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jillybean307 · Nov 15th, 2007, 06:53 PM

I am so annoyed right now! As a bunch of you know, my jerk of an ex (who I was with for 7 years) cheated on me in September. He never admitted to cheating on me, even when I found the emails, and on his way out the door he jumped on and broke my $300 Oliver People's sunglasses. We broke up and I haven't talked to him since. Obviously I was completely devastated by it, and it's been taking me a while to get over the whole ordeal.

Jerkface has made his parents handle the breakup. They drove down to VA to pick up his stuff from our place. They're paying his half of the rent since his name is on the lease. Mommy has handle all of this. Have I mentioned he's going to be 32 next month?

Things have been slowly getting better for me. I've had a ton of friends come to visit, I've gone out with two guys, and Jill and I are headed to NYC next week for a girls' weekend.

And then today...

I get a phone call from his mom. Jerkface still has stuff at my place that he would like back like 4 DVDs, a plastic skull, a printer-all kinds of BS!

Seriously, WTF? Why does his mommy have to get involved?!? Does anyone else on this forum have their mommy handle their break ups for them? Right now, more than anything else, I'm embarrassed that I ever dated someone so pathetic?

So now I feel like I felt two months ago. It's so unfair that he's the one that did all that horrible stuff, and I'm the one that has to deal with the emotional aftermath. I felt like I was finally doing well and happy, and now I just want to sit on the couch and cry. I just want to be left alone, why keep contacting me, especially a month after they originally came for his stuff???

dallas · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:03 PM

Think of how happy he would be, knowing he could upset you. I've said it before, the best revenge is to live a good life. Don't let them get you down. And tell mommie dearest that when she picks up the rest of his cr@p, she can drop off the $300 he owes you for the sunglasses. Take care.

Mustlovedogs · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:06 PM

He is obviously even more pathetic than you think!! Pick up every stupid item that you have left....lint balls, condom wrappers, toe jam, what the F*#% ever and put it in a box, mail it back to him and call HIM to say there is NO REASON for him to ever contact you again! Get a new roommate to take over his half of the rent, move out or pay it yourself. If his mother insists on paying it tell her to send it to the property management company as you would rather not be involved.
Then CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER!!! Best of all, learn a huge lesson about choices, try to find the positive in the situation, be thankful for what you've learned and take up a collection for new glasses!!

Speedy · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:12 PM

^^^ITA.

Obviously, he gets his Mommy to do his bidding... sounds like a total immature jerk to me. If my son ever asked me to pick up his stuff from his former GF's, I'd tell him it's HIS responsibility.

And send him a bill for the sunglasses.

oo_let_me_see · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:14 PM

That stinks jill. Is she decent to you when u deal woth her? Id be mad if she treats u like u were the one who cheated. If it continues I'd definitely put her in check. Hang in there girl, the best yet to come for u.

HubbaWubba · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:16 PM

I agree. Pack up his stuff and send it back to him or better yet his mother because she wants to be involved so much.

Cristina · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:17 PM

Wow. What an immature, pathetic loser. A 32-year-old man - no, wait, let me correct myself - boy, has his parents handle the ending of your relationship and the uncomfortable, but necessary, things that need to be done during the process. Be glad you got out of that hot mess!

Tell mommy dearest that you will be putting his personal items in a box and leaving them either at the front desk of your apartment complex leasing office, or outside your apartment door. Don't spend a dime mailing anything to him, and don't be around when his mother comes to pick up his things. And like dallas said, let her know that he can make a check for $300 to you for your OP sunglasses. What an asshat. I love that word.

ETA - Change your phone number ASAP. Best thing I ever did for myself after a breakup with an ex.

wordpast · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:20 PM

He sounds like a total loser jilly, glad you got rid of him. Just give him his S*it and be done with it. Also, tell his mom that this is the last of his stuff, so now there is no reason for him to contact you via a third party again.

Label Addict · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:25 PM

So sorry Jill that's just not right perhaps it's an unconcious way of keeping you down although he's not man enough to do it himself, I know it's hard but search your apartment high and low gather everything you can of his anything at all and post it out don't let them pick it up if they do there will be small talk and it's nothing you want or need to hear

good luck!

Vegas Long Legs · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:32 PM

"The nut doesn't fall far from the tree." What is going to happen to this poor sap when his mommy dies? I keep thinking of the movie "psycho."
Sounds like you are doing great! This too shall pass.

jillybean307 · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:41 PM

Thanks all.

