Texting with guys...

MJDaisy · Oct 6th, 2008, 01:41 AM

I kind of have a thing for a guy that I met on Friday night. I text him today and he text me back a couple of times and then I text him something and he never responded. It wasn't a question but it was something that could have been responded to...I am kind of worried about texting him again, but I am an overanalyzer. would it be weird to text him again later in the week?

killerstrawbery · Oct 6th, 2008, 01:46 AM

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Originally Posted by MJDaisy

I kind of have a thing for a guy that I met on Friday night. I text him today and he text me back a couple of times and then I text him something and he never responded. It wasn't a question but it was something that could have been responded to...I am kind of worried about texting him again, but I am an overanalyzer. would it be weird to text him again later in the week?

do not text him, let him come to you

bisousx · Oct 6th, 2008, 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by killerstrawbery

do not text him, let him come to you

ita.

amber11 · Oct 6th, 2008, 04:56 AM

yea if he wants to talk to you he'll text you

aliburke84 · Oct 6th, 2008, 10:39 AM

agreed. he'll come to you if he wants to talk

also though, try not to over analyze as we girls all do. it can ruin your day and any possibility of anything further happening.

sometimes i receive texts from people and just respond to it mentally, like "ah so funny" or "ha, good point" then think nothing else of it and go about my day. the person later might say "um did you get my text" and im just like "ah crap, sorry i didnt respond, but i did get it"

amanda · Oct 6th, 2008, 04:54 PM

This kind of strategizing about when and if to contact a guy is kind of pointless, imo. If you want to text him, text him. If he can't handle two texts in one week from the same girl, he's probably kind of a douche. If you'd rather look disinterested, don't text him, but don't obsess about why he's not texting you. Because then you're playing whatever game that you think he might be playing, and you're just as much at fault.

BagLadie · Oct 6th, 2008, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by aliburke84

agreed. he'll come to you if he wants to talk

also though, try not to over analyze as we girls all do. it can ruin your day and any possibility of anything further happening.

sometimes i receive texts from people and just respond to it mentally, like "ah so funny" or "ha, good point" then think nothing else of it and go about my day. the person later might say "um did you get my text" and im just like "ah crap, sorry i didnt respond, but i did get it"

Yep I have been known to overanalyze a text too. It can be hellish!

Jahpson · Oct 6th, 2008, 05:29 PM

LOL! call him and ask him where is his response and then hang up waiting for the answer. kiddin

he probably doesnt want to seem like a bugger so he is probably trying to keep cool and wait a couple of days to respond.

cheburashka · Oct 6th, 2008, 05:37 PM

I'm probably a queen of overanalyzing and used to stress about it so much, I'd get severe anxiety and start feeling sick just thinking about it. Then I met my bf who couldn't care less about all the "keep cool' games and just texted me because he wanted to hear from me and missed me. I would say if it's meant to be it's going to happen, don't text him first, let me approach you like the others suggested.

MJDaisy · Oct 6th, 2008, 10:09 PM

thanks for the responses! i did text him...i took amanda's advice lol but yeahh idk i guess we will see if anything ever comes from it. i am STILL the queen of overanalyzing.

amanda · Oct 6th, 2008, 10:49 PM

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thanks for the responses! i did text him...i took amanda's advice lol but yeahh idk i guess we will see if anything ever comes from it. i am STILL the queen of overanalyzing.

hey, sometimes it'll work out and sometimes it won't. but i guarantee that NOT texting him isn't going to make him like you any more than he already does, so i think the risks of two text messages in one week are sort of nonexistent. i mean, obviously don't continue texting if you don't hear from him, but i'd seriously doubt that a message or two is going to dissuade someone that wants to get to know you. i've been in your situation plenty of times before, so i know it's super irritating, but try not to get caught up in whatever game you think he might be playing!

cllover · Oct 6th, 2008, 11:31 PM

ITA with amanda. Of course, I'm the queen of overanalyzing myself! So easier said than done. Sometimes I think that we women analyze everything, and guys live from moment to moment - no offense, dudes!

vuittonGirl · Oct 6th, 2008, 11:58 PM

from my experience, i think it's best to not over analyze things. 'cuz when you do, it's all in your head. if u text him and he hasn't replied... chances are: he'll text again that day or in the next day (if he likes u)
I believe that guys dont think the same way we do. :)

blue996 · Oct 7th, 2008, 12:31 AM

I am a total over analyzer. I have been dating someone for almost three months and only now will I actually call him (up to this point he has done about 95% of the calling). Even when I do it I feel "needy" even though I am sure he doesn't give it a second thought. After all he probably gets tired of calling me all the time. See I am over analyzing again...lol.

