Ugh, why won't they just leave me alone?!

[heartnaspade]

The next time she calls, I think you should tell her flat out that you don't feel comfortable with her contacting you, and that if your ex wants anything back he knows how to reach you. This is totally inappropriate behavior and I think she needs to be called out on it.

[jillybean307]

Originally Posted by Sanguar

I love that you sold his Wii I can't believe a 32 year old sends his mother to do his dirty work AND that she's willing to. WTF?

HAHAHA thanks. I'm glad other people like that I sold the Wii. I figured it was only fair considering how much I loved those sunglasses!

[RowanOak]

Originally Posted by jillybean307

Thanks all. I just cannot believe that either of them finds it normal for someone's mommy to contact the ex. So weird!

See, that is what blows my mind! If my son ever asked me to do something like that, I'd have him committed. A 32 year old? Asking Mommy to pick up his things? Unreal.

I'm just so sorry this has opened up all the old wounds. Hugs*

[Mustlovedogs]

Originally Posted by jillybean307

Thanks all. I actually sold his Wii to pay for my sunglasses. It didn't cover the costs completely, but it was enough for me to buy a new pair. I just cannot believe that either of them finds it normal for someone's mommy to contact the ex. So weird!

Sheesh..........I can't believe he actually has a Wii (Um, check that....HAD a Wii). I might think (Hope to not offend anyone) that a 32 year old and a Wii in the same sentence is an oxymoron!! That should tell ya somethin' about the guy!

[amanda]

I'd ask his mommy dearest for a list of things he would like you to ship back to him, and that after those things are shipped, you consider the matter closed. At least she's paying his half of the rent, THAT could be a lot worse (but why isn't he paying it? he's a third of his way through his life). But I'm almost 22 years old, a full decade younger than him, and I would be MORTIFIED to ask my mommy to contact ANYONE on my behalf for any purpose unless i was a) stuck on a desert island with no phone, internet, or smoke signals, or b) momentarily struck completely mute as a result of some rare jungle virus.

just be glad you realized all this about him now and not after you married him. in a few years, you'll look back and breath a huge sigh of relief.

[jillybean307]

Originally Posted by amanda

I'd ask his mommy dearest for a list of things he would like you to ship back to him, and that after those things are shipped, you consider the matter closed. At least she's paying his half of the rent, THAT could be a lot worse (but why isn't he paying it? he's a third of his way through his life). But I'm almost 22 years old, a full decade younger than him, and I would be MORTIFIED to ask my mommy to contact ANYONE on my behalf for any purpose unless i was a) stuck on a desert island with no phone, internet, or smoke signals, or b) momentarily struck completely mute as a result of some rare jungle virus. just be glad you realized all this about him now and not after you married him. in a few years, you'll look back and breath a huge sigh of relief.

I have no clue why he's not paying it. I guess he feels if his parents are willing to, why not take advantage of them? It's a shame too, his dad just retired this year. It's his name on the lease (thank God we both signed it & not just me, at least that means he's responsible for half of it!).

Yeah, I'm 26, and I cannot imagine having my mommy pay my bills and be in such a personal matter like this. I already am sighing that sigh of relief! I'm sort of humiliated that I could be with someone like that for so long.

[Tammy518]

Jillybean, I'm so sorry this $hit is still going on. He's not man enough to come and get his stuff himself. Hey, if you want a quick get-a-way, come down to Virginia Beach and see me! This guy is the loser here, not you!

[Bubble Girl]

You poor thing. He is a weed and utterly pathetic. I would send the crap with a note to his mother telling her that with all due respect, the fact that she is cleaning up after her son in this manner is quite sad and unbelievable, and that he should grow up and take care of himself.

[RowanOak]

Jilly, I still can't wrap my mind around this. Were you and his mom good friends? I mean REALLY good friends? And even so...

This may be just what you needed in the long run, kwim?

[carvedwords]

Good riddance! On a bright note at least you got rid of him. So glad to see the Wii got put to good use for funding some of your sunglass money. How embarrassing on his part to let his mom handle everything. Make sure you get all his stuff out to be completely rid of him.

Good luck!!

[D & G rockstar]

he's a loser! I think getting over a really long term relationship (4 + years) is a day by day process. Some days you're happy, and then some days are like this. As time goes on, you'll be less affected and by that time I hope his mommy isn't still contacting you. Have fun in NYC with Jill !

[riffraff]

Jillybean *hugs* remember no matter how he has handled his side of this breakup - you are the one that has remained dignified throughout.

Pack up everything you can find that belongs to him and everything you no longer want that belonged to you both and see it as a final cathartic clearing him out of your life once and for all, I totally agree that you should change your telephone number and suggest to his family that they pay his rent directly to the property management company.

Then have a massive girls night out, get drunk and letch at loads of fellas

[mellecyn]

People change...and not only for the best. He avoids dealing with you directly for his stuff, but maybe it´s easier you don´t see him at all despite how upsetting it is to have to deal with his Mum. But I agree I would tell her how I feel, to stop contacting me how it makes it difficult to heal and if she feels OK with pick up the stuff from her irresponsible 32 year old baby ? Also 32 is def more of an average age for Wii owners !! esp. males ! which is OK as long as they dont neglect their GF for it....
I wish you to have utter fun in your girly weekend with Jill -dont forget the pict!- and keep yourself busy that ´s what I am trying to do too

[razorbackbelle0]

Pack that stuff up, set it out on your front porch and call "Mommy." Tell her where it is. Then tell her, politely, that you don't want any further contact with him or the members of his family or friends. Then have a nice martini and enjoy your girls weekend in New York with Jill.

[Nishi621]

That is just pathetic Jill! i am so sorry for you-a grown man who has his mother handle things like this is no man at all and you are so much better off without him!

As for this crap-ola, tell his mother she is welcome to come get his stuff but this is the last time this will happen. You need to get on with your life and do not want to be tied up with these people anymore. Tell her when she comes this time for his stuff that she better get all of it because she will no longer be allowed to come to your home and her calls won't be responded to. And, yes, tell mommy you want your money for your sunglasses!

Enjoy your weekend in NY!