The AGE ISSUE

BlueBunny · Dec 13th, 2007, 02:28 AM

Any of you ladies married or dating a guy younger than you? How do you deal with it? Is it even an issue? Do you feel insecure at times? Does he make you feel insecure? How does it affect your relationship?

Thoughts please. I'm very, very curious.

Thank you!

Jill · Dec 13th, 2007, 03:15 AM

well.............in all honesty.................age DOES matter in some cases.
u can feel and see the gaps when u date someone younger.The immaturity especially.Say u r in your late 30's and u date someone in their early 20's...eh hem.
Well..lets b honest..u will have a blast at first(feel younger...etc)....but once that wears off ,u will see the gaps I talk of.
Age in most cases=Life experience.
u cant teach someone maturity,it only comes with experience and time.AND THAT usually is what kills that type of relationship.
Im NOT saying they are all like that.IM just saying it from my own personal experience.

madamefifi · Dec 13th, 2007, 03:34 AM

I dated a guy once who was, golly, 22, when I was 34. The ONLY thing we had in common was sex. Outside the bedroom we couldn't relate to eachother at all. needless to say it didn't last long. On the other hand my DH is 31/2 years younger than me and it doesn't make any differnce at all. Jill hit the nail on the head, it all comes down to maturity.

Jill · Dec 13th, 2007, 03:38 AM

sigh....yep...sex may be great with a younger man.....LOL.....but....u need more than that..errr...sometimes(!?!)...ROFLMAO!!!!!

redney · Dec 13th, 2007, 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Jill

sigh....yep...sex may be great with a younger man.....LOL.....but....u need more than that..errr...sometimes(!?!)...ROFLMAO!!!!!

a friend of mine said the same thing...she was 32, her man was 22...outside of sex they had NOTHING in common. she brought him to my/BF's house (me and my BF were 32 at the time too) for dinner once, her guy totally clammed up and was clearly uncomfortable, as was she for him. Believe me, me and BF are def. not the old farts at all...so it was totally weird.

chipmunk-pnw · Dec 13th, 2007, 06:12 AM

I've had 3 boyfriends who were younger than me. I look young for my age so I seem to attract younger men! I don't feel it's an issue unless he's 10 yrs younger, he'll be like my kid brother! Eek!

Speedy · Dec 13th, 2007, 07:11 AM

Can't relate, DH is only 2 years younger than me. I DID date a guy who was 20 when I was 28, and yeah, other than sex we had nothing in common.

decocritter · Dec 13th, 2007, 07:41 AM

It just depends on the 2 people involved. 5 years either way hardly makes a difference unless you are 15 or 85.

When I was young, I liked guys to be at lest 5-15 years older. Now that I am older, I like guys slightly younger. Younger guys seem to have more interests than just staying home watching football while you cook dinner.

Younger guys like to go out more, and seem to have better grasp of equality in relationships, instead of the old roles of previous generations. I also like to go out and listen to music, which most guys my age do not.

Now that I am 49, I can't imagine dating someone 65. Damn, that is old....Damn I am getting old.

helium · Dec 13th, 2007, 09:09 AM

I'd say if you're the type who really cares about what others think, then it's a problem. My boyfriend is... get ready for this... 6 months younger than me, and he's already getting those 'ooh older women hmmm??' jokes! I mean mind you, they're all jokes, but in my eyes if an 'older woman' is something that's worth mentioning, even 6 months older, then yeah i'd say if it was a REAL relationship in that situation it would be a problem.

Then there's the whole having things in common thing, I don't believe for a minute that opposites attract. To me opposites attract for three months and then fall apart (or at least my friend's relationship did). I mean if you don't have the same base attitudes and values towards things, you're just not going to get along. And generations do play a big role in forming your attitudes and values.

By the way, boyfriend and I are 18 years old, so our friends are a little immature in case you're wondering 'who on earth would even mention that to people 6 months apart?!'. Ah, 18 year old girls do

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keya · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:11 PM

when I was about to hit 21 I dated a guy who had just turned 18, and although it was less than three years I did notice the age difference. Now the guy is 22 and the gap seems to have closed

compulsivepurse · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:22 PM

What is the age differences and the ages? If the woman is 35 and the man is 28, for instance, I don't see a problem (as long as the man isn't, say, living with his parents). If you are 28 and the man is 22 and still in college I can see it being a problem, simply for the maturity level. A lot of it depends on if you are in the same stage of life (living on your own, holding down jobs, etc.)

