.

digby723 · Jun 28th, 2008, 02:43 AM

I used to have a best friend who pretty much used me for rides for about a year before she got her liscense. When she finally did, her mom bought her a really beat up junky old car (with over 100k miles on it) and my mom got me a brand new car at the exact same time. She insisted that we take me car all around town b/c "her car won't make it" (It's still around and working 3 years later) and refused to pay for gas when we'd drive over an hour away for concerts. She also got angry with me when I decided last year that I was done going to concerts (after realized my CC was $800 b/c of concerts) and complained and tried to get me to go anyways! and, on top of that, I'd put her ticket on my card until she had the $ to pay me back and sometimes I wouldn't see any $ for months! I finally got sick off all of her BS and haven't talked or seen her in about a year.

I used to know another guy, and date one guy who had no cars and I'm a sucker for people who will hang out with me so, I drove them around eveywhere. I no longer talk to either one of them.

Lastly, I used to be best friends with my sister's ex-boyfriend and I stopped talking to him b/c he would NOT STOP asking about my sister when they broke up, and when they were dating, he wouldn't stop talking his ex-girlfriend.

I swear I attract the crazy people! Hence why I just hang out w/ my b/f now...he's not a user and we have fun together!

jackie100 · Jun 28th, 2008, 06:23 AM

The thing that bothers me the most about my friend is that she is one the phone A LOT when she's with me and constantly texting other people, even when we are eating dinner, exercising together (for some reason she cannot walk and text at the same time so she will stop walking and just text for like 10 min while I'm way ahead). Sometimes she will say she has to go to the bathroom at my house and then go inside and probably look in the mirror (cause she does that all day long) while texting/calling friends.

It's not something I can ask her to stop doing because that's just how she is and I accept her the way she is, it's just annoying. That's all.

And then when she senses I get irritated she will say : "I can tell that you are irritated. I am entitled to have a social life too. If I want to talk to people on the phone while I am exercising I CAN if I want to". And I don't say anything because it's true, she CAN do whatever she wants.

Jun 27th, 2008, 07:32 PM	#5
leothelnss Bad in a good way Location: Burtonsville, MD	Hmm lets see. We'll start with my "best friend" who I haven't spoken to in a couple of months for... Reasons. 1. Didn't move out of her parent's house until she was 20. Doesn't have a driver's license (STILL). Didn't hold a job longer than a month or two. Depended on me for rides, a place to stay sometimes and pretty much everything else. Basically your typical kid trying to leech off the parent's for as long as they can after they turn 18. 2. When we did hang out, she would ask me to buy her things. For example, we're in line at 7-11 and she grabs a bag of chips, rubs her belly, says she's hungry, smiles and then hands them to me. I'm like, "Yeah, sure." Then she says, "Can I get a drink too?" I'm not your mommy, and I'm not a drive-thru. You need to get a job. It's pretty much the same when we went out to eat, she'd either pay for about half of what SHE ordered or not pay at all, or offer to. 3. This doesn't really have to do with me personally, but when she finally moved out of her parent's house and into a new apartment with her BF, she QUIT her job. Less than a week after she moved in with him. He doesn't make a lot of money, either. I asked her, "How do you expect him to pay for it by himself?" She's like, "I don't know, I just HATE that job!" I'd been friends with her for a long time, but it was clear that my relationship with her was just as one-sided as every other relationship she had, including her parent's and her boyfriend. She hasn't matured at all since I met her, so I'm distancing myself from her until she gets her sh** together. Well, that's all I got. Aside from all the drama-creating, gossip-starting old friends of mine who I don't talk to anymore. I really just can't put up with all this crap from people at this point in my life. Until I meet some people who don't enjoy drama and have grown up enough, I guess I'll just go friendless. __________________ myspace.com/leothelnss "It's cool to know nothin'" - Kaiser Chiefs

