walked in on bf cheating, can't stop crying

keya · Oct 4th, 2008, 04:32 PM

I wouldn't worry about eBay now if I were you. Explain to the sellers that you can't pay, they'll get over it. I'm sorry this happened to you, I hope you've kicked him out of the apartment (even if he's paying rent, he should get lost until you find another place to live)

amber11 · Oct 4th, 2008, 04:53 PM

im so sorry what an awful situation... i don't have any advice for you on the eBay stuff but just take care of yourself and worry about yourself for a while

LTV · Oct 4th, 2008, 05:53 PM

This is devastating and Im so sorry you had to go thru this. You are doing the right thing. If I was in your shoe, I would not even waste another breath on him. Bince you guys live together, I would take care of business first, the apartment, and whatever attachment you have with him, leave and never look back. You deserve someone so much better. Sacrifice a little bit on the LV's and Juicy's for now and take care of yourself. We're all here for you. *hugs*

moi et mes sacs · Oct 4th, 2008, 06:40 PM

I am so sorry this happened to you. Please stop worrying about eBay, just message the sellers and say you are having a crisis. They might be able to sell to the second bidder.
As for him, trust me, there are better guys than him out there. I hope your heart feels better soon.

nooch · Oct 4th, 2008, 07:31 PM

That is horrible :(

Also, everyone who says you should move out is totally wrong - YOUR relative is the landlord - kick his sorry ass out.

sinny1 · Oct 4th, 2008, 07:46 PM

Ugh- what an a$$! You cant be around a man everyday all the time spoling him with attention, we all have other duties to do. Thats no reason to cheat or do those sick things. I completely get you with the eBay stuff, im the same way. But at this moment, just choose what you needed the most and explain situation to the sellers, some of them can be very understanding ive had a couple, you would be surprised. I think your main thought should be to make YOURSELF feel better. You dont need that garbage of a man, you stay positive and i promise your going to be just fine. The way i see it is, he led you to eventually find your real soulmate. Keep your head up!

daphodill84 · Oct 4th, 2008, 10:04 PM

*hugs* I'm so sorry this happened!! I hope you kicked HIM out instead of the other way around. I agree that you definitely should not be the one who has to leave.He did the wrong, he can take care of himself.

A note on the bright side: at least the october rent has been paid for!

Nymph · Oct 4th, 2008, 11:56 PM

I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can hardly imagine the hurt you're experiencing now.

I hope you will manage to sort out your living arrangements (I am for kicking his sorry ass outta your uncle's apartment, whether he paid rent or not), and that you will get your eBay deals worked out.

sweetdreamer16 · Oct 5th, 2008, 02:06 AM

sooo sooo sorry!! =(

sweet_pees · Oct 5th, 2008, 12:31 PM

RB, a guy like that is not worth it to lose tears over. Just think, what else he had done behind your back and what he is capable of in the future! Especially with that lame excuse he gave about why he did it. Tell him to move out of the apt and foret about that loser. As for the eBay purchases, most sellers are angry when you write them and tell them you wont be following through with the transaction, but if you offer to pay for the transaction fee, they will find that you sincere and accept your offer. Like others have said, whether the seller is going to understand or not, they are not allowed to leave you - feedback anyway. I dont find it necessary for you to explain what you are going through as most of them might not believe it anyway.

i hope you'll be able to realize what a jerk he was and we'll see you back in the juicy thread in short time =)

bibliophile · Oct 5th, 2008, 01:56 PM

Ugh I'm so sorry, that MUST have been really traumatic.

But just from reading the thread title (and confirmed by your post): Leave the bastard!

And I agree with keya, just explain the situation to the eBay sellers, it's obviously not an ideal situation, and they'll understandably not be pleased, and probably not pleasant about it. But it can't be helped I guess. What you probably should do, like most people have said, is to pay the transaction fee.... Anyhow, just concentrate to sort out the more pressing issues first.

To start with, kick his hiney out of your relative's apartment!

Kiss Me Deadly · Oct 5th, 2008, 02:52 PM

Im so sorry that you had to see that!!!!

