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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 12:39 PM   #1
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My best friend in the world is an insanely beautiful, smart, together young woman who would take a bullet for me. She's perfect, except that she dates the biggest loser in the world, but to this end, I have kept my mouth shut because it never has done me (or her) any good to speak up.

Anyway, I have seriously considered ending our friendship over this one action of hers because I am so disgusted...

We live in different states so this was all communicated via email. She just moved into a new place and apparently adopted a cat. Her email said: "I named him Max and he likes turkey and cuddling but [my boyfriend] said he would break up with me if I kept him so I gave him the boot out the door." As in, she literally just kicked the cat out of her front door.

I am totally baffled. I guess as an animal lover I am outraged and concerned for the cat, and as a friend, I am totally confused by my friend's insensitive, cruel behavior...

I haven't responded to the email because I'm afriad I'll say something really angry and hurtful. I just have no idea how she could do that to an animal... I honestly thought about that poor kitty all night long.

What do you ladies think?
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 12:44 PM   #2
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WoW, poor kitty... I'd call her if that was possible and get the entire story from her over the phone. Sometimes important parts get left or overlooked in e-mails. Good luck..

Maybe.. hopefully after the phone convo... the original e-mail won't sound as bad as it did..
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 12:44 PM   #3
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Oh i don't know what to say... I'm worried about the cat too. did she really? that would be so out of her character? why did she tell to you? she must know you wouldn't appreciate this? maybe she is telling you she needs help?
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 12:46 PM   #4
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Oh i don't know what to say... I'm worried about the cat too. did she really? that would be so out of her character? why did she tell to you? she must know you wouldn't appreciate this? maybe she is telling you she needs help?
You're so right, she knows I would totally be APPALLED by this... I thought it would be out of character but maybe not. She adopted a cat a couple years ago and decided she didn't like it but she gave it to her mom and the cat is just fine...

I don't know why she did this and why she told me. I feel so bad for the kitty.
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 12:49 PM   #5
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I have a friend just like this. Beautiful girl. She is 26 and is working on her PHD, she's basically brilliant... except in the guy department. She lets guys walk all over her. I don't get. I know people say don't say anything to your friends, it's not your business. But when I see my friends doing something that crazy I always tell them. In the most non-judgmental, nice way as possible, but I always tell them. I've never lost a friend because of it.

Wait until you are not angry and send her the email or call and let her know how you feel. Of course she may not change or do anything about it, but at least you'll get to say your peace. I know how much you love animals so I can imagine how you feel.
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 12:58 PM   #6
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I am so angry from reading your post...I don't know what to say. How could someone do something so disgusting! She just put the cat outside and that was that?!!!! OMG.
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:09 PM   #7
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i'd say something to her. she knows you're an animal lover, yet she makes sure to tell you such an appalling story anyway?
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:17 PM   #8
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Wait...are you sure she didn't mean the BF?

I'd clarify exactly what she did first...and if she did get rid of the cat, make sure she handled it properly and didn't just throw him outside. Her bf might be allergic to cats and was joking around about breaking up. I dunno...clarify first!
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:20 PM   #9
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Wait...are you sure she didn't mean the BF?

I'd clarify exactly what she did first...and if she did get rid of the cat, make sure she handled it properly and didn't just throw him outside. Her bf might be allergic to cats and was joking around about breaking up. I dunno...clarify first!
No, she gave the CAT the boot. She did not give the boyfriend the boot. And I know her boyfriend: he wasn't joking, hence why she threw the cat out.

Even if he is allergic to cats, you don't just adopt a cat, give him a name, feed him turkey and cuddle with him, then throw him out your front door.

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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:25 PM   #10
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She sounds kind of weak to me, no-one in their right mind should behave like that!

I hope the cat is ok
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:25 PM   #11
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How mean of her to do that!! She should have talked to her bf BEFORE getting the cat to see if it were going to be an issue..now a cat is homeless........
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:26 PM   #12
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How mean of her to do that!! She should have talked to her bf BEFORE getting the cat to see if it were going to be an issue..now a cat is homeless........
She doesn't even live with him!!
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:27 PM   #13
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She doesn't even live with him!!

OMG are you kidding me? Does she not have a heart? Who cares what the bf thinks...it's her house not his!!
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:28 PM   #14
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Where did she get the cat from? I know the shelter we got ours from is quite strict, if you move house you have to give them your new address and stuff. I'm sure if she got it from a shelter they'd want to know if she'd just thrown it out!

From the sounds of it though, I think the cat can probably look after itself better than she looks after herself!
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Old Dec 19th, 2007, 01:29 PM   #15
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She doesn't even live with him!!
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