The Age Issue again, the other way around

forever21 · Dec 20th, 2007, 06:47 PM

For girls/women, how much older would you date? Pros/cons/words of caution/war stories?

keya · Dec 20th, 2007, 07:50 PM

I've never dated anyone more than 15 years older than me (when I was 20...) It didn't last very long, and afterwards I decided to stick to guys in their 20's :P I'm now in my mid 20's, and I don't really have an age limit anymore, although I haven't dated anyone over the age of 30 in the past few years (I dated a guy who was 12 years older than me when I was 18..)

edit: oh, and the reason why I wouldn't date anyone that much older is because (supposing that they don't already have children) they usually want things that I, at my age, aren't quite ready for yet. Of course, when you meet the right guy you're suddenly ready for lots of things you didn't think you'd be, so age doesn't *really* matter.

HubbaWubba · Dec 20th, 2007, 09:59 PM

I have no problem dating older men although the few I have that were 10 years or more older than me, wanted to rush relationships. It's like they are running out of time or something. Then the fact that they are divorced with children does nothing for me. I always ask if the children are grown or live with their mothers. I don't want to be a step mommy. Now if they have adorable pets, that's another story. LOL

Speedy · Dec 20th, 2007, 10:04 PM

I'm no help here, the oldest I've dated was 2 years older, with one exception of 10 years older, til I found out he was married. I'm also a bit of a control freak, so younger or same age guys fit me better.

QueenOfDa702 · Dec 20th, 2007, 11:18 PM

My SO now is 7 years older than me, I dont really see any cons due to the age difference in our relationship

. Ive always been attracted to men older than me because of maturity levels. I feel like I have always been more mature for my age, and we all know guys are atleast 4 years behind

huong · Dec 20th, 2007, 11:47 PM

I've dated guys up to 10 years older than me. I prefer to date someone within 4 years of my age because when I date someone older, there are a lot of things from pop culture they can't relate to and that somehow bothers me.

ItalianFashion · Dec 21st, 2007, 02:16 AM

Well I have always dated younger guys. I just never have been asked out by anyone my age. My husband is 5 years younger and there is no problem at all. I did date a guy before him for almost 2 yrs and he was around 9 years younger. Many Many problems. He did not want kids for a while I did. He was always working trying to get ahead at his job so no time for me. I made more money and he resented that. We both also felt awkward around his young friends. We broke up from the stress of all these things. Very nasty breakup. I say stay within 5-6 yrs of your age bracket.

Glamorous_girl · Dec 21st, 2007, 02:19 AM

I don't think it matters if you are at similar places in your life. My parents are 10 years apart, so I consider that to be the norm. I don't think I would go more than 20 in most cases, and under 5 yr difference is usually too young for me. The guy I'm currently dating is 10 years older.

Only thing I would say is you have to be a little careful about is him playing you. Older guys are more experienced so you have to watch out a little bit, and also there is more of a chance of them being married or having kids. So just be aware of that. Generally though I prefer older guys. I kinda like them to already be broken in, so I don't have to do it!

Also sometimes they are more ready for marriage and children than you. Marriage I would be okay with, but I'm in no rush to have children!

Zophie · Dec 21st, 2007, 02:49 AM

I tend to be attracted to older guys. I can't really put an age limit on it, but if the guy was as old as my dad I might have a problem with it. I'm 35 and my dad is 66. I'd say easily up to 20 years older though.

sonya · Dec 21st, 2007, 03:31 AM

10 years, but I haven't dated anyone that much older than me.

itsnicole · Dec 21st, 2007, 12:18 PM

I've always dated guys around my age, but I think my limit would probably be 10 years.

wordpast · Dec 21st, 2007, 12:22 PM

When I was 18 I dated a 32 year old. No war stories he was a sweet guy.

devoted · Dec 21st, 2007, 12:28 PM

I have only dated older men. One had the problem of rushing into things, the currect one is almost 10 years older and his maturity level is that of a 5 year old.

It balances out, I suppose.

The men my age were just used for friendships and hanging out, no dates.

LissiSays · Dec 21st, 2007, 12:46 PM

I think it all depends on the person. My father is 12 years older than my mother. He never wants to go out or do anything. My grandmother would always tell my mother: "Don't marry an old guy." LOL!

I sometimes feel that age is just a number. I know older guys can be more mature... BUT I've met some really mature young guys just as I have met some really immature older guys. I like the idea of dating someone older than me but I would have to make that decision based on the person.

HubbaWubba · Dec 21st, 2007, 12:51 PM

You also have to consider who you are asking. If someone is 20 years old, they aren't going to be dating a 10 year old. LOL

Dec 20th, 2007, 06:47 PM	#1
forever21 Member	The Age Issue again, the other way around For girls/women, how much older would you date? Pros/cons/words of caution/war stories?

Dec 20th, 2007, 07:50 PM	#2
keya Member	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I've never dated anyone more than 15 years older than me (when I was 20...) It didn't last very long, and afterwards I decided to stick to guys in their 20's :P I'm now in my mid 20's, and I don't really have an age limit anymore, although I haven't dated anyone over the age of 30 in the past few years (I dated a guy who was 12 years older than me when I was 18..) edit: oh, and the reason why I wouldn't date anyone that much older is because (supposing that they don't already have children) they usually want things that I, at my age, aren't quite ready for yet. Of course, when you meet the right guy you're suddenly ready for lots of things you didn't think you'd be, so age doesn't really matter. Last edited by keya; Dec 20th, 2007 at 07:53 PM.

