walked in on bf cheating, can't stop crying

PrettyInPink · Oct 4th, 2008, 03:01 AM

Omg I am SO sorry this happened to you! Men are SUCH jerks sometimes.

I really have no advice on he eBay situation... I just want to offer my condolences.

Zophie · Oct 4th, 2008, 03:08 AM

How awful! I guess it's better to find out than not know, but it still will hurt nonetheless. What a jerk.

RaquelleBelle · Oct 4th, 2008, 03:13 AM

Thank you everyone for your kind words.

I knew tpf might be a good place to vent.

April_Skye · Oct 4th, 2008, 08:29 AM

Im am SO massively sorry you had to witness that
you have no idea. I cannot imagine your pain and i am sending you my love.

but, one day, you will think "At least I found out, straight up." Theres no if's or but's. What you saw was real. And just be glad that no excuse he can muster will ever deem him as innocent.
Dont waste another second on that slimebag!

Cristina · Oct 4th, 2008, 09:16 AM

RB, I am so sorry that you are going through this. The best thing you can do right now is take care of yourself. Have you moved out of the place you two shared? If not, that should be your first priority, is to move out. Surround yourself with family and friends, your support system.

You said you feel alone now that he's gone - it is better to be alone, than with someone who mistreats you. You may not see that right now, but give it some time. Cry your heart out, go to a kickboxing class and beat the crap out of a punching bag, blast Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats" and sing your heart out - whatever makes you feel better. Then compose yourself, realize that you're better off without him, and begin to heal and move on. You can do this

April_Skye · Oct 4th, 2008, 09:33 AM

brilliant post! ^^^
Cristina knows how its done!

My mother said something good to me about these situations; "The tide has arrived. You can either sink or swim."

wordbox · Oct 4th, 2008, 09:51 AM

Oh, my heart just aches for you, I'm so sorry this is happening. But be GLAD and THANKFUL that you did find out, especially before you got married or spent any more time on the relationship. Now you can focus on taking care of yourself. Hang in there! You know we're here if you need to talk.

EmmaLee83 · Oct 4th, 2008, 10:09 AM

Ugh, how awful, you poor thing. Not only to know he cheated but then have to witness something so graphic with your eyes.

Don't worry about the eBay stuff. Yeah, they might be pissed but life will go on and someone else will buy their things.

candypants1100 · Oct 4th, 2008, 10:17 AM

i'm really sorry, hun. hugs to you!

as far as the eBay thing, i would try to contact the sellers and let them know what happened....

lolitakali · Oct 4th, 2008, 11:27 AM

Well,

Only if he wants your forgiveness.... which I think he may want to work it out since its your uncle's condo... that is if he still need a place to stay till he decide what to do...

tell him to purchase those e-bay bids... after you get those items, dump him!

That way you get to be off the hook with those purchase & shove the door in his face!

abbygirl · Oct 4th, 2008, 12:27 PM

This is where the bitch in me would come out.....or the payback.

Since he buys you those things on eBay, you have to have access to the account. I would go ahead and purchase them using that said account and send him a nice thank you note......

I'm just sayin.

Deelove82 · Oct 4th, 2008, 12:29 PM

Something similar happened to me a couple of years ago. I still remember it very clearly. So I just know how you feel. You will feel better eventually, but it will take time.

candace117 · Oct 4th, 2008, 03:34 PM

abbygirl

Oh honey I am so upset for you. My heart just dropped into my stomach reading this. You're such a nice gal to think about your obligations while your heart is breaking. I hope that you can find a healthy balance, and realize that what he did was no accident, and it WASN'T YOUR FAULT LIKE HE INSINUATED. What an ass. What did he expect, that you'd finish college and not ever work, and be around to take care of him forever???? Why even go to college then? Not very smart of him to think that. It was good of you to get a job, especially now, because you're going to need it.

I hope that you can move on to a better place

mimi14 · Oct 4th, 2008, 04:22 PM

Wow, that's such an awful thing to have happen. But like all the girls have said it's better to know now and to move on than be hurt later down the line once you had taken your relationship even further. Still it's an awful situation to be in. *Hugs*

Magdeline · Oct 4th, 2008, 04:32 PM

Pretend to get back together with him, get his PP/CC info, and buy your stuff! You deserve it (and he deserves to pay for it). What an a**hole... I'm sorry you had to see that.

