Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?!

[princessaj0603]

This is a really tough situation and I am really sorry that you have been stuck in the middle. My BF's mom is really meddiling and everything and there have been times that I just wanted to end the whole relationship because she was so demanding and possessive. I just had to remind myself how much I love my bf and what he means to me.

Sorry to talk about the BF so much but my point is that you have to take it with a grain of salt. Give her what he wants from your apartment and just try and focus on the positive aspects of your life. You will have a lot less stress if you try and just put everything behind you and focus on the good things.

Hope that helped a little, you are going to be just fine and while it hurts now, you will totally heal one day and be able to look back and laugh...

[Nishi621]

Oh-just noticed that you sold his Wii for sunglass money-good job!

[sred2]

That seriously sucks what you're going through... but just keep in mind that he's the one that's being pathetic and allowing his mom to clean up his messes. Just keep focused on being happy and try to not let it get you down.. Like someone else mentioned the best revenge is living well!


also, something I like to live by: "No one can drive us crazy unless we give them the keys" ... Don't give his mom/him the satisfaction that they're getting under your skin! Best of luck with everything!

[jillybean307]

Thanks so much all for the sweet words. The whole thing has kind of just left me like o.0 you know? It'd been a month since I had any contact with them, so the whole thing has left me quite shaken.

@Tammy-I would love to come visit you! I've never been to VA Beach, and it's definitely a road trip I want to do. When I have a free weekend (end of the semester is coming up-ugh! so stressful!) I'll come visit!

@Rowan-no, not particularly close, but I did like her a ton. She just thinks he's perfect. She calls him "her rose between two thorns" the thorns being his older & younger sister, so that should tell you something right there.

Jill and I are really going to be in NYC celebrating my liberation from him! If you hear of two ditzy girls getting in trouble next Wednesday night, kindly come bail us out-LOL!

[RowanOak]

"Her rose between two thorns??" Mercy me.

[nycmom]

oh i am so sorry, what a $%#&! nightmare! i'm sorry this set you back a bit but the good news is you were at least starting to feel better so you will again soon, i promise. and in the meantime i hope you have a great time in nyc (pack layers because it is coooold today)!

[sonya]

I'm so sorry.

Pack up his stuff, tell his mom and leave them outside your door.

Don' worry about his half of the rent. The leasing office will deal with that. (I'm assuming they will hold him responsible to half the rent, and not expect that from you. I know some rental companies are like this.)

Take care of yourself. I know it's difficult but he is NOT worth your time and energy being upset over. Good riddance. Logically, it should be more relief than sadness. (I know this is hard, but think about it. It's true!)

Have a fabulous time with Jill!

[Elara]

Ugh, you poor thing...I had a high school BF like that, but that was HS! There comes a point where you have to let your "child" deal with his/her own problems. I feel really sorry for whoever (if anyone) gets stuck with him.

(and not to change the subject, but just for the record, my husband turns 32 in a month and a half, I turn 33 next week, and I bought him a Wii for Christmas last year that we both play, a lot (and most of our friends, older and younger, have them too). And I got him a PS3 last year as well. They are definitely NOT just for kids.)

[LeeMiller]

OMG, how miserable. First, I had a serious ex of several years cheat and it was so devastating, we had also lived together for awhile but we weren't at the time. It does take time but I'm sure you already realize that the up days are more often then the down ones as time goes on.

The fact his mom is involved shows how he can't even confront you in a mature manner, like face up for what he did! I'm so glad you sold his Wii. Are you sure you don't want to include some gay porn in that DVD package that mom's picking up? Then again maybe a more subtle approach is better until they pay off the lease.

[BagAngel]

Can't believe his mum is doing this & he is 32!!! Even if he was 19 most men wouldn't want this.
Don't beat yourself up for being with him jilly, so not worth your head space. Go & have a great weekend in NYC. So glad you sold the wii LOL! Good for you! I would honestly change my phone number & have no more contact, I wouldn;t even pay the postage for the stuff back to him. I am just wondering how long they will continue to pay the rent?

[moi et mes sacs]

This guy is still umbillically attached to mummy. That is why he behaved like such a baby when he left and broke your toy. I am sure she is glad to have him back. Leave his stuff on the door and throw in a pack of nappies ( diapers)
And you.. go buy a new bag or bags, look gorgeous, smile and meet a real man.Good luck

[boxermom]

Obviously he didn't deserve you; and you didn't deserve to be treated so shabbily by this mama's boy. He's pathetic. With sporadic contact from his family, it's like the scab coming off again, isn't it? What jerks. As Jennifer Aniston said about Brad Pitt--he's missing the sensitivity gene.

Best of luck, Jill.

[Jill]

SIGH,,Im in Florida......I cant belive I traveled alone here(I miss TEAM JILL!!!LOLOL!)
Jillybean...he is an ASSHAT..Ignore him......i love the fact that he is still thinking of u though(EVEN IF IT IS harassment!)..Maybe he is really figuring out what an ass he was..I HOPE so!lol!
cant wait for new york!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!woohoooooooooooooooo ooo!

martini time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!watch out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[gr8heart]

Hang in there, Jilly!
I totally agree with Jill^ that he IS thinking of you. I mean, after several weeks he tells his mom, to ask you for his remaining things that include 4 DVD's and a plastic skull??? Do not let this 32 year old child get to you!

Have a fabulous time in NYC with Jill! (Keep us posted on your adventures!)

[Pursegrrl]

Originally Posted by Cristina

Wow. What an immature, pathetic loser. A 32-year-old man - no, wait, let me correct myself - boy, has his parents handle the ending of your relationship and the uncomfortable, but necessary, things that need to be done during the process. Be glad you got out of that hot mess! Tell mommy dearest that you will be putting his personal items in a box and leaving them either at the front desk of your apartment complex leasing office, or outside your apartment door. Don't spend a dime mailing anything to him, and don't be around when his mother comes to pick up his things. And like dallas said, let her know that he can make a check for $300 to you for your OP sunglasses. What an asshat. I love that word. ETA - Change your phone number ASAP. Best thing I ever did for myself after a breakup with an ex.

I did the same damn thing and even was willing to pay the $180 termination fee to get the f*** off his phone account with AT&T and get a new # with T-Mobile. Gawd that felt good.

And I would so find a new roomie!! Hugs to you, JB, I had NO idea about any of this .

OH. And have a great girls weekend with Jill and have a Grey Goose martini, 3 olives for me, K!!