Dec 20th, 2007, 09:59 PM	#3
HubbaWubba Sofa King Banned	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I have no problem dating older men although the few I have that were 10 years or more older than me, wanted to rush relationships. It's like they are running out of time or something. Then the fact that they are divorced with children does nothing for me. I always ask if the children are grown or live with their mothers. I don't want to be a step mommy. Now if they have adorable pets, that's another story. LOL

Dec 20th, 2007, 10:04 PM	#4
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I'm no help here, the oldest I've dated was 2 years older, with one exception of 10 years older, til I found out he was married. I'm also a bit of a control freak, so younger or same age guys fit me better.

Dec 20th, 2007, 11:18 PM	#5
QueenOfDa702 Misunderestimated. Location: I've gone RAOKing crazy!	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around My SO now is 7 years older than me, I dont really see any cons due to the age difference in our relationship . Ive always been attracted to men older than me because of maturity levels. I feel like I have always been more mature for my age, and we all know guys are atleast 4 years behind __________________ ~Valeen~ Happy Holidays to all my tPF friends! Click HERE to visit MySpace Please help get justice for Karley! http://forum.purseblog.com/animalici...ey-385571.html

Dec 20th, 2007, 11:47 PM	#6
huong Member	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I've dated guys up to 10 years older than me. I prefer to date someone within 4 years of my age because when I date someone older, there are a lot of things from pop culture they can't relate to and that somehow bothers me.

Dec 21st, 2007, 02:16 AM	#7
ItalianFashion Member Location: Grumolo Italy and NC	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around Well I have always dated younger guys. I just never have been asked out by anyone my age. My husband is 5 years younger and there is no problem at all. I did date a guy before him for almost 2 yrs and he was around 9 years younger. Many Many problems. He did not want kids for a while I did. He was always working trying to get ahead at his job so no time for me. I made more money and he resented that. We both also felt awkward around his young friends. We broke up from the stress of all these things. Very nasty breakup. I say stay within 5-6 yrs of your age bracket.

Dec 21st, 2007, 02:19 AM	#8
Glamorous_girl LVOE Location: Tokyo, Japan & Hanover, PA	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I don't think it matters if you are at similar places in your life. My parents are 10 years apart, so I consider that to be the norm. I don't think I would go more than 20 in most cases, and under 5 yr difference is usually too young for me. The guy I'm currently dating is 10 years older. Only thing I would say is you have to be a little careful about is him playing you. Older guys are more experienced so you have to watch out a little bit, and also there is more of a chance of them being married or having kids. So just be aware of that. Generally though I prefer older guys. I kinda like them to already be broken in, so I don't have to do it! Also sometimes they are more ready for marriage and children than you. Marriage I would be okay with, but I'm in no rush to have children! __________________ Wish list (LV): Trunks and bags mini pochette Inclusion bracelet PM Grey-on it's way Speedy undecided Sunset boulevard amarante Lambskin Rivets Bag black Last edited by Glamorous_girl; Dec 21st, 2007 at 02:22 AM.

Dec 21st, 2007, 02:49 AM	#9
Zophie I <3 my Maltese! Location: New Orleans, LA	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I tend to be attracted to older guys. I can't really put an age limit on it, but if the guy was as old as my dad I might have a problem with it. I'm 35 and my dad is 66. I'd say easily up to 20 years older though. __________________

Dec 21st, 2007, 03:31 AM	#10
sonya Member	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around 10 years, but I haven't dated anyone that much older than me.

Dec 21st, 2007, 12:18 PM	#11
itsnicole Member Location: Miami, FL	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I've always dated guys around my age, but I think my limit would probably be 10 years.

Dec 21st, 2007, 12:22 PM	#12
wordpast Member Location: Never Never Land	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around When I was 18 I dated a 32 year old. No war stories he was a sweet guy. __________________

Dec 21st, 2007, 12:28 PM	#13
devoted Member	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I have only dated older men. One had the problem of rushing into things, the currect one is almost 10 years older and his maturity level is that of a 5 year old. It balances out, I suppose. The men my age were just used for friendships and hanging out, no dates.

Dec 21st, 2007, 12:46 PM	#14
LissiSays I <3 Coach =Þ Location: Miami, Florida	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around I think it all depends on the person. My father is 12 years older than my mother. He never wants to go out or do anything. My grandmother would always tell my mother: "Don't marry an old guy." LOL! I sometimes feel that age is just a number. I know older guys can be more mature... BUT I've met some really mature young guys just as I have met some really immature older guys. I like the idea of dating someone older than me but I would have to make that decision based on the person. __________________ *LiSSi* Don't play games with a girl who can play better!

Dec 21st, 2007, 12:51 PM	#15
HubbaWubba Sofa King Banned	Re: The Age Issue again, the other way around You also have to consider who you are asking. If someone is 20 years old, they aren't going to be dating a 10 year old. LOL