I actually sold his Wii to pay for my sunglasses. It didn't cover the costs completely, but it was enough for me to buy a new pair.

I just cannot believe that either of them finds it normal for someone's mommy to contact the ex. So weird!

Fishfood · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:42 PM

I was about to fire off a post but then I realized that Mom is paying his half of rent. While he is responsible for it, it can get ugly getting it. So if this part is handled gracefully, then at least there is that.

Fill that list. Put it in a box. and pen a letter to his mother, sweet and empathetic. Thank her for all that she has done for you over the years, and that you would like to have room and space to heal. Mention that if you find any additional objects of his, you'll send them along but now you need to take time for you.

BTW, you will move on no matter how they act or behave. This is you time. Get this off your plate and worry about it - or him - no more.

Sanguar · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:49 PM

Originally Posted by jillybean307

Thanks all.

I actually sold his Wii to pay for my sunglasses. It didn't cover the costs completely, but it was enough for me to buy a new pair.

I just cannot believe that either of them finds it normal for someone's mommy to contact the ex. So weird!

I love that you sold his Wii

I can't believe a 32 year old sends his mother to do his dirty work AND that she's willing to. WTF?

Speedy · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:53 PM

You sold his Wii? GOOD FOR YOU!

And yes, there is definetly wrong with a man who has to have his Mommy take care of his problems. Seems to me this is probably a good thing you broke up, he's too much of a mommy's boy to handle an adult relationship.

guccimamma · Nov 15th, 2007, 07:56 PM

good riddance of him and his pain in the butt mother. that is one dynamic that you don't want to be a part of.

consider yourself lucky. put his pathetic scraps in a box and mail them to mommy.

perhaps you should put a pacifier and some adult diapers in the box. just for a chuckle.

Nov 15th, 2007, 06:53 PM	#1
jillybean307 OP Wanderlust Joined: Mar 2006 Location: Charlottesville, VA Posts: 3,543	Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! I am so annoyed right now! As a bunch of you know, my jerk of an ex (who I was with for 7 years) cheated on me in September. He never admitted to cheating on me, even when I found the emails, and on his way out the door he jumped on and broke my $300 Oliver People's sunglasses. We broke up and I haven't talked to him since. Obviously I was completely devastated by it, and it's been taking me a while to get over the whole ordeal. Jerkface has made his parents handle the breakup. They drove down to VA to pick up his stuff from our place. They're paying his half of the rent since his name is on the lease. Mommy has handle all of this. Have I mentioned he's going to be 32 next month? Things have been slowly getting better for me. I've had a ton of friends come to visit, I've gone out with two guys, and Jill and I are headed to NYC next week for a girls' weekend. And then today... I get a phone call from his mom. Jerkface still has stuff at my place that he would like back like 4 DVDs, a plastic skull, a printer-all kinds of BS! Seriously, WTF? Why does his mommy have to get involved?!? Does anyone else on this forum have their mommy handle their break ups for them? Right now, more than anything else, I'm embarrassed that I ever dated someone so pathetic? So now I feel like I felt two months ago. It's so unfair that he's the one that did all that horrible stuff, and I'm the one that has to deal with the emotional aftermath. I felt like I was finally doing well and happy, and now I just want to sit on the couch and cry. I just want to be left alone, why keep contacting me, especially a month after they originally came for his stuff???
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:03 PM	#2
dallas Yeah ano Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 4,272	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! Think of how happy he would be, knowing he could upset you. I've said it before, the best revenge is to live a good life. Don't let them get you down. And tell mommie dearest that when she picks up the rest of his cr@p, she can drop off the $300 he owes you for the sunglasses. Take care.
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:06 PM	#3
Mustlovedogs The Cut N Curl Girl Joined: Apr 2007 Location: Lost Wages......babeeey! Posts: 447	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! He is obviously even more pathetic than you think!! Pick up every stupid item that you have left....lint balls, condom wrappers, toe jam, what the F*#% ever and put it in a box, mail it back to him and call HIM to say there is NO REASON for him to ever contact you again! Get a new roommate to take over his half of the rent, move out or pay it yourself. If his mother insists on paying it tell her to send it to the property management company as you would rather not be involved. Then CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER!!! Best of all, learn a huge lesson about choices, try to find the positive in the situation, be thankful for what you've learned and take up a collection for new glasses!!

Nov 15th, 2007, 07:12 PM	#4
Speedy Sofa King Banned Joined: Nov 2007 Location: N. California Posts: 3,750	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! ^^^ITA. Obviously, he gets his Mommy to do his bidding... sounds like a total immature jerk to me. If my son ever asked me to pick up his stuff from his former GF's, I'd tell him it's HIS responsibility. And send him a bill for the sunglasses.