In all seriousness if a guy gets freaked out because you texted him two times in a row then move on. I agree that men will pursue a girl they like (how many of us have tried in vain to get a guy to "like us") but we need to give a bit too. I feel a problem arises when women are doing all the chasing. It can be really frustrating to sit back and wait though. It still drives me crazy at times...lol.

And I agree with vuittonGirl...men just do not think the way we do.

ChanelMommy · Oct 7th, 2008, 01:00 AM

ITA with Amanda..well said!!

Oct 6th, 2008, 01:41 AM	#1
MJDaisy "I'm Chuck Bass" Location: Planet Zetor	Texting with guys... I kind of have a thing for a guy that I met on Friday night. I text him today and he text me back a couple of times and then I text him something and he never responded. It wasn't a question but it was something that could have been responded to...I am kind of worried about texting him again, but I am an overanalyzer. would it be weird to text him again later in the week? __________________ enjoying my lovelies

Oct 6th, 2008, 10:39 AM	#5
aliburke84 Member Location: JC/NYC	agreed. he'll come to you if he wants to talk also though, try not to over analyze as we girls all do. it can ruin your day and any possibility of anything further happening. sometimes i receive texts from people and just respond to it mentally, like "ah so funny" or "ha, good point" then think nothing else of it and go about my day. the person later might say "um did you get my text" and im just like "ah crap, sorry i didnt respond, but i did get it" __________________

Oct 6th, 2008, 04:54 PM	#6
amanda I Bleed Georgia Red Location: Athens, GA	This kind of strategizing about when and if to contact a guy is kind of pointless, imo. If you want to text him, text him. If he can't handle two texts in one week from the same girl, he's probably kind of a douche. If you'd rather look disinterested, don't text him, but don't obsess about why he's not texting you. Because then you're playing whatever game that you think he might be playing, and you're just as much at fault. __________________ PROUD TO BE A UNIVERSITY OF GEORGIA BULLDOG! Read my blog: http://graduationday.wordpress.com

Oct 6th, 2008, 05:29 PM	#8
Jahpson Member Location: The Playground	LOL! call him and ask him where is his response and then hang up waiting for the answer. kiddin he probably doesnt want to seem like a bugger so he is probably trying to keep cool and wait a couple of days to respond. __________________ Amazingly Sophisticated Happy Holidays to all my TPF friends!

Oct 6th, 2008, 05:37 PM	#9
cheburashka Member	I'm probably a queen of overanalyzing and used to stress about it so much, I'd get severe anxiety and start feeling sick just thinking about it. Then I met my bf who couldn't care less about all the "keep cool' games and just texted me because he wanted to hear from me and missed me. I would say if it's meant to be it's going to happen, don't text him first, let me approach you like the others suggested. __________________

Oct 6th, 2008, 04:56 AM	#4
amber11 Member	yea if he wants to talk to you he'll text you

Oct 6th, 2008, 10:09 PM	#10
MJDaisy "I'm Chuck Bass" Location: Planet Zetor	thanks for the responses! i did text him...i took amanda's advice lol but yeahh idk i guess we will see if anything ever comes from it. i am STILL the queen of overanalyzing. __________________ enjoying my lovelies

Oct 6th, 2008, 11:31 PM	#12
cllover Intervention needed Location: the south	ITA with amanda. Of course, I'm the queen of overanalyzing myself! So easier said than done. Sometimes I think that we women analyze everything, and guys live from moment to moment - no offense, dudes! __________________ Dreaming of: Lady Gres, plum suede, 35.5 EB Declics 35.5

Oct 6th, 2008, 11:58 PM	#13
vuittonGirl Member	from my experience, i think it's best to not over analyze things. 'cuz when you do, it's all in your head. if u text him and he hasn't replied... chances are: he'll text again that day or in the next day (if he likes u) I believe that guys dont think the same way we do. :) __________________

Oct 7th, 2008, 12:31 AM	#14
blue996 Member Location: Canada	I am a total over analyzer. I have been dating someone for almost three months and only now will I actually call him (up to this point he has done about 95% of the calling). Even when I do it I feel "needy" even though I am sure he doesn't give it a second thought. After all he probably gets tired of calling me all the time. See I am over analyzing again...lol. In all seriousness if a guy gets freaked out because you texted him two times in a row then move on. I agree that men will pursue a girl they like (how many of us have tried in vain to get a guy to "like us") but we need to give a bit too. I feel a problem arises when women are doing all the chasing. It can be really frustrating to sit back and wait though. It still drives me crazy at times...lol. And I agree with vuittonGirl...men just do not think the way we do. __________________ Last edited by blue996; Oct 7th, 2008 at 12:36 AM.

Oct 7th, 2008, 01:00 AM	#15
ChanelMommy Member	ITA with Amanda..well said!! __________________