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Roo · Nov 17th, 2007, 01:42 PM

Be soooo glad you got out of this. Imagine: someday that woman will be someone's mother in law. Just be glad she won't be YOURS.

RowanOak · Nov 17th, 2007, 02:49 PM

^^Speaking of MIL, in relation to your ex, is he still saying he wants to marry his old ex? Or was that just something he was saying and not meaning?

jillybean307 · Nov 17th, 2007, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by Roo

Be soooo glad you got out of this. Imagine: someday that woman will be someone's mother in law. Just be glad she won't be YOURS.

*giggle* I didn't think of it that way, Roo! I like the way you think!

@ LeeMiller-OMG, thankyouthankyouthankyou, I totally am going to throw a porn in there. What a hilarious idea.

I have a lot of suspicions as to why he had his mom contact me now. I've gone out with two guys this week, and I wrote about it in my LJ. I think he read my LJ (don't worry, I already changed my password to that and locked everything!). The more I think about it, it's been over a month since I had any contact with his parents, and more than that with him. I find it really funny that I would be contacted the week I start dating again.

Don't worry-Jill and I will have a blast in NY, and will drink on all of your behalves. I'm dragging her to see a new band I like. I have a crush on one of the singers (an Aussie with blue eyes, who plays the piano and sings? Yes, please!). We'll have tons of stories and pictures! I even bought a new digicam for the trip!

PurseNut911 · Nov 17th, 2007, 05:16 PM

This is one of those times that someone in your predicament, jilly, can be thankful for nuggets of pure wisdom handed to you on a golden platter:

Nugget #1: BF is an Asshat (I love this word, lol) and a low-life, scum-sucking mama's boy.
Nugget #2: BF is an immature, insensitive clod whose 32-year-old umbilical cord will one day strangle the air out of him, unless his two "thorns" that are his sisters get to him first.
Nugget #3: BF is your past history. No more crapolas.
Nugget #4: You found this out BEFORE any more time has passed to make you even more miserable.
Nugget #5: You are a strong woman who will get through this with flying colors because you realize that you deserve someone so much better.
Nugget #6: You have been given a new lease on life. Enjoy it to the hilt!!

Tell his mommy that you have packed in a box EVERYTHING he had left and that you have placed the box either outside the apartment or in the leasing office (whichever is easiest) and she needs to pick it up within x number of days, after which you will either throw it away or donate it to Goodwill or Salvation Army. NON-NEGOTIABLE.

Jahpson · Nov 17th, 2007, 10:33 PM

a grown azz man having his mommy handles his business. geesh, sounds like my ex. how pathetic!

i hope "mommy" fastens the bib on his neck when she feeds him gerber!

lara0112 · Nov 18th, 2007, 04:57 AM

i'd say instead of being sad, be glad he is gone!!!! don't be embarrassed or sad, you are way better than any such sad and stupid loser! do you have caller ID? or better, get an answer machine and screen! don't talk to them, or else tell them that you dropped his stuff outside your door and they can come and pick it up any time they like......

. and then tell his 'mommy' to stop bothering you since her son is such a pathetic loser that you don't really want to here his name anymore.

you are way too cool for anyone like that!

windycityaj · Nov 18th, 2007, 05:22 PM

I have a son and I would NEVER be so rude as to handle his breakups!! What kind of Mom does that? What kind of message does that send to him?!! I had a very similar "mama's boy" relationship years ago and thank God we did not get married. I know you will be okay but I am sorry that you are having to deal with a "third party".

Anne

Jahpson · Nov 18th, 2007, 07:01 PM

I say you get all his stuff, put it on the porch of his mothers house and be done with the situation. Let his mommy find him a new girlfriend

lulilu · Nov 18th, 2007, 09:08 PM

^^^or at least use your caller id and don't answer their calls. This is an incredible story Jill. What a pack of weirdos.

aaallabama · Nov 18th, 2007, 09:15 PM

Originally Posted by dallas

Think of how happy he would be, knowing he could upset you. I've said it before, the best revenge is to live a good life. Don't let them get you down. And tell mommie dearest that when she picks up the rest of his cr@p, she can drop off the $300 he owes you for the sunglasses. Take care.

^^ ITA!!!

baby&melovelv · Nov 20th, 2007, 06:01 PM

any way you can ignore these bizarre phone calls? this is when caller id comes in very handy! if you can ignore the entire clan in the future, i would. it seems like he has the maturity of a 12 year old and an enabling parent. they are just looking for ways to bug you. don't let them! keep having fun and enjoy your new sunglasses! they'll keep your eyes clear for all the new men headed your way!

damienmomma · Nov 20th, 2007, 06:08 PM

What a pathetic loser!!!! So glad you kicked him to the curb!

LeeMiller · Nov 20th, 2007, 06:34 PM

Originally Posted by jillybean307

*giggle* I didn't think of it that way, Roo! I like the way you think!

@ LeeMiller-OMG, thankyouthankyouthankyou, I totally am going to throw a porn in there. What a hilarious idea.

I have a lot of suspicions as to why he had his mom contact me now. I've gone out with two guys this week, and I wrote about it in my LJ. I think he read my LJ (don't worry, I already changed my password to that and locked everything!). The more I think about it, it's been over a month since I had any contact with his parents, and more than that with him. I find it really funny that I would be contacted the week I start dating again.

Don't worry-Jill and I will have a blast in NY, and will drink on all of your behalves. I'm dragging her to see a new band I like. I have a crush on one of the singers (an Aussie with blue eyes, who plays the piano and sings? Yes, please!). We'll have tons of stories and pictures! I even bought a new digicam for the trip!

Good for you. The best thing is dating again, I swear I think it totally helps!

Haha, you're in VA so if you ever need a martini in DC we can drink to dumb exes!

