thinking of writing to my ex/g your thoughts please

Lululapell · Oct 6th, 2008, 01:39 PM

Sounds like a nice letter.

Amberini · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:03 PM

It's a lovely letter, very wise to say you'll always be there for her as a friend, clearly beause you don't want her getting the wrong idea.

I think, I'd perhaps drop the 'I'm sincerely sorry' maybe go with something a little less formal.

Apart from that I think it's lovely and she clearly meant a lot to you.

:)

lovinalotofbags · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:29 PM

Nice thoughtful letter. I remember getting a letter from my BF some years ago. Men do not write, so the letter was very special on how he felt about me.

mrblond · Oct 6th, 2008, 06:55 PM

thank you, its good to hear from "outside the box" that i am doing the right thing. Even though she finished with me, i think it is the right thing to do to acknowlegde the part i played in the breakup, i beleive that as you get older , relationships mean alot more to both people and if you have hurt them (intentionately) then you should say sorry. Ok, some over 2 months ago i dont know how she feels , but i think she will appreciate this letter, she may have gone away from this relationship feeling unwanted and she will see from this letter that it was not her, she didnt do anything wrong.

Minimouse · Oct 7th, 2008, 04:58 AM

Mrblond, good letter! If it helps you both heal, then it's worthwhile.

mrblond · Oct 14th, 2008, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Minimouse

Mrblond, good letter! If it helps you both heal, then it's worthwhile.

well i sent the letter...nervous i was. The reply from my ex was what i wanted....she said

"Weird, we must have been thinking about stuff at the same time, thank you for everything you said, it means a lot to me , more than you probably know. I am always here for you too, never forget that xxx "

Obiouvsly what i wrote means alot to her as i know i hurt her emotionally...I am happy with the outcome.

Thanks to you all

alioops · Oct 14th, 2008, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by mrblond

thank you, its good to hear from "outside the box" that i am doing the right thing. Even though she finished with me, i think it is the right thing to do to acknowlegde the part i played in the breakup, i beleive that as you get older , relationships mean alot more to both people and if you have hurt them (intentionately) then you should say sorry. Ok, some over 2 months ago i dont know how she feels , but i think she will appreciate this letter, she may have gone away from this relationship feeling unwanted and she will see from this letter that it was not her, she didnt do anything wrong.

Mrblond - So glad to hear your letter was received just as you hoped! Your post above was extremely thoughtful and mature as was your letter. As my dear GF would say "good on you"!

Amberini · Oct 15th, 2008, 01:36 PM

I'm glad she gave you a reply and it seems like she was happy with you for contacting her :)

Smiles all round

Minimouse · Oct 15th, 2008, 04:55 PM

Take a bow MrBlonde, you did a great job and it's good that you both have come out of this feeling better about the whole situation. All credit to you for being able to admit your faults and apologize. I'm sure your actions will enable you both to move on a lot easier. Round of applause for MrBlonde!!!

merrazu · Oct 15th, 2008, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Minimouse

Take a bow MrBlonde, you did a great job and it's good that you both have come out of this feeling better about the whole situation. All credit to you for being able to admit your faults and apologize. I'm sure your actions will enable you both to move on a lot easier. Round of applause for MrBlonde!!!

I agree! I think it's great and very healthy. It would help me so much to receive something like that from my ex. I agree that it will make it easier for you both to move on. Great work!

louis fanatic · Oct 16th, 2008, 09:01 AM

that's a good letter. sounds sincere. good luck

addicted2chanel · Oct 16th, 2008, 10:55 AM

I think that is a good letter!! I also think that she would like to hear from you. It's hard for girls to move on too!! Getting some closure, and some reassurance that it wasn't anyone's fault, or her wrong doing that caused the break up, would be nice.
Oh, and btw. I love the movie Reservoir Dogs.

jennycho · Oct 16th, 2008, 11:02 AM

This guy has guts coming onto this forum and discussing this. Glad it worked out well for you on the letters.

ShelleyBaby · Oct 16th, 2008, 04:13 PM

I wish my ex would have done something like this. I still miss him so much and we ended up saying some awful and hurtful things to each other, and I definitely didn't mean any of them. I still miss him but I know he doesn't care about me anymore.

mrblond · Oct 27th, 2008, 07:28 PM

Thank you all for all your kind words.

After we split i had time to reflect on a lot of things and even though she split from me, i know i hurt her emotionally and without doubt became the most important relationship i have had to date and because of this there was no way i could go through life without saying sorry to her properly , i knew in my heart she would appreciate this a lot and she did. All i will say is that if you ever feel you need to say sorry to a present or passed loved one, do it, otherwise you will regret not doing it. Never regret the things you do , but regret the things you dont do.

