Totally repulsed by best friend

IntlSet · Dec 19th, 2007, 12:39 PM

My best friend in the world is an insanely beautiful, smart, together young woman who would take a bullet for me. She's perfect, except that she dates the biggest loser in the world, but to this end, I have kept my mouth shut because it never has done me (or her) any good to speak up.

Anyway, I have seriously considered ending our friendship over this one action of hers because I am so disgusted...

We live in different states so this was all communicated via email. She just moved into a new place and apparently adopted a cat. Her email said: "I named him Max and he likes turkey and cuddling but [my boyfriend] said he would break up with me if I kept him so I gave him the boot out the door." As in, she literally just kicked the cat out of her front door.

I am totally baffled. I guess as an animal lover I am outraged and concerned for the cat, and as a friend, I am totally confused by my friend's insensitive, cruel behavior...

I haven't responded to the email because I'm afriad I'll say something really angry and hurtful. I just have no idea how she could do that to an animal... I honestly thought about that poor kitty all night long.

What do you ladies think?

oogiewoogie · Dec 19th, 2007, 12:44 PM

WoW, poor kitty... I'd call her if that was possible and get the entire story from her over the phone. Sometimes important parts get left or overlooked in e-mails. Good luck..

Maybe.. hopefully after the phone convo... the original e-mail won't sound as bad as it did..

H&H · Dec 19th, 2007, 12:44 PM

Oh i don't know what to say... I'm worried about the cat too. did she really? that would be so out of her character? why did she tell to you? she must know you wouldn't appreciate this? maybe she is telling you she needs help?

IntlSet · Dec 19th, 2007, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by H&H

Oh i don't know what to say... I'm worried about the cat too. did she really? that would be so out of her character? why did she tell to you? she must know you wouldn't appreciate this? maybe she is telling you she needs help?

You're so right, she knows I would totally be APPALLED by this... I thought it would be out of character but maybe not. She adopted a cat a couple years ago and decided she didn't like it but she gave it to her mom and the cat is just fine...

I don't know why she did this and why she told me. I feel so bad for the kitty.

wordpast · Dec 19th, 2007, 12:49 PM

I have a friend just like this. Beautiful girl. She is 26 and is working on her PHD, she's basically brilliant... except in the guy department. She lets guys walk all over her. I don't get. I know people say don't say anything to your friends, it's not your business. But when I see my friends doing something that crazy I always tell them. In the most non-judgmental, nice way as possible, but I always tell them. I've never lost a friend because of it.

Wait until you are not angry and send her the email or call and let her know how you feel. Of course she may not change or do anything about it, but at least you'll get to say your peace. I know how much you love animals so I can imagine how you feel.

HubbaWubba · Dec 19th, 2007, 12:58 PM

I am so angry from reading your post...I don't know what to say. How could someone do something so disgusting! She just put the cat outside and that was that?!!!! OMG.

amanda · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:09 PM

i'd say something to her. she knows you're an animal lover, yet she makes sure to tell you such an appalling story anyway?

Charles · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:17 PM

Wait...are you sure she didn't mean the BF?

I'd clarify exactly what she did first...and if she did get rid of the cat, make sure she handled it properly and didn't just throw him outside. Her bf might be allergic to cats and was joking around about breaking up. I dunno...clarify first!

IntlSet · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Charles

Wait...are you sure she didn't mean the BF?

I'd clarify exactly what she did first...and if she did get rid of the cat, make sure she handled it properly and didn't just throw him outside. Her bf might be allergic to cats and was joking around about breaking up. I dunno...clarify first!

No, she gave the CAT the boot. She did not give the boyfriend the boot. And I know her boyfriend: he wasn't joking, hence why she threw the cat out.

Even if he is allergic to cats, you don't just adopt a cat, give him a name, feed him turkey and cuddle with him, then throw him out your front door.

ILoveMyBug · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:25 PM

She sounds kind of weak to me, no-one in their right mind should behave like that!

I hope the cat is ok

Sweetpea83 · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:25 PM

How mean of her to do that!! She should have talked to her bf BEFORE getting the cat to see if it were going to be an issue..now a cat is homeless........

IntlSet · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:26 PM

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How mean of her to do that!! She should have talked to her bf BEFORE getting the cat to see if it were going to be an issue..now a cat is homeless........

She doesn't even live with him!!

Sweetpea83 · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:27 PM

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She doesn't even live with him!!

OMG are you kidding me? Does she not have a heart? Who cares what the bf thinks...it's her house not his!!

ILoveMyBug · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:28 PM

Where did she get the cat from? I know the shelter we got ours from is quite strict, if you move house you have to give them your new address and stuff. I'm sure if she got it from a shelter they'd want to know if she'd just thrown it out!