Glamfoxx · Nov 22nd, 2007, 04:10 AM

Be happy you got that immature baby out of your life! Give his mommy his plastic skull and his dvds so he doesn't cry anymore, then change your phone number!

chipmunk-pnw · Nov 22nd, 2007, 04:33 AM

He's a typical "mommy's boy". Most mommy's boys turn into jerks when they hit 15yo and never grow up from there. They make difficult boyfriends and terrible husbands. Never date a guy and certainly never marry one like this because they will never take responsibility for anything. If they're out of a job they will count on you to be the breadwinner. If you fail, they will find some other girl to pamper them or go home crying to their mommy. You'd be surprised I know of guys 56+ yo still behaving like this!

Choose a partner wisely. He should be the one able to provide you with basic necessities. Now go and have a ball of a time. Oh the joys of being single, I can imagine it'd be so refreshing for you!

Nov 17th, 2007, 01:42 PM	#46
Roo au courant Joined: Apr 2006 Location: Rue Roo Posts: 12,708	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! Be soooo glad you got out of this. Imagine: someday that woman will be someone's mother in law. Just be glad she won't be YOURS.
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Nov 17th, 2007, 02:49 PM	#47
RowanOak Member Joined: Aug 2006 Location: Deep South Posts: 1,333	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! ^^Speaking of MIL, in relation to your ex, is he still saying he wants to marry his old ex? Or was that just something he was saying and not meaning?
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Nov 17th, 2007, 05:16 PM	#49
PurseNut911 Nuts about LV Joined: Sep 2006 Location: The Golden State Posts: 4,985	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! This is one of those times that someone in your predicament, jilly, can be thankful for nuggets of pure wisdom handed to you on a golden platter: Nugget #1: BF is an Asshat (I love this word, lol) and a low-life, scum-sucking mama's boy. Nugget #2: BF is an immature, insensitive clod whose 32-year-old umbilical cord will one day strangle the air out of him, unless his two "thorns" that are his sisters get to him first. Nugget #3: BF is your past history. No more crapolas. Nugget #4: You found this out BEFORE any more time has passed to make you even more miserable. Nugget #5: You are a strong woman who will get through this with flying colors because you realize that you deserve someone so much better. Nugget #6: You have been given a new lease on life. Enjoy it to the hilt!! Tell his mommy that you have packed in a box EVERYTHING he had left and that you have placed the box either outside the apartment or in the leasing office (whichever is easiest) and she needs to pick it up within x number of days, after which you will either throw it away or donate it to Goodwill or Salvation Army. NON-NEGOTIABLE.
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Nov 17th, 2007, 10:33 PM	#50
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,390	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! a grown azz man having his mommy handles his business. geesh, sounds like my ex. how pathetic! i hope "mommy" fastens the bib on his neck when she feeds him gerber!
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Nov 18th, 2007, 04:57 AM	#51
lara0112 Member Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 3,008	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! i'd say instead of being sad, be glad he is gone!!!! don't be embarrassed or sad, you are way better than any such sad and stupid loser! do you have caller ID? or better, get an answer machine and screen! don't talk to them, or else tell them that you dropped his stuff outside your door and they can come and pick it up any time they like...... . and then tell his 'mommy' to stop bothering you since her son is such a pathetic loser that you don't really want to here his name anymore. you are way too cool for anyone like that!
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Nov 18th, 2007, 05:22 PM	#52
windycityaj Member Joined: Jan 2006 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 4,411	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! I have a son and I would NEVER be so rude as to handle his breakups!! What kind of Mom does that? What kind of message does that send to him?!! I had a very similar "mama's boy" relationship years ago and thank God we did not get married. I know you will be okay but I am sorry that you are having to deal with a "third party". Anne
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Nov 18th, 2007, 07:01 PM	#53
Jahpson Member Joined: Aug 2007 Location: The Playground Posts: 22,390	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! I say you get all his stuff, put it on the porch of his mothers house and be done with the situation. Let his mommy find him a new girlfriend
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Nov 18th, 2007, 09:08 PM	#54
lulilu Member Joined: Mar 2006 Posts: 8,500	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! ^^^or at least use your caller id and don't answer their calls. This is an incredible story Jill. What a pack of weirdos.
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Nov 20th, 2007, 06:01 PM	#56
baby&melovelv That's what she said Joined: Aug 2006 Location: boston-ish Posts: 2,579	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! any way you can ignore these bizarre phone calls? this is when caller id comes in very handy! if you can ignore the entire clan in the future, i would. it seems like he has the maturity of a 12 year old and an enabling parent. they are just looking for ways to bug you. don't let them! keep having fun and enjoy your new sunglasses! they'll keep your eyes clear for all the new men headed your way!
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Nov 20th, 2007, 06:08 PM	#57
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Nov 22nd, 2007, 04:10 AM	#59
Glamfoxx Member Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 1,391	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! Be happy you got that immature baby out of your life! Give his mommy his plastic skull and his dvds so he doesn't cry anymore, then change your phone number!
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Nov 22nd, 2007, 04:33 AM	#60
chipmunk-pnw ^.^ Joined: Nov 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,017	Re: Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?! He's a typical "mommy's boy". Most mommy's boys turn into jerks when they hit 15yo and never grow up from there. They make difficult boyfriends and terrible husbands. Never date a guy and certainly never marry one like this because they will never take responsibility for anything. If they're out of a job they will count on you to be the breadwinner. If you fail, they will find some other girl to pamper them or go home crying to their mommy. You'd be surprised I know of guys 56+ yo still behaving like this! Choose a partner wisely. He should be the one able to provide you with basic necessities. Now go and have a ball of a time. Oh the joys of being single, I can imagine it'd be so refreshing for you!

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