Oct 6th, 2008, 01:39 PM	#16
Lululapell Member Location: Utopia	Sounds like a nice letter. __________________ BANNED and Currently Coveting: RM Nikki in kelly green (ORDERED!) 06 Chanel Bleu Fonce Lambskin Bal Sapphire Day Bal Sanguine Pom Bal Mandarin First Chanel Large Brown Tote (BOUGHT 11/2/08) Bal Sahara Step (BOUGHT 10/21/08)

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:03 PM	#17
Amberini Amberini Bellini Location: UK	It's a lovely letter, very wise to say you'll always be there for her as a friend, clearly beause you don't want her getting the wrong idea. I think, I'd perhaps drop the 'I'm sincerely sorry' maybe go with something a little less formal. Apart from that I think it's lovely and she clearly meant a lot to you. :) __________________ Well, at least he's taking care of things...

Oct 6th, 2008, 03:29 PM	#18
lovinalotofbags In for the long haul Location: South Carolina	Nice thoughtful letter. I remember getting a letter from my BF some years ago. Men do not write, so the letter was very special on how he felt about me. __________________ Always forgive your enemies. Nothing annoys them so much.

Oct 7th, 2008, 04:58 AM	#20
Minimouse Member Location: Work in the Middle East	Mrblond, good letter! If it helps you both heal, then it's worthwhile. __________________ PROUD OWNER OF A Mulberry Rosemary in Chocolate THE FOLLOWING IS ON THE WAY Mulberry Roxanne in Chocolate MY MULBERRY WISHLIST IS STILL OUT OF CONTROL! Rosemary in black, oak and olive Medium Mabel in denim Something in antique glace plum and an Annie in any color

Oct 15th, 2008, 01:36 PM	#23
Amberini Amberini Bellini Location: UK	I'm glad she gave you a reply and it seems like she was happy with you for contacting her :) Smiles all round __________________ Well, at least he's taking care of things...

Oct 6th, 2008, 06:55 PM	#19
mrblond Member	thank you, its good to hear from "outside the box" that i am doing the right thing. Even though she finished with me, i think it is the right thing to do to acknowlegde the part i played in the breakup, i beleive that as you get older , relationships mean alot more to both people and if you have hurt them (intentionately) then you should say sorry. Ok, some over 2 months ago i dont know how she feels , but i think she will appreciate this letter, she may have gone away from this relationship feeling unwanted and she will see from this letter that it was not her, she didnt do anything wrong.

Oct 15th, 2008, 04:55 PM	#24
Minimouse Member Location: Work in the Middle East	Take a bow MrBlonde, you did a great job and it's good that you both have come out of this feeling better about the whole situation. All credit to you for being able to admit your faults and apologize. I'm sure your actions will enable you both to move on a lot easier. Round of applause for MrBlonde!!! __________________ PROUD OWNER OF A Mulberry Rosemary in Chocolate THE FOLLOWING IS ON THE WAY Mulberry Roxanne in Chocolate MY MULBERRY WISHLIST IS STILL OUT OF CONTROL! Rosemary in black, oak and olive Medium Mabel in denim Something in antique glace plum and an Annie in any color

Oct 16th, 2008, 09:01 AM	#26
louis fanatic Member Location: california	that's a good letter. sounds sincere. good luck __________________ my COLLECTIONs pg 1 & 3 Have you made the move to www.Bonanzle.com?

Oct 16th, 2008, 10:55 AM	#27
addicted2chanel Chanel not war Location: Anchorage, AK	I think that is a good letter!! I also think that she would like to hear from you. It's hard for girls to move on too!! Getting some closure, and some reassurance that it wasn't anyone's fault, or her wrong doing that caused the break up, would be nice. Oh, and btw. I love the movie Reservoir Dogs. __________________ I want a rainbow of Jumbos I loved you, so I drew these tides of men into my hands and wrote my will across the sky in stars, To gain you Freedom, the seven-pillared worthy house, that your eyes might be shining for me, When I came. - T.E. Lawrence "Lawrence" of Arabia

Oct 16th, 2008, 11:02 AM	#28
jennycho Member	This guy has guts coming onto this forum and discussing this. Glad it worked out well for you on the letters. __________________ I'm A Purse Lover I'm A Shoe Lover And Louis Vitton Lover

Oct 16th, 2008, 04:13 PM	#29
ShelleyBaby Member Location: Scotland	I wish my ex would have done something like this. I still miss him so much and we ended up saying some awful and hurtful things to each other, and I definitely didn't mean any of them. I still miss him but I know he doesn't care about me anymore.

Oct 27th, 2008, 07:28 PM	#30
mrblond Member	Thank you all for all your kind words. After we split i had time to reflect on a lot of things and even though she split from me, i know i hurt her emotionally and without doubt became the most important relationship i have had to date and because of this there was no way i could go through life without saying sorry to her properly , i knew in my heart she would appreciate this a lot and she did. All i will say is that if you ever feel you need to say sorry to a present or passed loved one, do it, otherwise you will regret not doing it. Never regret the things you do , but regret the things you dont do.