Nov 15th, 2007, 07:14 PM	#5
oo_let_me_see 100% Puerto Greekan Joined: Dec 2006 Location: lou lou land Posts: 6,722	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! That stinks jill. Is she decent to you when u deal woth her? Id be mad if she treats u like u were the one who cheated. If it continues I'd definitely put her in check. Hang in there girl, the best yet to come for u.

Nov 15th, 2007, 07:16 PM	#6
HubbaWubba Sofa King Banned Joined: Mar 2007 Posts: 5,031	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! I agree. Pack up his stuff and send it back to him or better yet his mother because she wants to be involved so much.

Nov 15th, 2007, 07:17 PM	#7
Cristina Joined: Oct 2005 Location: South Florida Posts: 13,054	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! Wow. What an immature, pathetic loser. A 32-year-old man - no, wait, let me correct myself - boy, has his parents handle the ending of your relationship and the uncomfortable, but necessary, things that need to be done during the process. Be glad you got out of that hot mess! Tell mommy dearest that you will be putting his personal items in a box and leaving them either at the front desk of your apartment complex leasing office, or outside your apartment door. Don't spend a dime mailing anything to him, and don't be around when his mother comes to pick up his things. And like dallas said, let her know that he can make a check for $300 to you for your OP sunglasses. What an asshat. I love that word. ETA - Change your phone number ASAP. Best thing I ever did for myself after a breakup with an ex.
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:20 PM	#8
wordpast Member Joined: Oct 2006 Location: Never Never Land Posts: 6,271	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! He sounds like a total loser jilly, glad you got rid of him. Just give him his S*it and be done with it. Also, tell his mom that this is the last of his stuff, so now there is no reason for him to contact you via a third party again.
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:25 PM	#9
Label Addict Member Joined: Jun 2006 Location: Elsewhere Posts: 12,509	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! So sorry Jill that's just not right perhaps it's an unconcious way of keeping you down although he's not man enough to do it himself, I know it's hard but search your apartment high and low gather everything you can of his anything at all and post it out don't let them pick it up if they do there will be small talk and it's nothing you want or need to hear good luck!
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:32 PM	#10
Vegas Long Legs In an Italian Villa Joined: Nov 2006 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 6,093	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! "The nut doesn't fall far from the tree." What is going to happen to this poor sap when his mommy dies? I keep thinking of the movie "psycho." Sounds like you are doing great! This too shall pass.
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:41 PM	#11
jillybean307 OP Wanderlust Joined: Mar 2006 Location: Charlottesville, VA Posts: 3,543	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! Thanks all. I actually sold his Wii to pay for my sunglasses. It didn't cover the costs completely, but it was enough for me to buy a new pair. I just cannot believe that either of them finds it normal for someone's mommy to contact the ex. So weird!
	__________________ You say "handbag addiction" like it's a bad thing. "The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it." -Albert Einstein http://www.savedarfur.org

Nov 15th, 2007, 07:42 PM	#12
Fishfood STILL Abby Fabby! Joined: Oct 2006 Posts: 2,870	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! I was about to fire off a post but then I realized that Mom is paying his half of rent. While he is responsible for it, it can get ugly getting it. So if this part is handled gracefully, then at least there is that. Fill that list. Put it in a box. and pen a letter to his mother, sweet and empathetic. Thank her for all that she has done for you over the years, and that you would like to have room and space to heal. Mention that if you find any additional objects of his, you'll send them along but now you need to take time for you. BTW, you will move on no matter how they act or behave. This is you time. Get this off your plate and worry about it - or him - no more.
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Nov 15th, 2007, 07:53 PM	#14
Speedy Sofa King Banned Joined: Nov 2007 Location: N. California Posts: 3,750	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! You sold his Wii? GOOD FOR YOU! And yes, there is definetly wrong with a man who has to have his Mommy take care of his problems. Seems to me this is probably a good thing you broke up, he's too much of a mommy's boy to handle an adult relationship.

Nov 15th, 2007, 07:56 PM	#15
guccimamma guccimamma Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Wooo Hooo! Posts: 4,228	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! good riddance of him and his pain in the butt mother. that is one dynamic that you don't want to be a part of. consider yourself lucky. put his pathetic scraps in a box and mail them to mommy. perhaps you should put a pacifier and some adult diapers in the box. just for a chuckle.

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