Jun 27th, 2008, 08:20 PM	#6
SPOILEDkiwi not a kiwi! Location: NYC/Long Island	My best friend is great, but the one thing that pisses me off is her taste in men. She jumps around from guy to guy, all the same loser type. Then she expects me to sit on the phone for hours listening to her complain about them. She asks me why she can't find a nice guy, meanwhile she's turning down the nice guys for the super jealous, half crazy "bad boys" that are not even hot enough to remotely justify it. __________________ “It is the unseen, unforgettable, ultimate accessory of fashion that heralds your arrival and prolongs your departure.” --Coco Chanel

Jun 27th, 2008, 09:35 PM	#7
artich0ke Member Location: down the Cape	Hmm: Friend #1 won't call me unless she needs something (such as a last-minute place to hold her BF's surprise birthday party). She also loves to talk about all the guys she's slept with (10 or 11, I can't remember -- and we're only 20 and she first had sex when we were 16), doesn't listen when I say she should get herself checked or make sure she wears a condom every time, and then complains to me when one of our mutual friends she slept with gave her HPV! As if it was HIS fault and solely his. It takes two to tango! Friend #2 calls me at 9pm to come hang out (I live 45 minutes away from her and generally have to be at work at 8am) and doesn't understand why I won't. And then on a Saturday if I make the drive out and get there at 7:30 or 8 pm we'll hang out for a while, but she doesn't like going out so I mostly just sit and watch her diddle on her computer, and then at 10 she complains that she's tired and wants to go to bed! __________________ artich0ke

Jun 27th, 2008, 10:16 PM	#8
lovinalotofbags In for the long haul Location: South Carolina	These are some pretty selfish friends. I have generally flocked to women my age or older. I have a good friend who is 60 but does not look like it and she is a hoot. All others are around my age late 30s, early 40s. We are all young in appearance and spirit. June: You will find more mature friends, ask and they will come. Leo: I would have abandoned her long time ago. Spoiled: I can see how that friend would get on your last nerve. Either something tragic will happen to make her snap out of her bad boy phase or contract an incurable disease. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Jun 27th, 2008, 11:17 PM	#10
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Oh the list could go ON AND ON for me lmao. Lets start with friend #1: She is broke. She tries to venture and do things to make money, but she is never serious about it. She makes items, and sells them in a store, but doesnt take inventory, so for all she knows the owner of the store is ripping her off. I try to explain to her how to run a business, but she is a know-it-all and wont take my advice. She wont get a job. Period. She refuses. It annoys the crap out of me. Friend #2: She has a son, who is the cutest kid, he really is pretty cute. She lets you know that he is cute, over, and over and over. "You should see him, hes so cute." "I wish you were here to see him grow up, he is so cute!" Yes, EVERY sentence is something about him being cute. Its to the point where I just want to say "You know hes really not that cute at all." just to piss her off. Friend #3: Every time we make plans with a group of friends and invite #3, he always tries to change the time! Like, we had lunch the other day, I called #3 and said "Hey, we are meeting at 12pm for lunch, you want to go?" he says "Ok, no problem, Ill be there at 1pm" ummm, we will be done eating and gone by then, so dont even bother. I have a couple more, but we wont go there lol __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Jun 27th, 2008, 05:05 PM	#1
juneping couch potato-ing Location: NYC	what did/do your friends do bug you the most?? - let's share i left home and came to this city for school and got a job. most of my friends are married (late 30s) and i found the newer friends i made are mostly younger..in their late 20s or early 30s. after many years of experience of making friends...i honestly think i feel more at ease w/ ppl my own age. the experience is more similar and mostly my friends from childhood to college they put up w/ me. (i'm bit spoiled in some way). and the younger friends i have...they are nice but certain things just i don't know how to deal w/ them. this girl i met is pretty mature for her age on most things. but after we became close..she has this little bad habbits. i see her about once a week..and i found she needs to ask me for a single 8 times out of 10 that we see each other. i really dislike this kind of habbit. i tried asking her for the single she borrowed almost everytime she borrowed...she still manages to ask me for singles. i feel extremely uncomfortable to ask her to stop borrow a single from me....... another girl i met back in grad school..she was in undergrad at the time. we became friends and we both moved to NYC many years ago. she is the type when i asked for help..she'd help. but she hardly gives me a call unless she needs my help. i was looking for a friend not for a charity center or be one... i have alot stories...so far these two bug me the most at the moment. do you have similar stories like those?? __________________ wish list: purse ban until the cc is paid off