HubbaWubba · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:26 PM

I have always dated younger guys. Not on purpose, it just always works out that way. I look a lot younger than I really am so that might be why. This past summer I was on a roll LOL. I went out with someone who was 15 years younger than me. I would drop him off at the school bus in the morning. Kidding.

One of my friends joked with me asking if he got a permission slip from his mother to stay over my house.

In all seriousness, while young guys are fun to hang out with, I don't know if I could get serious with someone more than 5 years younger than me. I don't have any kids and I don't want to replace someones mother.

dusty paws · Dec 13th, 2007, 12:55 PM

BF is almost a year to the day younger than me. Age has never been an issue with us - except for now that I'm suddenly a year older and think '26 would be nice to get married....'

seahorseinstripes · Dec 13th, 2007, 01:32 PM

my ex is a year younger than me and my current bf is 3 years younger than me. it's not on purpose, we just happen to like each other.
but both of them looks older than me and they're also more mature than me in thinking sometimes

holly di · Dec 13th, 2007, 01:56 PM

DH is 10 years older than me! When we first started dating I could tell there was a big gap in our ages, he had been out of college for years, had started his career,etc, and I was just really getting started in life. But, now I after 6 years together I notice nothing!!

Dec 13th, 2007, 02:28 AM	#1
BlueBunny Member	The AGE ISSUE Any of you ladies married or dating a guy younger than you? How do you deal with it? Is it even an issue? Do you feel insecure at times? Does he make you feel insecure? How does it affect your relationship? Thoughts please. I'm very, very curious. Thank you! __________________ "All those memories lost in time.....like teardrops, in the rain"

Dec 13th, 2007, 03:34 AM	#3
madamefifi cat hoarder Location: virginia	Re: The AGE ISSUE I dated a guy once who was, golly, 22, when I was 34. The ONLY thing we had in common was sex. Outside the bedroom we couldn't relate to eachother at all. needless to say it didn't last long. On the other hand my DH is 31/2 years younger than me and it doesn't make any differnce at all. Jill hit the nail on the head, it all comes down to maturity. __________________ Happiness is a home with at least one cat. On a complete EVERYTHING ban until after Christmas!!!! http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/c...faces?siteId=3

Dec 13th, 2007, 06:12 AM	#6
chipmunk-pnw ^.^ Location: USA	Re: The AGE ISSUE I've had 3 boyfriends who were younger than me. I look young for my age so I seem to attract younger men! I don't feel it's an issue unless he's 10 yrs younger, he'll be like my kid brother! Eek!

Dec 13th, 2007, 07:11 AM	#7
Speedy Sofa King Banned Location: N. California	Re: The AGE ISSUE Can't relate, DH is only 2 years younger than me. I DID date a guy who was 20 when I was 28, and yeah, other than sex we had nothing in common.

Dec 13th, 2007, 07:41 AM	#8
decocritter Member	Re: The AGE ISSUE It just depends on the 2 people involved. 5 years either way hardly makes a difference unless you are 15 or 85. When I was young, I liked guys to be at lest 5-15 years older. Now that I am older, I like guys slightly younger. Younger guys seem to have more interests than just staying home watching football while you cook dinner. Younger guys like to go out more, and seem to have better grasp of equality in relationships, instead of the old roles of previous generations. I also like to go out and listen to music, which most guys my age do not. Now that I am 49, I can't imagine dating someone 65. Damn, that is old....Damn I am getting old. __________________ Boots

Dec 13th, 2007, 03:15 AM	#2
Jill	Re: The AGE ISSUE well.............in all honesty.................age DOES matter in some cases. u can feel and see the gaps when u date someone younger.The immaturity especially.Say u r in your late 30's and u date someone in their early 20's...eh hem. Well..lets b honest..u will have a blast at first(feel younger...etc)....but once that wears off ,u will see the gaps I talk of. Age in most cases=Life experience. u cant teach someone maturity,it only comes with experience and time.AND THAT usually is what kills that type of relationship. Im NOT saying they are all like that.IM just saying it from my own personal experience.