Try to let the eBay seller know that youre in tough time and something came up and offer to pay the listing fees... they will understand

As far as your boyfriend, kick his ass to the curb and never have anything to do with him again..

bagnshoofetish · Oct 5th, 2008, 03:11 PM

If I put myself in your shoes, I gotta say if the E-Bay account is in his name and its on his credit card, he can eat it as far as I'm concerned. But that would be my anger lashing out at his sorry butt. Revenge is not my style at all but in all honesty that is probably what I would end up doing. Its hard to come in here and try to tell you to be the "bigger person" and pay for your stuff when he is clearly quite the jerk. Who knows how long he has been doing this to you? Perhaps that is why he has been buying you stuff all along - to ease his guilty conscience?

Selena · Oct 5th, 2008, 04:29 PM

I am soooo sorry!! But this is a good thing. It would have been a heck of alot worse if you were married with children. Be glad that pig showed his true self to you while your young and have options. As far as eBay goes, I would buy anything. Just deal with the negatives and move on. Your life is going to change alot, and that is not a bad thing. Best of luck to you and chin up!

simmmchen · Oct 5th, 2008, 04:35 PM

I'm so sorry this is happening to you

I cannot believe the nerve of this guy! To blame it on you basically, because you weren't there 24/7 to cater to his needs???

I agree he should move out yesterday! Maybe you can talk to your uncle and pay a little less for the apartment for a couple of months until you figure something out? I hope you find a solution for the eBay troubles as well... Good luck!! And BIG

Oct 4th, 2008, 04:32 PM	#31
keya Member	I wouldn't worry about eBay now if I were you. Explain to the sellers that you can't pay, they'll get over it. I'm sorry this happened to you, I hope you've kicked him out of the apartment (even if he's paying rent, he should get lost until you find another place to live) __________________ No more shoes for me this year. Checking in to CCLO as of right now

Oct 4th, 2008, 06:40 PM	#34
moi et mes sacs Science Geek!	I am so sorry this happened to you. Please stop worrying about eBay, just message the sellers and say you are having a crisis. They might be able to sell to the second bidder. As for him, trust me, there are better guys than him out there. I hope your heart feels better soon. __________________ If you never change your mind, why have one? Edward de Bono

Oct 4th, 2008, 07:31 PM	#35
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Oct 4th, 2008, 07:46 PM	#36
sinny1 Rockin Chic Location: Chicago the ILL City :)	Ugh- what an a$$! You cant be around a man everyday all the time spoling him with attention, we all have other duties to do. Thats no reason to cheat or do those sick things. I completely get you with the eBay stuff, im the same way. But at this moment, just choose what you needed the most and explain situation to the sellers, some of them can be very understanding ive had a couple, you would be surprised. I think your main thought should be to make YOURSELF feel better. You dont need that garbage of a man, you stay positive and i promise your going to be just fine. The way i see it is, he led you to eventually find your real soulmate. Keep your head up! __________________ "The best things in life are free, the second best are expensive." Coco Chanel Wishlist:* Chanel Vintage Lambskin Jumbo Chanel baby cabas Balenciaga Part time GH Accessories; two-tone flats pearl necklace a nice rtw piece

Oct 4th, 2008, 10:04 PM	#37
daphodill84 Member	hugs I'm so sorry this happened!! I hope you kicked HIM out instead of the other way around. I agree that you definitely should not be the one who has to leave.He did the wrong, he can take care of himself. A note on the bright side: at least the october rent has been paid for! __________________ Wishlist: Grenat, Ink, Sapphire/Violet, Bubblegum, Sahara, Rouge Theatre, '05 White, Amethyst, Electric Blue, Turquoise. RM Rosegold/Whitewash Matinee, Violet Matinee, Tangerine Plan B Hobo, BBW MAM, Rosegold MAM, Ocean Steady, Black Elisha, Getaway Satchel. MAM in every colour! My Collection (Work in Progress): http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-...ng-270617.html

Oct 4th, 2008, 04:53 PM	#32
amber11 Member	im so sorry what an awful situation... i don't have any advice for you on the eBay stuff but just take care of yourself and worry about yourself for a while

