Trouble with Paris Hilton wannabe

[writtenstars]

this is what i senthey, i'm sorry what i said earlier, i wasn't trying to pick a fight, i just care about you

i am soft hearted, after all that she insulted me. but yeah, don't think she will forgive me, shes not the forgiving type (she doesn't have a big heart, and shes a only child), am i mean or what, i don't really regret what i told her earlier, what she said was really hurtful, i didn't really read through the whole "insult" msg, if i did i think i will really cry and do something to hurt her real bad. i skimmed it and that was enough already.

[HauteMama]

A lot of people take any insults to things they like as personal attacks. In other words, if you call Paris stupid or the music I listen to stupid or the bag I bought stupid, you must think I am stupid, too. Your cousin sounds very immature, and it is unlikely that anything you say, no matter how well-intentioned, will be brushed off or taken the wrong way. She thinks she is an adult (though she certainly isn't acting like one), and can do what she likes. Taking advice from someone younger than herself would be insulting.

So just let it go. You meant well and she is acting like an 8th grade girl (no offense to 8th grade girls). Let her outgrow it and maybe send her a holiday greeting in a while to try to mend fences.

[writtenstars]

thanks hautemama!
now i'm scared that she will tell my aunt while my aunt blames it on my mum, while my mum tells me off..(my mum is the youngest in her family!)
My DH pulled me away because he told me i had to think about my mum and her situation in the family, although i can't reallt swallow in what she said about me, but i still did, just to make my mum's life in her family easier. BUT, if i ever get told off for being well-intentioned, i don't think i can swallow that too i am literally crying when i'm typing this. I am sad not because she is immature, but for all that she insulted me :( sighs, how words can be so hurtful...

I only reminded her because she was getting ironic comments from her own friends about the porn - and she had no idea about what they were referring to, thats why i thought i should tell her and remind her...now i regret i did it, i feel bad for myself. her comments about me actually make me feel bad for myself.....

[spoiled_brat]

I don't see why you should feel bad about yourself. There is nothing wrong with having your head on your shoulders and starting a family early.

Just let this go. You've done all you could (apologized) and if she wants to act like a 5 year-old (deleting you off of FB and stuff) then let her.

I'm sorry you feel sad and insulted but, really, this is taking up too much of your energy and time. Just let it go

[PurseAddict79]

Wow... she sounds really immature. So sad.

You did nothing wrong. I wouldn't reach out to her any further. She's the one with issues, not you.

[Avril]

Ugh she sounds like a tool! Just ignore her, let her get over her stoopid phase, she is being a right childish idiot. Please, at 24 and acting like that? You'd expect that from a naive 12 yr old, not a 24 yr old. She sounds very immature. Don't take her insults to heart - you're very happy married with a family and she just sounds jealous.

Chin up, just ignore her!

[Nieners]

Anything coming out of the mouth from a Paris Hilton wannabe is something I would not take so serious. Chin up!

[Gimmethebag]

It sounds like she is not happy in her own life and greatly admires someone who seems to get away with everything by virtue of being skinny and blonde. That's sad.

[writtenstars]

thanks guys, after a nights sleep i feel so much better

[LOREBUNDE]

I wouldn't worry too much about it. I think it's a phase and in time she will wake up and realize how silly she sounds and maybe be a little embarassed about it. She'll then remember you tried to tell her.

[bagnshoofetish]

leave her alone.
people who cling to celebs in this manner are horrifically immature and need lots of therapy IMO. She obviously has no identity of her own and that is the saddest part of all this. Theres really nothing you can do but just sit back and watch her eventually make a fool of herself. If you really really care about her, just be available when she comes tumbling down. Its one thing if a 10 year old is doing this but an adult woman is another thing and borders on some kind of psychosis IMO.

[writtenstars]

^

[Little Tiger]

It's really NOT about Paris.

I think it's wonderful that you have a child and husband and are studying whilst being so young! :-)

You cousin is obviously going through some difficulty with finding her own values and identity - perhaps this is a reaction to the adult world, and finding her place in it?

She might feel like you have a more secure identity and is 'attacking' you (without consciously meaning to) as she feels scared about where she is.

All you can do is talk to your family, try to contact her and try to emphasise the good things about her life...aside from Paris, of course! ;-)

That's if you're being especially magnanimous, I know how hard it is to make all the effort.

[Echoes]

Originally Posted by floridasun8

Ughhh, why Paris?? If your sister wanted to be a celebrity wannabe, she should at least pick someone a better role model!

Brittney Spears?

Originally Posted by _kate_

she isnt really hurting .... herself by becoming more 'paris' like

Yes she is.

Originally Posted by writtenstars

i had to think about my mum and her situation in the family, although i can't reallt swallow in what she said about me, but i still did, just to make my mum's life in her family easier.

Speak your mind. Don't worry about what they think.