Jun 27th, 2008, 06:14 PM	#3
juneping couch potato-ing Location: NYC	^^single = $1 ...the friend who called was asking me to give her school work critique...and after she got a good feel of it...i never heard of her. she never really needed me emotionally. it's was few years ago. and now she emailed me again b/c she is coming back to ny to look for a job.... __________________ wish list: purse ban until the cc is paid off

Jun 28th, 2008, 01:52 AM	#12
GirlFriday Member	My best friend stole a ring from me my sophomore year of highschool. She just wore it one day right in front of me. I got it back. (long story) Anyway, she had a lot of family problems growing up. After it happened, I didn't speak to her for 6 months. She finally apologized to me after that 6 months. 15 years later we're still best friends. She's grown up so much and turned into this incredible wife and mother. She's a great friend. Sometimes I'll tease her about stealing my stuff and she's like, "I can't believe I did that!" It was so long ago, we just laugh about it now. One thing I can't stand is when I'm with a friend out in public and they know everyone! They have to stop and talk to 10 people in the store. So what's like a 30 minute trip turns into 2 hours. I don't understand why they have to stop and talk to every person they know for 20 minutes. If I don't know the person, it's really awkward because they start talking about people I don't know and I can't contribute to the conversation at all. I'm like, "can you just walk by someone and say hi and ask how they're doing without stopping to talk for half an hour?" There's also one friend that I'm starting to not like to hang out with. I'll be hanging out with her and her phone rings off the hook and she answers every call. It's always friends, and she'll talk to them for a long time and it drives me crazy. Put the phone down!

Jun 28th, 2008, 01:56 AM	#13
Lululovebags Member Location: Earth	i have ex-friends whom i've not met or chatted or catch up for ages (and when i say ages, i mean 5 years and up) that suddenly beeped me for my address so that they can send me their wedding invites. seriously. i hate these types. __________________ "keep your head up high. there are ppl that would kill to see you fall".

Jun 28th, 2008, 02:43 AM	#14
digby723 Member Location: Northern Virginia	I used to have a best friend who pretty much used me for rides for about a year before she got her liscense. When she finally did, her mom bought her a really beat up junky old car (with over 100k miles on it) and my mom got me a brand new car at the exact same time. She insisted that we take me car all around town b/c "her car won't make it" (It's still around and working 3 years later) and refused to pay for gas when we'd drive over an hour away for concerts. She also got angry with me when I decided last year that I was done going to concerts (after realized my CC was $800 b/c of concerts) and complained and tried to get me to go anyways! and, on top of that, I'd put her ticket on my card until she had the $ to pay me back and sometimes I wouldn't see any $ for months! I finally got sick off all of her BS and haven't talked or seen her in about a year. I used to know another guy, and date one guy who had no cars and I'm a sucker for people who will hang out with me so, I drove them around eveywhere. I no longer talk to either one of them. Lastly, I used to be best friends with my sister's ex-boyfriend and I stopped talking to him b/c he would NOT STOP asking about my sister when they broke up, and when they were dating, he wouldn't stop talking his ex-girlfriend. I swear I attract the crazy people! Hence why I just hang out w/ my b/f now...he's not a user and we have fun together! __________________

Jun 28th, 2008, 06:23 AM	#15
jackie100 Member	The thing that bothers me the most about my friend is that she is one the phone A LOT when she's with me and constantly texting other people, even when we are eating dinner, exercising together (for some reason she cannot walk and text at the same time so she will stop walking and just text for like 10 min while I'm way ahead). Sometimes she will say she has to go to the bathroom at my house and then go inside and probably look in the mirror (cause she does that all day long) while texting/calling friends. It's not something I can ask her to stop doing because that's just how she is and I accept her the way she is, it's just annoying. That's all. And then when she senses I get irritated she will say : "I can tell that you are irritated. I am entitled to have a social life too. If I want to talk to people on the phone while I am exercising I CAN if I want to". And I don't say anything because it's true, she CAN do whatever she wants.