Dec 13th, 2007, 03:38 AM	#4
Jill	Re: The AGE ISSUE sigh....yep...sex may be great with a younger man.....LOL.....but....u need more than that..errr...sometimes(!?!)...ROFLMAO!!!!!

Dec 13th, 2007, 09:09 AM	#9
helium Member	Re: The AGE ISSUE I'd say if you're the type who really cares about what others think, then it's a problem. My boyfriend is... get ready for this... 6 months younger than me, and he's already getting those 'ooh older women hmmm??' jokes! I mean mind you, they're all jokes, but in my eyes if an 'older woman' is something that's worth mentioning, even 6 months older, then yeah i'd say if it was a REAL relationship in that situation it would be a problem. Then there's the whole having things in common thing, I don't believe for a minute that opposites attract. To me opposites attract for three months and then fall apart (or at least my friend's relationship did). I mean if you don't have the same base attitudes and values towards things, you're just not going to get along. And generations do play a big role in forming your attitudes and values. By the way, boyfriend and I are 18 years old, so our friends are a little immature in case you're wondering 'who on earth would even mention that to people 6 months apart?!'. Ah, 18 year old girls do .

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:11 PM	#10
keya Member	Re: The AGE ISSUE when I was about to hit 21 I dated a guy who had just turned 18, and although it was less than three years I did notice the age difference. Now the guy is 22 and the gap seems to have closed

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:22 PM	#11
compulsivepurse Member	Re: The AGE ISSUE What is the age differences and the ages? If the woman is 35 and the man is 28, for instance, I don't see a problem (as long as the man isn't, say, living with his parents). If you are 28 and the man is 22 and still in college I can see it being a problem, simply for the maturity level. A lot of it depends on if you are in the same stage of life (living on your own, holding down jobs, etc.)

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:26 PM	#12
HubbaWubba Sofa King Banned	Re: The AGE ISSUE I have always dated younger guys. Not on purpose, it just always works out that way. I look a lot younger than I really am so that might be why. This past summer I was on a roll LOL. I went out with someone who was 15 years younger than me. I would drop him off at the school bus in the morning. Kidding. One of my friends joked with me asking if he got a permission slip from his mother to stay over my house. In all seriousness, while young guys are fun to hang out with, I don't know if I could get serious with someone more than 5 years younger than me. I don't have any kids and I don't want to replace someones mother.

Dec 13th, 2007, 12:55 PM	#13
dusty paws Vuitton on the brain Location: RAOKville!	Re: The AGE ISSUE BF is almost a year to the day younger than me. Age has never been an issue with us - except for now that I'm suddenly a year older and think '26 would be nice to get married....' __________________ laura's teeny wishlist: [] mono french purse [] trevi pm [] seleya pm [] mono cles Laura and my babies: http://www.dustypaws.com My blog: http://makeupandpearls.blogspot.com/

Dec 13th, 2007, 01:32 PM	#14
seahorseinstripes bag greed bug Location: summer land	Re: The AGE ISSUE my ex is a year younger than me and my current bf is 3 years younger than me. it's not on purpose, we just happen to like each other. but both of them looks older than me and they're also more mature than me in thinking sometimes __________________ WISH LIST Louis Vuitton Brown Watercolor Speedy 35 . Hermès Kelly DREAMING OF YSL Muse Two Croc . YSL Muse Croc . Chanel Biarritz Croc http://bagcraze.blogspot.com/ http://charcoalholic.blogspot.com/

Dec 13th, 2007, 01:56 PM	#15
holly di Member Location: little rock, arkansas	Re: The AGE ISSUE DH is 10 years older than me! When we first started dating I could tell there was a big gap in our ages, he had been out of college for years, had started his career,etc, and I was just really getting started in life. But, now I after 6 years together I notice nothing!! __________________ It's a boy!!!!!!!