Oct 4th, 2008, 05:53 PM	#33
LTV Member Location: Pacific NW	This is devastating and Im so sorry you had to go thru this. You are doing the right thing. If I was in your shoe, I would not even waste another breath on him. Bince you guys live together, I would take care of business first, the apartment, and whatever attachment you have with him, leave and never look back. You deserve someone so much better. Sacrifice a little bit on the LV's and Juicy's for now and take care of yourself. We're all here for you. hugs

Oct 4th, 2008, 11:56 PM	#38
Nymph Black WE please! Location: Singapore	I am so sorry that this happened to you. I can hardly imagine the hurt you're experiencing now. I hope you will manage to sort out your living arrangements (I am for kicking his sorry ass outta your uncle's apartment, whether he paid rent or not), and that you will get your eBay deals worked out. __________________ "If women didn't exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning"

Oct 5th, 2008, 02:06 AM	#39
sweetdreamer16 Member Location: Vancouver	sooo sooo sorry!! =( __________________ Visit my blog, for featured amazing giveaways!! Updated daily!! http://thegiveawaydiva.blogspot.com/

Oct 5th, 2008, 12:31 PM	#40
sweet_pees Purse Junkie Location: NY	RB, a guy like that is not worth it to lose tears over. Just think, what else he had done behind your back and what he is capable of in the future! Especially with that lame excuse he gave about why he did it. Tell him to move out of the apt and foret about that loser. As for the eBay purchases, most sellers are angry when you write them and tell them you wont be following through with the transaction, but if you offer to pay for the transaction fee, they will find that you sincere and accept your offer. Like others have said, whether the seller is going to understand or not, they are not allowed to leave you - feedback anyway. I dont find it necessary for you to explain what you are going through as most of them might not believe it anyway. i hope you'll be able to realize what a jerk he was and we'll see you back in the juicy thread in short time =) __________________ my Loves: http://forum.purseblog.com/your-bag-showcase/sweet_pees-loves-333-a-322002.html#post7023336

Oct 5th, 2008, 01:56 PM	#41
bibliophile Newly obsessed	Ugh I'm so sorry, that MUST have been really traumatic. But just from reading the thread title (and confirmed by your post): Leave the bastard! And I agree with keya, just explain the situation to the eBay sellers, it's obviously not an ideal situation, and they'll understandably not be pleased, and probably not pleasant about it. But it can't be helped I guess. What you probably should do, like most people have said, is to pay the transaction fee.... Anyhow, just concentrate to sort out the more pressing issues first. To start with, kick his hiney out of your relative's apartment!

Oct 5th, 2008, 02:52 PM	#42
Kiss Me Deadly Woosaaa Location: New York!!	Im so sorry that you had to see that!!!! Try to let the eBay seller know that youre in tough time and something came up and offer to pay the listing fees... they will understand As far as your boyfriend, kick his ass to the curb and never have anything to do with him again.. __________________

Oct 5th, 2008, 03:11 PM	#43
bagnshoofetish We Love Our Billy	If I put myself in your shoes, I gotta say if the E-Bay account is in his name and its on his credit card, he can eat it as far as I'm concerned. But that would be my anger lashing out at his sorry butt. Revenge is not my style at all but in all honesty that is probably what I would end up doing. Its hard to come in here and try to tell you to be the "bigger person" and pay for your stuff when he is clearly quite the jerk. Who knows how long he has been doing this to you? Perhaps that is why he has been buying you stuff all along - to ease his guilty conscience? __________________ Please help us: http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...nt-392607.html

Oct 5th, 2008, 04:29 PM	#44
Selena	I am soooo sorry!! But this is a good thing. It would have been a heck of alot worse if you were married with children. Be glad that pig showed his true self to you while your young and have options. As far as eBay goes, I would buy anything. Just deal with the negatives and move on. Your life is going to change alot, and that is not a bad thing. Best of luck to you and chin up! __________________

Oct 5th, 2008, 04:35 PM	#45
simmmchen Member Location: Germany	I'm so sorry this is happening to you I cannot believe the nerve of this guy! To blame it on you basically, because you weren't there 24/7 to cater to his needs??? I agree he should move out yesterday! Maybe you can talk to your uncle and pay a little less for the apartment for a couple of months until you figure something out? I hope you find a solution for the eBay troubles as well... Good luck!! And BIG __________________