Oct 4th, 2008, 03:08 AM	#17
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Location: New Orleans, LA	How awful! I guess it's better to find out than not know, but it still will hurt nonetheless. What a jerk. __________________

Oct 4th, 2008, 03:13 AM	#18
RaquelleBelle "The Purse Fiend" Location: Northeast Ohio	Thank you everyone for your kind words. I knew tpf might be a good place to vent. __________________ lovin' my.. RM Black/Blue Stamp MAM & Charcoal Lex! droolin' over.. RM Royal BW MA, White/Black Quilted Combo MA, Flat-Iron Gray MAC RM Mint Nikki, Black Studded Devote LV Heart Coin Purse, Inclusion in Praline or Gray LQ in Mercury or Charcoal, Cobalt or Maritime

Oct 4th, 2008, 08:29 AM	#19
April_Skye we CAN have it all Location: over there..... and down a bit	Im am SO massively sorry you had to witness that you have no idea. I cannot imagine your pain and i am sending you my love. but, one day, you will think "At least I found out, straight up." Theres no if's or but's. What you saw was real. And just be glad that no excuse he can muster will ever deem him as innocent. Dont waste another second on that slimebag! __________________ Live Now. Kill The Boredom

Oct 4th, 2008, 09:16 AM	#20
Cristina Location: South Florida	RB, I am so sorry that you are going through this. The best thing you can do right now is take care of yourself. Have you moved out of the place you two shared? If not, that should be your first priority, is to move out. Surround yourself with family and friends, your support system. You said you feel alone now that he's gone - it is better to be alone, than with someone who mistreats you. You may not see that right now, but give it some time. Cry your heart out, go to a kickboxing class and beat the crap out of a punching bag, blast Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats" and sing your heart out - whatever makes you feel better. Then compose yourself, realize that you're better off without him, and begin to heal and move on. You can do this __________________ and it's called i'll be getting by and i'll make ends meet does the forty hour week have you bent at the knees? and you can't even see that everything's kept just out of reach my american dream is to have it a little bit better than my parents ever had it - less than jake

Oct 4th, 2008, 09:33 AM	#21
April_Skye we CAN have it all Location: over there..... and down a bit	brilliant post! ^^^ Cristina knows how its done! My mother said something good to me about these situations; "The tide has arrived. You can either sink or swim." __________________ Live Now. Kill The Boredom

Oct 4th, 2008, 03:01 AM	#16
PrettyInPink Member Location: Michigan	Omg I am SO sorry this happened to you! Men are SUCH jerks sometimes. I really have no advice on he eBay situation... I just want to offer my condolences.

Oct 4th, 2008, 09:51 AM	#22
wordbox spay, neuter, adopt! Location: The North Pole	Oh, my heart just aches for you, I'm so sorry this is happening. But be GLAD and THANKFUL that you did find out, especially before you got married or spent any more time on the relationship. Now you can focus on taking care of yourself. Hang in there! You know we're here if you need to talk. __________________

Oct 4th, 2008, 10:09 AM	#23
EmmaLee83 Member	Ugh, how awful, you poor thing. Not only to know he cheated but then have to witness something so graphic with your eyes. Don't worry about the eBay stuff. Yeah, they might be pissed but life will go on and someone else will buy their things.

Oct 4th, 2008, 10:17 AM	#24
candypants1100 Member Location: candyland	i'm really sorry, hun. hugs to you! as far as the eBay thing, i would try to contact the sellers and let them know what happened....

Oct 4th, 2008, 11:27 AM	#25
lolitakali Mira Location: Maryland	Well, Only if he wants your forgiveness.... which I think he may want to work it out since its your uncle's condo... that is if he still need a place to stay till he decide what to do... tell him to purchase those e-bay bids... after you get those items, dump him! That way you get to be off the hook with those purchase & shove the door in his face! __________________ *Best way to diet is to eat what you hate, not eat what you love.* *$$$$$ / GOLD = "my precious".* -ME to be a dragon hoarding gold-

Oct 4th, 2008, 12:27 PM	#26
abbygirl Member	This is where the bitch in me would come out.....or the payback. Since he buys you those things on eBay, you have to have access to the account. I would go ahead and purchase them using that said account and send him a nice thank you note...... I'm just sayin. __________________ I love my tpf friends

Oct 4th, 2008, 12:29 PM	#27
Deelove82 Member	Something similar happened to me a couple of years ago. I still remember it very clearly. So I just know how you feel. You will feel better eventually, but it will take time. __________________ My Hermès grails: Cave Felem and Les Triples

Oct 4th, 2008, 03:34 PM	#28
candace117 Pirate Trash Location: Hardcorvallis	abbygirl Oh honey I am so upset for you. My heart just dropped into my stomach reading this. You're such a nice gal to think about your obligations while your heart is breaking. I hope that you can find a healthy balance, and realize that what he did was no accident, and it WASN'T YOUR FAULT LIKE HE INSINUATED. What an ass. What did he expect, that you'd finish college and not ever work, and be around to take care of him forever???? Why even go to college then? Not very smart of him to think that. It was good of you to get a job, especially now, because you're going to need it. I hope that you can move on to a better place __________________ "With so much drama in the L-B-C, it's kinda hard bein Snoop D-O-double G."

Oct 4th, 2008, 04:22 PM	#29
mimi14 Member	Wow, that's such an awful thing to have happen. But like all the girls have said it's better to know now and to move on than be hurt later down the line once you had taken your relationship even further. Still it's an awful situation to be in. Hugs

Oct 4th, 2008, 04:32 PM	#30
Magdeline Member Location: Chicago, IL	Pretend to get back together with him, get his PP/CC info, and buy your stuff! You deserve it (and he deserves to pay for it). What an a**hole... I'm sorry you had to see that.