From the sounds of it though, I think the cat can probably look after itself better than she looks after herself!

wordpast · Dec 19th, 2007, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by IntlSet

She doesn't even live with him!!

Dec 19th, 2007, 12:39 PM	#1
IntlSet Bonjour! Location: Chicago	Totally repulsed by best friend My best friend in the world is an insanely beautiful, smart, together young woman who would take a bullet for me. She's perfect, except that she dates the biggest loser in the world, but to this end, I have kept my mouth shut because it never has done me (or her) any good to speak up. Anyway, I have seriously considered ending our friendship over this one action of hers because I am so disgusted... We live in different states so this was all communicated via email. She just moved into a new place and apparently adopted a cat. Her email said: "I named him Max and he likes turkey and cuddling but [my boyfriend] said he would break up with me if I kept him so I gave him the boot out the door." As in, she literally just kicked the cat out of her front door. I am totally baffled. I guess as an animal lover I am outraged and concerned for the cat, and as a friend, I am totally confused by my friend's insensitive, cruel behavior... I haven't responded to the email because I'm afriad I'll say something really angry and hurtful. I just have no idea how she could do that to an animal... I honestly thought about that poor kitty all night long. What do you ladies think? __________________ http://drinkmorechampagne.wordpress.com/

Dec 19th, 2007, 12:44 PM	#2
oogiewoogie iS eNjOyin Life :o) Location: Beachy SoCAL...♥	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend WoW, poor kitty... I'd call her if that was possible and get the entire story from her over the phone. Sometimes important parts get left or overlooked in e-mails. Good luck.. Maybe.. hopefully after the phone convo... the original e-mail won't sound as bad as it did.. __________________ " It is as easy to create a castle as a button. It's just a matter of whether you're focused on a castle or a button." - Abraham-Hicks."

Dec 19th, 2007, 12:44 PM	#3
H&H Dutch in the USA Location: USA and Amsterdam	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend Oh i don't know what to say... I'm worried about the cat too. did she really? that would be so out of her character? why did she tell to you? she must know you wouldn't appreciate this? maybe she is telling you she needs help?

Dec 19th, 2007, 12:49 PM	#5
wordpast Member Location: Never Never Land	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend I have a friend just like this. Beautiful girl. She is 26 and is working on her PHD, she's basically brilliant... except in the guy department. She lets guys walk all over her. I don't get. I know people say don't say anything to your friends, it's not your business. But when I see my friends doing something that crazy I always tell them. In the most non-judgmental, nice way as possible, but I always tell them. I've never lost a friend because of it. Wait until you are not angry and send her the email or call and let her know how you feel. Of course she may not change or do anything about it, but at least you'll get to say your peace. I know how much you love animals so I can imagine how you feel. __________________

Dec 19th, 2007, 12:58 PM	#6
HubbaWubba Sofa King Banned	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend I am so angry from reading your post...I don't know what to say. How could someone do something so disgusting! She just put the cat outside and that was that?!!!! OMG.

Dec 19th, 2007, 01:09 PM	#7
amanda I Bleed Georgia Red Location: Athens, GA	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend i'd say something to her. she knows you're an animal lover, yet she makes sure to tell you such an appalling story anyway? __________________ PROUD TO BE A UNIVERSITY OF GEORGIA BULLDOG! Read my blog: http://graduationday.wordpress.com

Dec 19th, 2007, 01:17 PM	#8
Charles Sucks at budgeting Location: Jacksonville, Fl	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend Wait...are you sure she didn't mean the BF? I'd clarify exactly what she did first...and if she did get rid of the cat, make sure she handled it properly and didn't just throw him outside. Her bf might be allergic to cats and was joking around about breaking up. I dunno...clarify first!

Dec 19th, 2007, 01:25 PM	#10
ILoveMyBug Victoria Location: Leeds, UK	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend She sounds kind of weak to me, no-one in their right mind should behave like that! I hope the cat is ok __________________ Cats and Chloé

Dec 19th, 2007, 01:25 PM	#11
Sweetpea83 Happy Holidays!	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend How mean of her to do that!! She should have talked to her bf BEFORE getting the cat to see if it were going to be an issue..now a cat is homeless........ __________________ The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge.- Bertrand Russell

Dec 19th, 2007, 01:28 PM	#14
ILoveMyBug Victoria Location: Leeds, UK	Re: Totally repulsed by best friend Where did she get the cat from? I know the shelter we got ours from is quite strict, if you move house you have to give them your new address and stuff. I'm sure if she got it from a shelter they'd want to know if she'd just thrown it out! From the sounds of it though, I think the cat can probably look after itself better than she looks after herself! __________________ Cats and Chloé